I am very heavy I need help

What can you replace fast food with? Why don't you try to cook your meals instead? You said you are very heavy..Does that mean you have 50+ to lose or 100+ to lose. Use the search and type that in. You'll find MFP groups that are very motivational with people facing the same issues that you are. Everything is a process. I've been obese before. It's mind over matter and learning to make healthy choices

Hey Bubbles, pick a reasonable goal and work towards it. Don't look at weight charts that say you should be 110 pounds and set that as a goal. Start with 10 pounds or a smaller size. Something you can reach in a reasonable time frame. I started at 233 pounds and did 10 pounds at a time. I'm still a long ways from what the weight charts say I should weigh but I feel so much better and am under 200! That was one of my mini goals. The "experts" say for my height I should weigh 125. Not likely to happen but who knows. I would be thrilled to be 165 so for now that is my big goal. My next mini goal though is 190. Also be willing to make this a lifestyle change. Whatever program you use make sure it is something you can do permanently with just a few upgrades for maintenance. I've done all the crash diets and even had a lap band. None of them work because you are so hungry once you quit them you gain it all back. You CAN reach your goals just be willing to do it slowly.

Browse through the "success stories". Some of the threads there have been amazing and hopefully will inspire you.

Browse through the "success stories". Some of the threads there have been amazing and hopefully will inspire you.

Deciding to lose weight and actually doing it is definitely a mental battle, but it can be done. You can't just say "I want to lose weight" and just leave it there. Start by setting small goals, otherwise, it will all seem so overwhelming and you will want to give up. Here are a few suggestions:

- If you drink a lot of sugary beverages throughout the day all week long, try cutting it down to 1 sugary beverage per day. And then, 1 or two per week.
- Fast food is usually extremely high in calories, so try cutting it down to a couple times a week. Don't worry about trying to eat all the "good" foods, the foods you think you need to eat for weight loss. As long as you're not taking in more calories than you burn, you'll start to lose weight.
- Eat what you would normally eat, but cut down how much of it you are eating. If you haven't already done so, find out what your TDEE is (by Googling, "what's my TDEE?"), and how many calories you need to to be eating in order to be in a deficit, and stick to them on a consistent basis. Just Google "deficit calories to lose weight", and you'll come across some helpful articles to give you an idea of what those numbers should look like.
- Exercise isn't absolutely necessary for weight loss, but it will assist you. And once you get the hang of it, you should start to feel more energetic and healthy, even if you just go for a 20 minute walk.
- Be patient, this process takes time. If you start off losing a lot in the first couple months, it will start to slow down. And don't rely too heavily on the scale - my pants are practically hanging off of me although my weight loss is slow going (slow is not a bad thing).

Good luck!

We cant give you motivation.

perhaps help you along. I know making more friends here and seeing their progress in their journeys is super helpful to me, as well as being positive and supportive of them. Sometimes when I really want to eat the junk or not do the work out I look on tumblr (instagram, anywhere on the internet) for motivational posts and blogs to follow and read. That usually does the trick.

Ive seen recommendations for creating a "motivation" wall/board. Take quotes and maybe images of what youre trying to achieve and make them into a collage.

as for eating fast food every night, that has nothing to do with you being heavy and everything to do with you being lazy. If you cant stand long enough to cook a decent home cooked meal, try sitting in a chair that allows you to reach the stove without burning yourself or just try your best to tough it out. If its an "addiction" you have to get yourself out of the cycle. Easiest way to do this is meal prep. I'm not saying cut it out entirely at first (bc youll probably just end up bingeing on it), but definitely cut it back. Go out and get you some good foods, leans meats, veggies, fruits, nuts whatever you like to eat, and a food scale, and start weighing your foods and prepreparing them for the week or next few days at least.


So add some friends, try meal planning, and just stick to it. It sucks and its hard at first but its kind of addicting and theres so many people here that are so supportive and that is motivation enough imo.

Silly me I waited until I was in my fifties before I called in the professionals. If you know this job is too big on your own then do go seek out help. I suggest a flesh-and-blood support team beyond what the internet can offer.

I have a reading assignment for you, Habit by Duhigg. After you read the book, come back with some ideas what might be triggering your fast food nights and what you might try to shake up those old habits.

If you are asking someone else to motivate you then you probably aren't really ready to lose weight. When you get sick and tired of being sick and tired you will find the motivation.

I agree with everyone else, you need to find your why but these boards are helpful. I've been at this for a while and I still struggle everyday. I've lost and gained back the same 20 pounds a few times now. I'm so frustrated with myself that I plan on sitting down this weekend and overhauling my profile with new goals and a better game plan.

While you work out your motivation, start taking baby steps with your lifestyle. Try cutting back on calorie filled drinks and adding more water. Now I have maybe one can of soda a week (I used to be able to kill 2 2-liter bottles a day) and I feel so much better. I've recently had to switch to a low sodium food plan and I felt 100% better in less than a week.

I'm the kind of person that can eat the same thing for a week so I spend a good part of my Sundays cooking and packing up individual portions. You could start with just one meal for the week like an egg bake or healthy muffins. That gives you an easy meal you don't have to think about. Pintrest, Google, and food network are great resources, and every recipe can be made healthier with a few tweaks!

You gotta want it for yourself.