10 to 20 pounds vs. 100 to 150 pounds

pauljsolie
pauljsolie Posts: 1,024 Member
edited September 28 in Health and Weight Loss
:yawn: Guess it was a dumb topic, Thanks to those who responded.

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  • Heatherbelle_87
    Heatherbelle_87 Posts: 1,078 Member
    Honestly it depend on perspective. I have amazingly supportive pals that only need to lose 15 lbs and others that need to lose 200 lbs. My goal weight I will have lost 98 lbs. It depends on how the person is and how they view you as well though. A person who only has 20 lbs to lose but isnt active can look at me and say "Well if she can work out like that so can i!" Flip that around weight is harder to lose the closer to your goal so when I get to 20 lbs from myg oal I want support that is there as well because they know exactly how hard it is to lose that last 20 lbs. But honestly when I hear "Im a size 2 and I just cant stand this 5 lbs" I can get frustrated as well because it could simply be a high sodium (bad food) diet or that their jeans went through the dryer. Now Im a little bit more passionate on those because my sister is a size 2 in MOST brands but pouts for 3 days when she puts on .2 lbs
  • tameko2
    tameko2 Posts: 31,634 Member
    I have a hard time relating to the people who are already thin and want to lose 15-20 pounds. Like already healthy and pretty good shape and want to lose 15-20 lbs. I think that's the big difference -- not the number per se, but where the goal weight falls within your range.

    Most people who are actually overweight by a good amount or obese feel like "I would be so happy just to see a 'healthy' BMI" so our goal weights are what those other people are considering fat! I mean I don't think there's anythign wrong with them wanting to be whatever size they want to be (within reason obv) but I think its the difference between "I just don't want to be fat anymore" and "I want to be skinny like a model" that you are talking about.
  • SimplyDeLish
    SimplyDeLish Posts: 539
    A few months ago, I would have said that I can't relate to those who only needed to lose a few pounds. But with MFP that has all changed. We are all here because our eating and/or fitness habits need to be improved.

    I'm lucky to have friends along the entire spectrum...those who are trying to gain and are over coming severe ED's, those who want to maintain their weight but get more fit, those who only need to lose a few pounds, and those who need to lose 100+ lbs.

    I wouldn't trade those friendships for anything!
  • megruder
    megruder Posts: 216
    I get what you are saying. I'm supportive of those that have less to lose, but it can be frustrating to hear complaints when someone is trying to lose 10-20 lbs.
  • corsayre8
    corsayre8 Posts: 551 Member
    These posts bother me in that there is always an underlying tone of "what I am doing is harder/more impressive/etc, than what you are doing".

    Frankly it is all hard, and it doesn't get any easier as you approach goal. In fact it becomes more difficult to create change onthe body. I lost a third if my body weight, and the final pounds require so much more work than I ever had to put in at the beginning. I get up early every morning to run six plus miles. I hit the gym at least three days a week for strength training, and just had to enlist the help of a personal trainer. I take two spin classes a week, and take yoga regularly. I miss the days where I could just cut calories and walk the dog to lose weight.

    Does that mean I judge where you are? No. But don't negate what we are doing. I hope you do find it within yourself to reach you goal. Personally this whole process is helping me find my strength and determination. Good enough isn't enough. I am going to follow through, and hope you do as well.
  • kleavitt1992
    kleavitt1992 Posts: 592 Member
    you have to take into consideration height as well im 5ft 3 10-20 lbs on me makes a big dif. compared to someone that is 5ft 8 i have no where for it to go lol


