Hello I'm 25 Yrs old & Trying to lose weight
ravishedraven39
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First, I'd love to have friends on here that can be supportive and I can help support too. So please feel free to add me! I'm at about 300 lbs and miserable. In the past I've lost around 50+ but always gain it back. I've always been overweight and when depression kicked in I was given medications and well the pounds went up from there. Now I don't take anything for depression I cope on my own, I meditate, paint, and try to just cope when I have down times.
I think stress is a big factor in weight loss for me. I'm living with my parents who are their worst days highly negative, one who spends excess money (that he can't afford), mom with diabetes, both with chronic pain. It's impossible to stay on top of the housework. I'm in school full time, my mom works a stressful job but one she loves, my dad who has been disabled most of my life doesn't do much.
Another problem I have is self-control. I want to eat healthy, and will try. I've started buying more fruits and veggies for snacks, I'm working on growing a nice garden. My mom loves sugar free ice cream, and chocolate, sweets. I ask her not to buy them it's easier to just not have them in the house and I'm told I don't have to eat it. Which yes I understand. The thing is she doesn't need it either (diabetic), and I'm afraid to say anything because she will get mad or she will shrug it off. I won't go into details but the household is often very negative and it can be like walking on eggshells. I'm trying to stay positive and keep moving forward.
By the way I'm sorry if this post is somewhat depressing. I guess I'm hoping for others who understands and we can help support each other in our goals.
Anyways, so my goal is to lose around 150 lbs or so. I'm not sure the best weight for me. I grew up hearing that I have big bone structure and could never really reach a small size. I've also read that isn't true. I want to lose weight so I feel happy when I look in the mirror, so I feel and am healthy. I want to hike and not feel like I'm dying. Maybe more than anything I WANT to hike the Appalachian Trail when I graduate from the community college before going to a university.
I think stress is a big factor in weight loss for me. I'm living with my parents who are their worst days highly negative, one who spends excess money (that he can't afford), mom with diabetes, both with chronic pain. It's impossible to stay on top of the housework. I'm in school full time, my mom works a stressful job but one she loves, my dad who has been disabled most of my life doesn't do much.
Another problem I have is self-control. I want to eat healthy, and will try. I've started buying more fruits and veggies for snacks, I'm working on growing a nice garden. My mom loves sugar free ice cream, and chocolate, sweets. I ask her not to buy them it's easier to just not have them in the house and I'm told I don't have to eat it. Which yes I understand. The thing is she doesn't need it either (diabetic), and I'm afraid to say anything because she will get mad or she will shrug it off. I won't go into details but the household is often very negative and it can be like walking on eggshells. I'm trying to stay positive and keep moving forward.
By the way I'm sorry if this post is somewhat depressing. I guess I'm hoping for others who understands and we can help support each other in our goals.
Anyways, so my goal is to lose around 150 lbs or so. I'm not sure the best weight for me. I grew up hearing that I have big bone structure and could never really reach a small size. I've also read that isn't true. I want to lose weight so I feel happy when I look in the mirror, so I feel and am healthy. I want to hike and not feel like I'm dying. Maybe more than anything I WANT to hike the Appalachian Trail when I graduate from the community college before going to a university.
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Hi, I am in a very similar place to you. I'm 24 and would like to lose 100lbs3
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Hey girls... I'm Nickie, I started my journey nearly two weeks ago. my last Weigh in I was at 269 I'm 29 f in socal,.. I found having support helps a great deal. I also would like to lose 115 pounds....
I'm here for support...3 -
I totally understand, I have family just like you who are struggling the same way and it sucks. But even they said with support its so much easier when you have other people supporting and helping out with different tips! Feel free to add me!2
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Hey girl, another 25yo here! Started with a 100-lb weight loss goal, and I currently have 65 to go.
Realize that weight loss is not going to solve the issues of why you're not happy. It might aggravate certain things, or be a by-product of certain things, but losing fat is not going to solve those problems. I tried to lose weight for the sake of "I wanna be skinny". Never stuck with it long.
This time is different. Why? Because I forced myself to acknowledge that emotional and mental issues have always been present. I was overweight because I didn't deal with stress, anxiety, and self-loathing properly. I ate my feelings to quiet them, instead of facing them head-on. I loved the social aspect of eating as well as the physical pleasure of taste and texture. The two become almost inextricably intertwined to where hanging out with friends = eating a lot of food.
OP, I would use this time to focus on hanging your inside moreso than your outside. Yes, change your eating habits, but focus on learning why your current ones aren't what's best for you. Don't assign morality to food (good or bad), but simply consider them currency. This, I think, is what helped me the most. I never deprive myself - I simply consider if something is worth the calorie currency. Sometimes it definitely is (Ben & Jerry's, dude), sometimes not (mediocre pizza). Think of your calorie goal as a budget. Just like your father spends more money than he has, I've been guilty of spending more calories than my body can keep up with. Sometimes it's okay to treat yourself and go a bit over budget, but that it's in your best interest to try to stay within a reasonable amount as much as possible.
You're more than welcome to add me if you'd like a buddy. I know you can do it, OP
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I was 310lb February last year I'm now 256 so 4stone loss. I want to lose 80-100lbs I love my curves and want to keep them. I emotional eat as well and I still struggle with this. I lost 4 stone, at gym 4-5 times a week for 2 hours at a time. I loved it. In november I was rushed to A&E with 5cm difference in leg, swollen and going red. When talking to doctor and my mum said they sent ambulance he laughed and shrugged his shoulders and asked why. He took one look at me and said it's your weight and lifestyle. I wanted to cry as I'm at gym 5 days a week and list 4 stone. My mum wanted to jump on him. He went and got my blood results and came back all sorry looking and said I have a blood clot. I was rushed to hospital 4 and sent twice times after this in space of 6 weeks I was sent by my doctor Christmas eve and rushed in ambulance 2 days after. My blood was just thickening. I'm just getting over it but leg still big than other and at gym again but I can't do what I used to do. All I say to myself is. Why, why didn't I get that clot when I was sat doing nothing and just eating. I'm not letting it stop me, im still being investigated as they can't understand why I got it in first place.
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