Not feeling very attractive latley :(

Confidence is the most attractive thing a woman can wear! When you start feeling good again, it will show on your face. Focus on change. Little switches in your food choices (i.e. opt for the lettuce wrap instead of the tortilla, carrots instead of chips, etc.) and start small with getting back in the gym again. Aim for 3 days a week of cardio, then increase after two weeks. You will reach your goal and you will feel pretty again! Everyone gets disheartened sometimes. For example, I have to get reconstructive surgery on my right foot (already had it on my left and it leaves me almost crippled...) which was my "compensation" foot and helped me achieve leg pressing almost three times my body weight. Now, I can barely press 210 lbs. It makes me frustrated and most definitely comes with a loss of confidence. But trust in yourself and know that you can do it. You will get there.

I'm the same. I often feel so low about myself I'd rather just sink into the couch until I turn to goo than do anything about it. But just realize that 30lbs is way easier to lose than 50, and 70. I wish I'd made changes when I had less to lose. Don't live with regret for another day.

Start doing an activity you like, or at LEAST can tolerate. My doctor said fit or not, 30 minutes most days of the week is required for human health. So I picked 3 days to start, since I'm a newbie and in a few weeks it will be 4. Eating habits change slowly for me food is a comfort so my changes are true lifestyle changes. I'm not cutting any food groups this time.

Sit down and talk with your partner. Using "I feel... When you... Because...." statements. It seems boxy and weird at first but it's the best way to phrase how his comments hurt your feelings. My partner never says I need to lose weight he knows I know and asks me how he can help. Sometimes he can't, it had ti come from. Me that I wanted to exercise more. But he could help by making sure we wake up on time in the morning because he's easier to wake than I am. I also asked that we change our dinner a bit to include many many more veggies instead of huge plates of pasta or fried fish and potatoes. So 3-4 nights a week we have a big salad before we even dish up our main dish to lower the amount we serve ourselves.

Also try to figure out why you've gained and he hasn't, what are you doing on your own? I used to stop and buy taco bell before going home to cook dinner. I pack a snack now, and I don't ever spontaneously go to fast food anymore. We discuss and plan any eating out options, so it's not a spur of the moment decision. Especially if he can eat fast food but you're not able to without gaining, politely make those changes. So as him to eat it for his lunch instead of making it a group dinner. This is going to be a team effort to make changes.

But him making comments that hurt your feelings is unacceptable, and it's very sad you feel that he finds you unattractive. My partner has always been my #1 supporter, the one who sees my beauty when I can't. Perhaps telling him how his words impact you will help him decide to be more supportive and less critical.

He is concerned about you. Can you give him some suggestions of concrete things he can say or do to support you? Like walking with you, making a salad or veggies for dinner, etc.