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  • ChantalGG
    ChantalGG Posts: 2,404 Member
    I have been at 215lb when i was 9 months pregnant and then lost a bunch of weight went down to 130, so i can relate to most people. I support everyone on their weight loss journey, except the ultra skinny girls that are obviously have body dis-morphia.
  • DakotaKeogh
    DakotaKeogh Posts: 693 Member
    Sorry I was too late to see the post. Sounds like it was something I would have been interested in.
  • StevLL
    StevLL Posts: 921 Member
    I feel like it's more important to embrace each others desire to be healthier and not focus on whether they have 10lbs or 200lbs to lose. The emotional roller coaster and eating habits as well as ideas, advice and motivation are different for each person and we should celebrate that not judge it. I have 125 more lbs to go, but is that any harder than the person who has 15, but can't seem to get it to come off. I say we are fighting the same battle and lets get along and help each other.
    :-)
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    well I missed it! :laugh: Not sure what you posted Paul but the difference is it takes anyone with over 100 pounds to lose a whole lot LONGER to lose their weight. Therefore they have to have double the Preseverance, Patience and Consistency. It is what it is. It could take someone years to lose HUNDREDS of pounds or anything over 100. And when they get closer to their goal they really struggle like a smaller person also.

    It is not putting anyone down who has LESS to lose. It is NOT saying it is not HARD for someone to lose 10 to 20 pounds either. I know it is just as hard for a smaller person to lose 10 pounds and could also take months of hard work and Preseverance, Patience and Consistency also. I hear people complaining because a skinny person is at the gym. I never do that because I know to stay that size they need to be in the gym.

    So to sum it all up, it is challenging to lose weight no matter what your size is. But there are many things that smaller ones losing weight will never have to deal with or concern themselves with and this to me is a good thing too. That is one of the reasons I embrace anyone at any size trying to lose weight. We can succeed! Success is never giving up!! AT ANY SIZE! :flowerforyou:
  • lab_goddess
    lab_goddess Posts: 170 Member
    Well said Mollie!!

    I think it is tough to change behaviors/habits, which is really why the weight loss is difficult no matter how much you have to lose!
  • pauljsolie
    pauljsolie Posts: 1,024 Member
    OK, sorry corsayre8, I won't post anymore.
  • P90XCertifiedCoach
    P90XCertifiedCoach Posts: 369
    OK, sorry corsayre8, I won't post anymore.

    Hey Paul, Keep posting and ignore the ignorance of others. She is never happy, just look at her posts. Some people just like to complain.
  • pauljsolie
    pauljsolie Posts: 1,024 Member


    Does that mean I judge where you are? No. But don't negate what we are doing. I hope you do find it within yourself to reach you goal. Personally this whole process is helping me find my strength and determination. Good enough isn't enough. I am going to follow through, and hope you do as well.

    I was not judging anyone in my post. I was simply asking if either group can relate to each other. I fully understand that people with just 10 pounds to lose have it just as hard as those of us with 100+ pounds to lose. They probably have it harder since morbidly obese people can drop huge amounts of weight initially. I personally can't relate to someone who needs to lose 10 pounds when they are 150 and trying to reach 140. That is approximately 1/16 of their bodyweight. When I started this weight loss journey, my weight was 313 and my goal is 170. That is nearly 1/2 of my bodyweight, 46% to be precise. I don't understand you wanting to lecture me about thoughts I've never had nor ever expressed. There is a huge difference in what is being accomplished between the two groups. The fact that I can't relate to the one group has no bearing on anyone else or what they are trying to accomplish. Conversely, I would be willing to wager that a sizeable amount of the people who have to lose only 10 pounds to go from their starting weight to their goal weight can't empathize with my situation. All you have to do is look at how "skinny" society discriminates against the obese to proove my point. I congratulate you on your success to date and I know you'll achieve your goal. I just want you to know there is no hidden agenda in my original post, which I regret deleting. I didn't think anyone was going to respond.
  • along21291
    along21291 Posts: 45 Member
    Not sure exactly what you posted but I love seeing people of all sizes taking on goals to be healthier and be more confident in themselves. To be honest though I am most impressed by people that have lost a lot of weight (say around 50 pounds) and still have a ways to go towards their goal weight and how optimistic they are. It is so inspiring to see people that are fighting everyday to get back their lives! Anyways I always wish everyone good luck but I can definitely see how it would be difficult for someone with a lot to lose seeing a poster complaining about losing a very small amount of weight.
  • withchaco
    withchaco Posts: 1,026 Member


    Does that mean I judge where you are? No. But don't negate what we are doing. I hope you do find it within yourself to reach you goal. Personally this whole process is helping me find my strength and determination. Good enough isn't enough. I am going to follow through, and hope you do as well.

