Gastric Sleeve Surgery

I would suggest finding another outlet to cope with your stress. Can someone relieve you of your duties a couple of times a week for an hour or so? If so, I would vote for finding a yoga class. Great stress reliever. You can, of course, do yoga at home, but it might be best to be out of the house so your mind can fully relax.

I would also advise you to log all your calories. It is easy sometimes to think you are "dieting" by drinking a shake but you make up the calories elsewhere. Otherwise, I agree with the other posts.

Stress is the absolute worse condition, to be stressed because of your DH's medical problems is taxing on you in so many ways.
I don't know if what I am suggesting is a good idea or not, it may be too extreme.....but, can you hang several pictures of yourself as you appeared when you were the MOST heavy , in your range of vision. The sight of your former body, overweight and with major issues, may help you to focus enough on what is best for you.

Many ppl cheat the Bypass by consuming sweets in liquid form, not keeping protein numbers up and not exercising, avoid all of this by loving yourself now ..... GL, you're capable of doing this.

I have to second and third so many of these suggestions. I was a caregiver from age 30-37 for two ailing in-laws (alzheimers and cancer) and the stress is so difficult! I cannot say enough how important it is for you to get some respite once in awhile. Take yourself to get your nails done once a week, a massage, anything to get away for a short time so you can take a deep breath. We did not do this and your health will suffer for it. Maybe a bubble bath when your hubby is sleeping? Someone posted on another thread "The Eight Traits of Emotional Hunger." I HIGHLY recommend printing this out and taping it to one of your kitchen cupboards. When you want to eat, read it. See what kind of hunger you're really experiencing. It will help make you aware of why your eating and if you determine it to be emotional at that moment then you can make a choice to do something healthier. Drink a large glass of water, go outside in the sunshine, read a book, sew, anything.

My heart feels for you. I so remember those days of caregiving. Be kind to yourself. I hope you have someone close to you (a friend, family member, child) that you can just talk to you when you need to. My .02 on the wine is that it will really make things harder emotionally in the long run (not to mention weight). You might consider taking extra B, C and D vitamins right now. They will help boost your immune system (C), give you increased energy and help your manage stress (B's), and help your mood (D3). Just doing those things may help with your stress level enough that you don't want or need the wine as much to relax (because ultimately, that is likely what it does for you).

(((hugs))) Hang in there!

My fiance is a caregiver for his elderly parent and gets a massage twice a month. He deserves it!

Also do keep up the exercise at lunch time, and maybe try to work some yoga in there as well.

Maybe try a pouch reset