Stress stress stress!!

brb_2013 wrote: »

When stress makes your meal plan look like a mountain of work

That's the beautiful thing: it never does. I consider just about everything I eat as some form of dessert and it barely takes any time to make.

If you can find healthy, quick versions of all your cravings, you're set for life.

brb_2013 wrote: »

ForeverSunshine09 wrote: »

I cook for myself and my husband I would say 95% of the time but, I do have fend for yourself nights as well usually his day off because he is an adult and can cook and I hate cooking.

I'd just feel bad, I think the only thing in the house is rice and the salmon I'm cooking. Maybe one package of top Ramen but I'd feel obligated to get them something to eat even if I'm chosing to skip it myself.

So are these other adults room mates? Adult children?

Just wondering why they can't buy/make their own food.

For me that might be fend for yourself night, but there are plenty of groceries about....sandwiches, eggs and toast, cereal and milk, can of soup, bean burritos, quesadilla/grilled cheese, and, yes, ramen because the two other people here both like it.

Sometimes I may just have a sandwich or cereal...the former has been pretty frequent lately.

Not that I never cook...homemade meatloaf, Italian wedding soup, and chicken stir fry are all in the fridge too.

LazSommer wrote: »

brb_2013 wrote: »

LazSommer wrote: »

I just do it. It usually isn't as bad as I think it is.

Guess today I'm just feeling a little sick of it always being my job. But I also can't expect those who have never cooked for themselves to be able to put together an edible salmon dish...

If only it was a simple dinner tonight! And of course we have nothing else in the kitchen right now.

Tell them they are on their own tomorrow. I'm the head chef in the house, and it's perfectly acceptable to throw your hands in the air some days as long as you're not sabotaging your goals.

Yep! We have fend-for-yourself dinners at my house a couple times a month. My husband and 11-year-old son find something to eat. I make myself something that fits in my goals for the day.

brb_2013 wrote: »

ForeverSunshine09 wrote: »

I cook for myself and my husband I would say 95% of the time but, I do have fend for yourself nights as well usually his day off because he is an adult and can cook and I hate cooking.

I'd just feel bad, I think the only thing in the house is rice and the salmon I'm cooking. Maybe one package of top Ramen but I'd feel obligated to get them something to eat even if I'm chosing to skip it myself.

I'd work on getting rid of this "obligated" feeling ASAP. You're setting a bad precedent for what will hopefully be a long, happy marriage. You can't and shouldn't do everything yourself. What to do to relieve stress? DELEGATE. It's nice to want to take care of your fiance and his friend but your first obligation is to yourself. They need to learn to take care of themselves. In the long run you will all be happier.

I'm not criticizing or bashing you. Just speaking from experience. Take time for yourself because if you wait for someone to give it to you it will never happen.

brb_2013 wrote: »

Oy- my work is a frustrating difficult mess right now, planning my wedding, the house is a mess, I know none of my pans are clean (I do all the cooking must I really clean too? I live with TWO other adults....) and well, dinner won't cook itself.

I gotta say I'm super tempted to grab a pizza, hand it over to them and go out for a walk by myself! Then maybe a bath, but its an unseasonably warm day here. Wish I had a beach!


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When stress makes your meal plan and responsibilities look like a mountain of work, what's your strategy?

Keep protein shakes at your work just in case

Um... Tell them to get off their duffs and do dishes? If they are eating the food they should share some of the responsibility, either helping to prepare or cleaning up.