No idea where to start...all advice appreciated

jasminethemouse
jasminethemouse Posts: 3 Member
edited December 3 in Health and Weight Loss
Hi

I can't exactly say I'm new to this as a couple not years back I lost 4 stone on here.

But now I'm back having given birth to twins, and gained all that weight back and an extra stone!! I also have post natal depression. I'm 5ft 4 and 13 and a half stone.

After the birth I was 12 stone exactly which means I've gained a lot in the past 7 months. I just stress eat and drink. It's *kitten* hard work looking after these babies and I just shove whatever into my mouth as comfort when in feeling *kitten*, then when they're in bed I have a glad or three of wine to relax and eat more. It's ridiculous. I've always been a comfort eater and a binger but this is just out of control.

I'm exhausted, fat, heavy, can't move like I should, my joints ache and I always feel sick anf sluggish. I have no energy. I know I'd be a better mum if I could get a hold of myself and fix this.

Anyway I've come to my sense...this cannot go on...I need to set a better example and be healthy for my children. But I have no idea where to start.

Any tips on healthy quick food, tips on how to feel and be healthier? I need reminding of the basics. I seem to have forgotten everything I used to know.

Thank you xx

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  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    First decide if you want to change. Then commit to some simple adjustments that you can see yourself doing effortlessly. When they have become habits, find something else you want to work on. I'm also thinking:

    Are you getting treatment for the depression?

    Do you eat proper meals, or can you make arrangements so that you can eat proper meals? Do you like fruit? Can you replace the wine with tea or coffee on weekdays? Do you take those sprogs for walks? Do you get out to see other people? Do you get any time alone, can someone else watch the children for an hour or so every day while you have you-time, doing whatever, but not electronic-based? (I'm not going to ask about sleep :# )
  • mecoconleche
    mecoconleche Posts: 86 Member
    Calories in vs calories out!!

    With that being said, you need to do these things:
    -Buy a food scale, to accurately log your food and calories
    -You must find your caloric maintenance and cut for example 500 calories, to lose 1lb of fat a week(just follow the calories that mfp tells you, and evaluate from there).
    -Patience and consistency

    And that's it!
  • leanjogreen18
    leanjogreen18 Posts: 2,492 Member
    The best thing I did was get out and start walking. I started by pushing my granddaughter around in the mall early mornings. This helped me breath better. Now I'm outside walking and hiking which I never thought I could do!

    This led to eating better and tracking my calories. I've lost 18 lbs so far. And everyday I feel better and stronger.

    You've got this!
  • medic2038
    medic2038 Posts: 434 Member
    As someone that's had depression myself (or something like it). I've found some very useful advice online. One of the best things I've found was do 3 productive things per day to start. Make it your mantra before bedtime. So 3 for you could be...
    1. Get a shower and brush your teeth.
    2. Make breakfast and eat it
    3. Walk X steps

    Whatever you decide to do, do it! Also make sure that you remind yourself that you're doing it!
    Also having positively oriented goals is a huge thing. Wanting to be healthier for the kiddos is a great one!

    Now all that being said, take a few days to prep, go make sure you have everything you're going to need to start out (get your grocery shopping done, buy a food scale,etc). I start all of my new goals on Sundays, but pick a day and do whatever works for you.
    So on your day, go weigh yourself, put your info into the site here, and hit your calorie goal. You also have to be realistic about what you want to accomplish, 1lb/week is a pretty realistic goal for most.
  • jasminethemouse
    jasminethemouse Posts: 3 Member
    kommodevaran wrote: »
    First decide if you want to change. Then commit to some simple adjustments that you can see yourself doing effortlessly. When they have become habits, find something else you want to work on. I'm also thinking:

    Are you getting treatment for the depression?

    Do you eat proper meals, or can you make arrangements so that you can eat proper meals? Do you like fruit? Can you replace the wine with tea or coffee on weekdays? Do you take those sprogs for walks? Do you get out to see other people? Do you get any time alone, can someone else watch the children for an hour or so every day while you have you-time, doing whatever, but not electronic-based? (I'm not going to ask about sleep :# )

    Thanks, I like the idea of building habits. I do get quite a lot of activity as walk the twins at least once a day, usually for at least an hour if not more like 3 or 4 hours and a double buggy with two 21lb lumps in it is hard work haha. Also obviously they keep me pretty active just carrying them/chasing them also

    Re depression I'm working on it with gp although I feel like its my weight gain and insecurity which is holding me back from recovering properly. We don't really see a lot of people and I don't get any time alone ever. Husband gets home at 7 so I get maybe ten mins between babies going to bed and him getting home. Not that I don't want to see him...but it's not time alone. Not sure if that would help. Maybe it's an idea I could see if I could work on.

    Thank you :)
  • Bxqtie116
    Bxqtie116 Posts: 552 Member
    Once you start logging your foods and looking over your results for the day, think about how you can make the next day better. It starts with baby steps. Choose more healthier options of snacks to have in the house so when you feel like snacking, it's only a couple of calories versus several hundred.
  • moto450
    moto450 Posts: 334 Member
    Find something that works for you and be consistent. We will all likely have differing opinions, but the most important thing you can do is be consistent with what you do. As long as your calorie intake is below what you burn you will lose weight.

    I personally think diet and exercise along with weighing what I eat and tracking it all works for me, however it has only worked when I have been consistent.

    Don't expect too much of yourself. Enjoy the journey, it will take time.
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