Desperate.....need help

First of all, breathe. You can do this, even if you aren't able to move about a lot. But if you're like me, as you lose you will be able to move more and more. I felt quite disabled until I lost weight. I started out at 270, had all sorts of health problems, most of which have improved with my weight loss.

Second, your calorie settings. Unless you are quite short (you didn't give your height), you have set your goal at a 2 lb (convert) a week. This is too fast and you will only get frustrated if you eat so little. Set your weight loss to 1 lb a week. If you lose the weight slowly you are much more likely to keep it off. Most people who lose quickly gain the weight back, and then some.

Third, weigh your food (in grams), and measure all your liquids.

Fourth, record every single bite every single day. Never skip your logging. If you're like most of us it makes a difference psychologically. Be honest with your logging. Learn how to do it properly. For instance, don't pick the lowest calorie count for a McDonald's quarter pounder. Instead, go to McDonald's website to find out the actual calories. Use your common sense. If one entry for a brownie is 100 calories and another is 700, then do a little research. Learn to use the Recipe Builder. This is very important for accurate calorie counts. Record EVERYTHING you eat.

Fifth, do not restrict the types of foods you eat. There are no "bad" foods or "proper" foods. Just eat and record what you eat. Gradually, you will likely move toward less calorie-dense foods, i.e. fruits and veggies, but if you're like so many of us, over-restricting foods is the kiss of death.

Sixth, move. I know your body hurts. I've been there, but even if you can't get out of your chair, you can move and groove to some music while you're sitting there. I chair dance all the time because I have a bum knee and some days it just won't work. Movement will make you feel better. I have arthritis and fibromyalgia and it took a long time for me to embrace movement and when I did I discovered that it does, indeed, make me feel better. Movement changes my perception of my pain.

Seven, find friends who will support you. This can be difficult. If there is no one in your life, then hang out on MFP and find people who have lost weight and kept it off who will offer you support and advice. But don't listen to the nutcases--you'll hear all sorts of weird nonsense and that brings me to my last point--

Educate yourself about nutrition. I'm assuming you're in the UK. Find out the most respected books written by respected medical doctors and nutritionists and read those. In the US, we have a paleo fad and a gluten-free fad and a low-carb fad. Some of our doctors have embraced these fads and perpetuate the nonsense. So do your own research. It takes time to cut through all the crap floating around, but consider this--in the 20th and 21st century mainstream nutritional advice has changed in small ways, but some core ideals have remained the same--eat your fruits and veggies, watch your portions, and be moderate in all things. These small truths have not changed and are unlikely to change.

Good luck. You can do this. Your case is not hopeless and you do not need to wait for gastric bypass to succeed. You may find that you lose all your extra weight while you are on this waiting list! My best hopes for you.