    I was not judging anyone in my post. I was simply asking if either group can relate to each other.
    I didn't get to see your original post, but maybe corsayre didn't mean YOU, Paul, when they used the word "you." Honestly, I thought it was the general nonspecific "you" when I read their post.

    It looks like you brought up an interesting topic that can be discussed maturely and politely. No need to apologize for that! :smile:
  • Heatherbelle_87
    Heatherbelle_87 Posts: 1,078 Member


    Does that mean I judge where you are? No. But don't negate what we are doing. I hope you do find it within yourself to reach you goal. Personally this whole process is helping me find my strength and determination. Good enough isn't enough. I am going to follow through, and hope you do as well.

    I was not judging anyone in my post. I was simply asking if either group can relate to each other. I fully understand that people with just 10 pounds to lose have it just as hard as those of us with 100+ pounds to lose. They probably have it harder since morbidly obese people can drop huge amounts of weight initially. I personally can't relate to someone who needs to lose 10 pounds when they are 150 and trying to reach 140. That is approximately 1/16 of their bodyweight. When I started this weight loss journey, my weight was 313 and my goal is 170. That is nearly 1/2 of my bodyweight, 46% to be precise. I don't understand you wanting to lecture me about thoughts I've never had nor ever expressed. There is a huge difference in what is being accomplished between the two groups. The fact that I can't relate to the one group has no bearing on anyone else or what they are trying to accomplish. Conversely, I would be willing to wager that a sizeable amount of the people who have to lose only 10 pounds to go from their starting weight to their goal weight can't empathize with my situation. All you have to do is look at how "skinny" society discriminates against the obese to proove my point. I congratulate you on your success to date and I know you'll achieve your goal. I just want you to know there is no hidden agenda in my original post, which I regret deleting. I didn't think anyone was going to respond.

    Paul dont be afraid to post controversial topics. I get slammed for my controversial responses all the time! And honestly can someone who has always been at a healthy BMI their entire life TRULY empathize with someone who has always been the "chubby" kid or Heavy adult? Probably not. Because its been proven (not just my opinion) 80% of healthy weight children made fun of an overweight child AT SOME POINT during there childhood. Unless someone truly gets to know you and your situation that has never been over weight they cant truly understand. But atleast on here they are willing to be cheerleaders and admit they are inspired by those of us that have taken healthy steps. For example I have a patient that is a nurse, she has a health issue causing extreme exhaustion, she is overweight as a result, her health insurane charges her higher rates as a result of her BMI, but does not cover the treatment for her condition, which would allow her to lose weight. The fellow nurses on her floor know of her condition, and know it could be lessened with weight loss, and still give her a hard time because she CANT workout due to her exhaustion. For her its a vicious vicous cycle. They encourage but judge at the same time
  • downtome
    downtome Posts: 529 Member
    I understand EXACTLY where you are coming from. Someone like me who has 155lbs to lose looks at someone who might have only 10lbs to lose and I say to myself, "Heck, I can do that in 2 days!" It does not frustrates me but it does make me anygry with myself for ALLOWING MYSELF to get this way, Obese". I think its great if people want to get healthy no matter what their size but yes, we who are obese have a long ways to go and feel at times like it will take an eternity to get there while our counterparts will get there so much quicker and that can at times be frustrating. In my opinion, there is no difference between me and someone wanting to lose 10lbs, we have have our struggles and losing weight and keeping it off is never an easy task for anyone! Good luck to everyone to reach their goals!
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