Please help

ryleigh0120 wrote: »

I started my diet 3 weeks ago today, eating 1200 calories and eating pretty healthy. The first week I lost 7 pounds! But week 2 and 3 I I've only lost 3.. I don't understand. It is making me become discouraged and makes me want to give up like I'm doing all this work for nothing.

You're losing. What is there to be mad about?

If anything, you may be losing too quickly. How much do you have to lose total?

RobD520 wrote: »

You are about to get a flurry of messages that will tell you your expectations are unrealistic.

Much of the first week loss is water. You cannot expect to maintain that. A healthy rate of weight loss is around 1-2 pounds per/week depending on how much a person needs to lose. Losing faster than that will likely result in your losing muscle and not fat. If you continue to lose at the 3 pounds/week rate you should increase your calories ~500 per/day or more.

Losing more slowly has more benefits than just health. Your program will be easier to follow; so you will be more likely to stick with it. You diet will also be closer to what your maintenance diet is going to be, helping you to develop good habit.

Good luck.

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Change your mindset. Even 3lbs a week is quite a lot, probably a bit over what you should aim for - and will slow down. It's going to go to 2lbs a week, then 1lb a week, then 0.5. And that's fine! Weight loss slows the more you lose. You should aim to lose a little less to preserve muscle and minimise loose skin.

I believe she means she lost a total of 3 pounds for week 2 & 3. One and a half pounds a week is fantastic progress. You should be proud of your success. Keep it up!

So you are 3 weeks in and already down 10lbs? What's wrong with that? Your expectations are too high.

You won't lose massive amounts every week and you might have weeks that you lose nothing and that's normal.

tiffanifair wrote: »

diannethegeek wrote: »

ryleigh0120 wrote: »

Thank you for for those whose replies replies were helpful and positive. I'm new to this and trying to do this the right way. I am extremely proud of of those 10 lbs I was just not sure why it had had slowed down between week 2 and 3-but thank you for the advice and educating me in what is normal. Also, for those of you negative Nancy's, this should be a positive forum. .. If you can't say something nice don't say it at all.

I've been following this thread. Every one of those "negative nancys" was trying to help you. Either by helping bring to light that your expectations may be dragging you down or pointing out that your intake could be too low (your original post was confusing and you've refused to clarify for some reason). Choosing to perceive those posts as negative does not give you the right to start attacking people. And it certainly doesn't make me want to offer you any additional advice.

I agree with you that people are on these threads to help others find their way. I do, however, see a lot of people speak condescendingly towards others on the threads. I get it for those that have been on awhile there's tons of posts like these, but for the person who's posting the first time it's new info and sometimes would be received better if said in an encouraging tone rather than the way some things are worded. It's a great thing that people are working towards bettering their lives and getting healthy and the first time they reach out to people on similar journeys they can get their heads ripped off. Let's just remember that it may be the 1000th post we've read like this but it's their first;)

I remember it every day that I'm on here and work hard to make my advice as topical, complete, and useful as possible. To the point that I've started threads asking how to make it better. But I'm sick to death of seeing new posters get frustrated and start attacking people because a few posts rubbed them the wrong way. It's driven a lot of useful posters away and caused others to retreat to the chit chat or debate forums instead.

ryleigh0120 wrote: »

I don't don't think I attacked anyone... I thought saying 'negative nancy' would lighten it up. And I I didn't know what I didn't clarify? I'm still new using using this this app so I I don't quite understand it yet. I asked for help in understanding, embarrassed, but I did it. If u felt frustrated with me u didndidnot have to post on it. Promise it it will be the last time I ask for help. Thank you.

You shouldn't feel embarrassed to ask for help. However, I would strongly suggest you read the stickied posts (Most Helpful Posts).

It's true the same questions get asked over and over again. It's also true that if those questions weren't asked you'd "hear" crickets in the forum. I still think one of the best ways to be introduced to this site is to read those stickies, then ask clarifying questions for those things you still don't understand. Now, some people want to jump right in and just ask questions. They have to realize they may sometimes get answers they don't appreciate.

Another thing the stickies may help you with, along with reading a lot of posts, is identifying which members know what they're talking about and which don't. There are far more people who will give crappy, nonsensical, and sometimes detrimental, advice than there are who give good advice. By reading the stickies and lots of posts, you can start identifying who they are. Unfortunately, as another poster mentioned, many of those people are no longer here, but there are still some hanging around. Those are the ones you want to listen to, even if you don't like what they have to say. And one day, after you learn more than you know now, you might be one of those people, too, and hang around to help new members learn.

Don't give up you're doing great!