Ruined it, because of emotional eating.
AshleighAnn72
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So this evening, ive gone over my calories by nearly 1000 calories. I've recently had my third miscarriage, and ive just been so down today, I needed to cheer myself up. Now i just feel bad, and the whole reason in dieting is to be able to have a child... Will i ever be able to do this?!
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To quote some lyrics "This is just another day, you will live it anyway".
Miscarrying is tragic, and the hormones that happen after are even more brutal. I'm so sorry you've gone through this.
You didn't ruin anything. You had a bad day, you made a choice you regret, but in the grand scheme of things nothing is ruined.
Yes, you can do this.17 -
What I do when I'm down and sad, i work out in anger. I run, punching bag, anything to the point where I scream.2
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Start over again tomorrow.
Sorry for your loss.1 -
One day at a time....1
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i am so sorry for your loss. allow yourself time to grieve, as long as you need, and then pick yourself up and carry on. you're stronger than you realize.1
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AshleighAnn72 wrote: »So this evening, ive gone over my calories by nearly 1000 calories. I've recently had my third miscarriage, and ive just been so down today, I needed to cheer myself up. Now i just feel bad, and the whole reason in dieting is to be able to have a child... Will i ever be able to do this?!
I'm so sorry you're going through this. You haven't failed- in fact, I'd say you did pretty darn good by logging your calories on what must be an unimaginably difficult day. Lots of people just give up when they go over and stop logging. Give yourself a pass for today (heck, give yourself a pass for tomorrow if you want). But pick yourself back up, and get back in the game this week. Of course emotional eating should be avoided, but you went through a pretty traumatic event and this is one day. Nobody could fault you for this. Be kind to yourself. Hugs.5 -
I am so sorry for what you are going through....a miscarriage feels like a failure, even though you haven't done anything wrong for it to happen. Don't beat yourself up today about the overeating, it's just one day, and you did the only thing you knew how to cope with part of it by turning to food. Getting over a third loss is going to take more time than that to handle. Take the time you need, and then when you're ready, you can re-focus on eating well. My thoughts go out to you!0
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I am so sorry for your losses.. I can not even imagine the pain you are going thru right now.. You did not ruin anything or fail.. Allow yourself some time to grieve, hun.. In the mean time, try going for a 20 min walk, or a 20 min yoga video on YouTube.. Have you ever read the book Thinner in thirty by Jenna wolfe? Hear if you need a listening ear!0
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Darling, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how devastating each miscarriage is. I also had to loose weight for fertility and my advice darling is to relax. There are detours in every journey, bumps in every road - keep going. Ride a bike with your SO, walk through a nature trail with an audiobook. Stress will break you.0
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1000 calories is less than a third of a pound. It's not as bad as your self-talk is making it out to be. I suggest writing down your negative thoughts, like "I'll never be able to do this", figure out how they're distortions of reality, and come up with a counter to them. Chances are if you do this for a few days you'll find the same negative thoughts come up over and over again.
Write each one on an index card, and either below it or on the other side write down a rational response to the thought, This will require understanding how it's a distortion. Take these cards out when you get discouraged and read them.
Example 1:
"I'll never be able to do this"
Distortions: catastrophizing, generalizing
Rational response: "I've succeeded at X Y and Z in the past, and I know I'm capable of success. It's just a matter of sticking to it because that's how I've succeeded in the past."
Example 2:
"I went over by 1000 calories today" (behind that thought, possibly what you said in the subject, "I've ruined it".
Distortions: magnifying, perhaps
Rational response: "1000 calories over is only a third of a pound, if I get back on the program it's no big deal"
Those are just my examples -- your rational responses may be different. Find something that is true for you.
Here's a short list of cognitive distortions that may be helpful:
https://www.verywell.com/ten-cognitive-distortions-identified-in-cbt-22412
For a self-help book, try "Feeling Good" or the "Feeling Good Handbook" by David Burns. His site:
https://feelinggood.com
Since you're having a lot of problems in your life you might want to work with a therapist for a while; I suggest looking for a cognitive therapist who has experience working with depression and grief and difficult pregnancies. Good luck.4 -
First, I'm sorry for your loss. Don't fret about going over your calories for the day and please know that things will get better for . Just take it slowly.0
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1000 calories over is really less than a third of a pound less that you will lose this week. Yes, it isn't perfect, but it isn't really that big a bump in the road.
One of the biggest thing I have learned that has helped me sustain weight loss over time is to forgive myself. Forgive myself and move on.2 -
The reason I put weight on was for my first pregnancy. I too miscarried. I developed a sort of attachment to my pregnancy weight. Many would comment on my belly growing, and it became a source of joy. When I lost the baby I had the belly, I had something. I also had hormones and sadness. I allowed myself to go through the "remaining term" guilt free of having put on weight. I was still self conscious of my weight and my demeanor/confidence overall was still very dim, but I was kind with myself I allowed the "slump." I didn't gain too much more weight but I was still heavy. Actually, I'm still "big" but it was recently that I decided to continue healing but now putting my body through the tune up. My mind is healthier, my heart has quietly healed and now I'm ready and happy to begin increasing my activity, and clean up my eating. I'm not in overdrive just yet but with a gentle and loving inner voice I'm working to my tempo...... Be kind to yourself. Loss can bring such an array of emotion. Allow yourself time to just be without any tough criticism. Dip. Slump. Rage. and Weep in healthy doses without viewing them as shortcomings. Go through your process with kind eyes and a poised disposition. You are a quiet fierce force that can rise through the heartache and confusion0
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Thanks guys x0
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I'm sorry for your loss.
1,000 calories is not a significant amount at all in the grand scheme of things. Be kind to yourself, and when you're ready to get back on track, just pick up where you left off.0 -
I am sorry for what you're going through.
For the record, you haven't ruined anything. This is a learning process. We're all bumbling our way through it. You have now seen that binging doesn't make you feel better emotionally. Is there a behavior that does help? Even if it's just a little? Going for a walk, getting outside, journaling, calling a friend, reading a book, taking a long bath, doing some yoga or stretching? Brainstorm some ideas, so next time that feeling hits, you have some behaviors to fall back on. No, it won't solve everything, but a bunch of little things add up & snowball together.
Fall down 7, get up 8. You can do this.0 -
Aw, I am so sorry for your loss, my heart hurts for you. May I suggest you give it a bit of time...don't worry too much about logging for awhile, and concentrate on healing, and getting yourself back. Again, I'm so sorry.0
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I am so, so sorry for your loss..0
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So sorry for your struggles!0
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