Looking for ladies in their 40's

I just turned 44, I gained 25lbs after having surgery on my feet, and I am try to do the same. If you think I would do for a friend then add me.

The last time I was here, I lost 75 lbs, so we got this.

Hey there kellyboyd! I'm 45 and I feel your pain! That metabolism can be a b! I gained 14 lbs between last Thanksgiving and Christmas! 1 Month! And it would not go away! Only time I gained was pregnancies, and before my gallbladder surgery in 2010. I lost 13 of the 14lbs w/in the past 2 months. I had to conduct a personal process of elimination. I have sluggish digestion, so reduced processed foods and started taking bile salts, reduce calories and carbs, reduce sodium (don't crave salty anymore), eat green, lots of water and exercise. I'm sure some fitness Guru's will chime in and give you sound advice soon! Good luck!

Hello,

I am 43, presently I like my body just the way it is (174 lbs at 5'7", and a 0.67 waist to hip ratio) but unfortunately the BMI begs to differ, arguing I am clearly "overweight".
Diabetes runs in my family and my fasting blood sugar is not exactly ideal - often in the mid 90's. As a result, I know I must lose weight though I am terrified my face will lose too much volume, my cheeks will further flatten and jowls will become quite prominent.
I am more of a "face" person than "body-oriented type" and replacing weight loss-related facial volume with cosmetic fillers is not exactly my idea of looking young and good - even if I reach an officially normal BMI.
I lose weight quite easily, even now in my 40's - so losing weight is not a struggle for me; but striking the balance between smaller body and a face that has not deflated completely - that's the struggle.

I love the way fuller, fatter faces keep that youthful bounce until late in life. At the same time, I am aware that internal markers of aging are more important than the external/cosmetic ones...so I guess...fasting blood sugars in the 80's in exchange of a bit of gaunt, slightly flat cheek is a deal I must accept. 200 people on one of those age-guessing sites awarded me a 33 yo average on a selfie photo in day light without make-up :-)...but somehow I still can't get over the "deflating cheek" syndrome I have noticed lately on my face.

Last year I had lost about 30 lbs, first due to illness (pneumonia), then I continued with diet and exercise until I reached the much longed for 24.5 BMI. At that upper-range normal weight, I look really thin and deflated so for me, a bit overweight has been the natural "normal" most of my life.

This past year, when life got in the way with work-related stress and associated lack of time, I put almost all weight back. So now I am back to 27 BMI and on my way back down.

Unfortunately I have had a few weight fluctuations within the 30 lbs range since I was in my early 20's mainly because it doesn't seem to be "normal" for me to keep a "normal" BMI.

My goal is now to lose only as much fat as necessary to keep my blood sugars regularly in the 80's - which would mean about 15 lbs at the most.
The trick after that will be maintenance and stability - forever.

Good luck to you, fanceegirl75. The yo-yo situation drives me insane too.
I found I can only keep myself on the right track when life is breezy, with much less stress, etc - which for me means summers, as my work slows down dramatically during the summer months.

When September kicks in (aka "stress", "work", "life"), everything goes south, including diet and exercise.