Why do people do this? (sorta ranting)

I honestly think some people are jealous/envious and see you doing so well and feel guilty themselves. IT's usually about them! Keep going..nothing wrong with getting smaller and fitter!

I just nod and smile to those people. I KNOW what a healthy weight is for me, and you know what? I'm HOT at that weight I think they're just jealous.

There was recently a study that shows that we're all so over weight we don't even know what NORMAL looks like anymore, so we think that heavy is the new normal and normal is "too skinny" because our vision is flawed.

I'm right there with you. I've dropped 84 pounds since January and still need to drop another 40. I finally moved from the obese side of the bmi to the overweight side but I still need to lose more. I just got the "you're going to lose more?" comment a couple of days ago. Followed by "you'll be a stick." UGH. Just trying to be healthy people!

I think a lot of it is jealousy... I just say screw 'em. If you are happy and feel good, then it doesn't matter. This is why we must lose weight for ourself only, and not for other people! Good look and Congrats on your weight loss!!

yup!! I HATE IT.... I've since decided to stop defending myself... I know Im not "wasting away!"

i know what u mean. i have always been at this weight. and although i am not obese. i have a very high body fat percentage..
so im a little less bothered about looseing weight and a little more bothered about looseing some of the fat and replacing it with muscle..

but people look at me and they say things like "ow ur not trying to loose weight are you".
and things like "shes such a silly girl, i dont understand why she is doing this".

but i have also notcied that the people that say this are quite a few dress sizes bigger than me themselves...
i have never go these comments from people of a healthy weight.
infact i have been told by a few people at the low end of the healhy bmi that i could do with becoming a little more toned...

so i say look at the people who are saying these things.
are they larger than u, so that you look alot smaller than them.
or are they just jealouse that you have managed to loose all this weight and they havent.

i say your looseing weight for u, not for them.
so just ignore them..

goo dluck on your weight loss journey
x

I do get that if I mention that I've been losing weight, but here's what bothers me: I've lost 21lb and no one notices except my husband (who has been losing right along side me). I tell myself it's because I always dress to hide my weight, lose flowing tops with no real waist, so noone could tell I'd gotten so chubby. But hell, I've lost weight on my face, too! Ah well, I'm doing this for me and my health, but I want to look good, too!

because misery loves company

You have no idea how much I agree. I know people are "just trying to be nice" or "trying to be supportive" to make you feel good. I get that. I don't think they understand what it takes though. You can't just stop. They're not the ones who read the "ideal" weights and BMIs or set goals for themselves. You and I know what we want to be in weight or BMI. I just reached the normal BMI and can't be prouder. When people ask me to stop losing weight or whatever, I just respond with "Why stop now when it makes me feel good?" I've gone from 190 to 135 doing that. I'll tell MYSELF when to stop. Great topic. Keep up the good work!

Sometimes people will ask, "how much more weight are you plannig to lose?", or "you don't need to lose anymore!" The I tell them that I haven't actually lost weight in over 3 months and I've just been gaining muscle and continuing to work out. I think in the last 3-4 months I've lost around 2 lbs. but they don't believe it and want to act like I'm wasting away!

IT'S CALLED GETTING HEALTHY, PEOPLE!

We are all supposed to be doing some sort of physical activity each day so please quit making snide remarks when you know that I worked out! Maybe they are envious that you worked out or made good food choices while they ate up the junk and lounged on the couch!

I don't think that it's going to stop anythime soon, though so we better get used to it!

That is annoying!! I agree.

Also annoying is the "compliment": You look good....for having 2 kids. While that seems nice enough, it'd be received with greater appreciate if there wasn't the added disclaimer about kids.

a bit off topic from the original poster's comments I know, but once in church i got "you look good for having 4 kids!" Those kids were my siblings and I was 18yo and never had a single pregnancy :P Backhanded compliments are worse when the disclaimer isn't even accurate!

I seriously think that people comment out of their own feelings about themselves. I don't know if I'd call it jealousy - maybe w/some it is - but for others it's a feeling that *they* can't get to where you're going, so psychologically they are talking you down (without realizing it). If they think that what you are doing is UNhealthy, then it justifies their not making similar changes.

I have a dear cousin I love so much. She's a good deal older than I am (my mom had something like 8 or 9 siblings, so it made for a big age difference sometimes), which can account for some difference of outlook. She made the comment about weight (I said something like how I was 137 lbs in my single days) - the comment was "You'll never see that again."

Back then I didn't know how I was going to lose this weight - but I knew that comment was SO wrong!

Bottom line is: ignore the comments. Do what you feel is best, eat well, exercise & share this site with them (even though most will probably ignore it). You're doing great!!