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ari7l
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Im 5'4 and I weigh 52KG, i lost weight the healthy way and do not feel like i look skinny, yet people keep saying i look like i smoke ( i dont smoke) and they say i look sick n horrible. It really makes me feel bad. First they call you fat, then they call u a druggie if u lose it
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Some people just can't say anything nice. Just ignore. Hugs8
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Ignore the haters and be proud of your accomplishments. Your self worth comes from YOU, not other people. They're jealous.9
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Associate with higher quality people, OP.13
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Ignore them.
My aunt has been trying to convince the rest of my family I'm anorexic and too thin since I was around 180 lbs (5'4.5" here). Even my mom rolls here eyes at this.
No my mom has recently told me I don't need to lose anymore weight. I know she is saying it more out of concern then anything. She thinks I look great were I'm at (trend weight 121.7 lbs) and thinks that losing any more might risk the muscle mass I have.1 -
Hi there. Can't say much about the unkind comments--we're always vulnerable to the words of others no matter our choices. We do get to decide whose words hold weight with us, though (no pun intended). Those who love us can still be hurtful, especially if they've got their own mess to deal with and would rather focus on us than themselves. Losing weight doesn't magically equip us with emotional fortitude, though--we have to learn how to live with new bodies and new experiences like yours.
I wonder how YOU feel about how you look? Do you feel strong and powerful? Flabby? How do you incorporate exercise into your new, less-heavy life? I wonder if strength training to build up your muscle and develop your form could help you feel stronger and give shape to the less-fat but not necessarily "fit-looking" body that many fat reducers end up with at first.
Ultimately, if YOU feel strong, powerful, happy, and well within, you're well positioned for th next reduction plan: cutting back on the people who use their words to hurt or who refuse to find ways to champion your successes.9 -
When they ask if you smoke, just deliberately misunderstand and say you think you look smoking since you lost the weight too. The more obnoxious they get the dumber you get, until they get frustrated and quit.12
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Im 5'4 and I weigh 52KG, i lost weight the healthy way and do not feel like i look skinny, yet people keep saying i look like i smoke ( i dont smoke) and they say i look sick n horrible. It really makes me feel bad. First they call you fat, then they call u a druggie if u lose it
Tell them to *kitten* off!!5 -
I agree it is about how you feel about you. Sometimes it takes a while for people to adjust to your new appearance--a new normal. If they met you for the first time they probably wouldn't say anything. Having said all that, consider what those who know you best say. It is possible that you are too thin--how many of us are blinded by our own biases when we look in the mirror? Honest feedback from someone who loves you should not be dismissed out of hand. Perhaps, see a physician and get a professional, objective assessment of your current "state".2
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It is none of their business so you do not even have to respond. The heck with them. 2 -
Haters gonna hate
Potatoes gonna potat
They are likely jealous and would gladly weigh the same as you but aren't capable of putting the effort in, so they have to drag you down.8 -
Take pride in your weight loss just make sure that it is healthy weight loss. I'm not sure but I think u should be weighing more with your height. Just check it out.1
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You are at a low weight for your height so its likely those commenting are worried for your health....1
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There's an easy fix to your issue.
Stop hanging around with utter fools...2 -
Or the head tilt and say "I don't understand, can you please repeat". If you say that enough they will get the point. Or in my case, say "Thank You". That always throw people off, they are really trying to insult you on the low.makingmark wrote: »When they ask if you smoke, just deliberately misunderstand and say you think you look smoking since you lost the weight too. The more obnoxious they get the dumber you get, until they get frustrated and quit.
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Ask them what a smoker looks like. I know lots of fat, rosy cheeked smokers -- high blood pressure makes their faces red.
I don't believe in examining ourselves in the mirror for flabby bits or whatever other flaws we might find. Anyone who has lost considerable weight will have a little loose skin here and there, and since I have a naturally thin face it can look a little haggard after weight loss. Pfft. If I know that number on the scale is what's best for me, then I just focus on that and ignore everything else.
We'll never be perfect enough for the people who need to criticize others so they can feel better about themselves, and spare me from the fitness "experts," who think they have a work-out routine that will magically turn me into a mesomorph. I could lift weights three hours a day and still not have defined muscles.0 -
How much weight did you lose? Was it too fast and had people concerned something might be wrong? Are people around you very overweight? Your weight sounds perfect for your height.0
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This is very common and it happens to most of us at some point. Part of it is that people just aren't used to seeing the new you and it's hard to reconcile the old/new. But a lot of times it's jealousy/insecurity on the part of the commenter. Don't let them get you down and realize it's about their own issues, and not really about you .2
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Im 5'4 and I weigh 52KG, i lost weight the healthy way and do not feel like i look skinny, yet people keep saying i look like i smoke ( i dont smoke) and they say i look sick n horrible. It really makes me feel bad. First they call you fat, then they call u a druggie if u lose it
Welcome to the weight loss club. I went from being called fat all my life, laughed at in the gym when I first started going, to being told I looked like my head was to big for my body, that I looked unhealthy. I started doing bulk and cut cycles, been doing this for 4 years now. People tell me now that I look muscular but I still see a fat guy when I look in the mirror everyday. IDK if this will ever change... I kind of hope it does one day.
Anyways tell them to *kitten* off, I had someone comment at work and just informed them how inappropriate it is to comment on someones weight and that they should be more professional in the work environment.
Get ready that if you decide to do bulk and cutting cycles, while bulking (cause no one gets it!) people will ask you why you stopped working out, then when you cut people ask you if you take steroids cause you've added muscle.... it never ends. Just keep plugging away at your goals1 -
I lost just 20-some pounds & people told me to stop.
-Do what's best for you, but don't over do.2 -
it's your body, your life, your decisions, what do you care what other people think? And congrats on your weight loss1
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Congratulations on your accomplishment! Not sure why people would feel they should be rude, that doesn't make any sense. Maybe they are jealous, maybe they are mean, maybe you look odd to them because they are used to seeing you fat, and they are just rude enough that they can't keep it to themselves.
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Crabs in a bucket mentality. If you feel good, keep it up.2
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Crabs in a bucket mentality. If you feel good, keep it up.
Everyday. Spoke w/my MIL about a week ago. She says how "You are looking good", then follows up right away with the "concern" that I may be doing something unsafe.
Fact is she likes her junk food and doesn't want to give it up, but blames her weight on her age. It would be nice if she could just accept that she is happy as she is. I'm not going to hold my breath.1 -
Im 5'4 and I weigh 52KG, i lost weight the healthy way and do not feel like i look skinny, yet people keep saying i look like i smoke ( i dont smoke) and they say i look sick n horrible. It really makes me feel bad. First they call you fat, then they call u a druggie if u lose it
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Im 5'4 and I weigh 52KG, i lost weight the healthy way and do not feel like i look skinny, yet people keep saying i look like i smoke ( i dont smoke) and they say i look sick n horrible. It really makes me feel bad. First they call you fat, then they call u a druggie if u lose it
Are the haters overweight?
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