Losing weight and marriage

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FatMomma89
FatMomma89 Posts: 81 Member
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Has anyone else noticed that your spouse hates that you are losing weight? It seems like our marriage is going downhill since I started losing weight.
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  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,841 Member
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    Nah. She likes seeing my V more than the beer gut. For surely.
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
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    Nope. I'm pretty sure losing weight isn't the reason my marriage is going downhill.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,492 Member
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    It's just better if we're both fit.

    No Worries.
  • JessicaJS23
    JessicaJS23 Posts: 1,863 Member
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    If your spouse is an *kitten* that can happen. My ex husband refused to say anything about my weight loss. He acted like I looked no different after I lost almost 25lbs and everyone else said I looked great.
    It would be one thing if he thought I looked fine the way I was before but he talked a lot of smack about my body after having kids. I was doing it to make him happy and it just got ignored.
    We ain't married anymore lol.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
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    Mine doesn't mind other way as long as I'm happy.
  • NorthCascades
    NorthCascades Posts: 10,970 Member
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    She really likes the changes that happened to my body. First, losing weight, then building muscle. She doesn't always love the time it takes, we could be spending it together instead, etc, but she's thrilled with the results.
  • rebel_26
    rebel_26 Posts: 1,826 Member
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    mine calls me fatty either way ...
  • cross2bear
    cross2bear Posts: 1,106 Member
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    Jealousy and insecurity can be an explosive mix. But as someone else alluded to, theres probably something else going on.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,793 Member
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    My wife is supportive in any situation.
  • jhmomofmany
    jhmomofmany Posts: 571 Member
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    I can't imagine that just one partner losing weight would jeopardize an otherwise healthy marriage.
  • jennylee274
    jennylee274 Posts: 19 Member
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    I noticed it does change how they act. My husband was never critical of my size even when I was at my heaviest and abjectly miserable. But when I started losing weight I noticed he brought home lots of sweets candies and cookies. Often he would make himself a snack and bring me one such as a bowl of ice cream without any indication that I wanted one . Then if I refused it he would pout. I think they do fear that you are changing to find someone else.
  • RainaProske
    RainaProske Posts: 636 Member
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    My husband had once asked mev to lose weight for him. I couldn't do it. To be successful, I really had to lose it for me
  • nukephysics
    nukephysics Posts: 406 Member
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    cross2bear wrote: »
    Jealousy and insecurity can be an explosive mix. But as someone else alluded to, theres probably something else going on.

    This. Also, the fear that you may leave him for someone more attractive or sexy. What I have found that helps is your attitude, how much better you feel, and your self confidence. Take those attributes and use them as a positive spin on your relationship. Let him know that you want him to be proud of you when you go out. Finally, you can show/tell him that how your self confidence has helped your sex drive and that it is good for him. Ensure that you are reaffirming the reason why you married him, and that no matter what either one of you looks like you will still love him.
  • grannynot
    grannynot Posts: 146 Member
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    Surely there's an awareness that looking "better" (thinner, more fit, etc) is going to attract attention from the opposite sex; and that's possibly threatening?? Or there's resentment of the time spent getting fit (assuming the spouse/SO is not participating)??
  • fishgutzy
    fishgutzy Posts: 2,807 Member
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    No change in my wife at all. She likes that I am more fit and healthy. After all, when we met I only weighed 165#, roller bladed and cycled a lot and she was a part time model, 5'10" 125 to 130#. Her agency told clients she was 10 years younger than she was and the clients never doubted it.
    That was about 27 years ago. At one point I weighed more than we both did combined when we met.
  • chrisg676
    chrisg676 Posts: 39 Member
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    My wife started making remarks about the size of my belly about 3 years ago. I was 14 stone. My son suggested Insanity DVDs. I ended up buying Tapout XT DVDs and a road bike. I'm now hovering just over 12 stone. She no longer makes remarks about my belly because I don't have one anymore. Instead, I'm now "obsessed with exercising". I like to call it dedicated. And even then I can't exercise as often as I'd like. Shift work gets in the way. I'm not going back to sitting on my fat *kitten* doing nothing again. If she would work out as well. She's Type 1 diabetic. It would help.
  • jaxass
    jaxass Posts: 2,128 Member
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    Not married, but I can't imagine. Some of these remarks just gives me more reason to never get married again.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,182 Member
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    I think she likey.

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