Gaining weight asap? Why?

If you really think you have an eating disorder, you need to seek out therapy. If you're just lacking willpower, you need to practice staying away from the things you binge on. Don't bring it in the house. At all.

And by the way, your boyfriend does not control what you eat - you do. If you like the way you look, that's all that matters. What you eat is all on you.

You need to figure out if you have an eating disorder, or are just struggling to get back into healthy habits. You are the only person who knows which one is the case. If you really think that your binge eating feels out of your control, you should seek some help from a qualified therapist or eating disorder support group. If your eating is not truly out of control, commit to a small step you can take today. You were maintaining at 1600, so why not make your first goal just to get back to that? If you can successful all day but overeat at night, spend some time thinking about what goes wrong at night. Are you hungry because you didn't eat enough fiber or protein? Are you bored or lonely in your new city? Can you sign up for a class that meets in the evening, or take a walk when you get the urge to eat?

If you have an eating disorder, you need help, but if you just need to regain your willpower, there's no magic pill for that - you just have to make a deal with yourself and find a way to stick to it.

By the way - you should decide whether you are happy with your body, not your boyfriend.

Hey, I feel for you. I have taken Cognitive Behavior Training and have watched this credentialed Doctor talk about Cognitive changes you can make to help. I am rewatching this myself. I never used to over eat but I am finding myself doing so when I am stressed because it brings me immediate pleasure. I don't eat junk food but I binge on real stuff which those calories add up too. I hope this helps you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAdqLB6bTuQ The Title is How to Lose Weight without Losing your Mind.

All the best to you.

kshama2001 wrote: »

jeandinco wrote: »

He was bothered by the appearance of my ribs, shoulder blades and looking like a "holocaust victim "

jeandinco wrote: »

@TavistockToad I don't like how round my face is now

You can't both be right. I suggest going to your doctor together and seeing if you're at a healthy weight or not followed by couples therapy.

jeandinco wrote: »

@TavistockToad 5'6

I'm your height and my family would do an intervention if I got down to 120 pounds, but I have a large frame - what’s your frame size? http://www.myfooddiary.com/Resources/frame_size_calculator.asp

The boyfriend was bothered and her face is now round. She's bothered she gained a little bit of weight.

But ultimately you're still right.

We are constantly told to be healthy because we want to be, not for other people. The same goes for gaining. Your bf is being a jerk pointing out what he thinks are flaws and seriously, this is how eating disorders start. Get dietary advice from a doctor or dietician, not from the bf who is trying to make you into something that HE thinks you should be. Comparing you to a holocaust victim is a pretty dog act thing to say. Would you be offended if he told you that you reminded him of mama June? Put things into perspective

In all honesty.. 5'6 and 120lbs is on the lower end of healthy imo.

My husband did the same thing as your boyfriend when i got down to a too low weight, i was around 140lbs at 5'8. He would add extra butter, oil, sugar to my food. Pretty much every sneaky trick in the book to get me to gain a few healthy pounds..

TavistockToad wrote: »

jeandinco wrote: »

He was bothered by the appearance of my ribs, shoulder blades and looking like a "holocaust victim "

And what do you think?

Other people often see us in a more honest light than how we see ourselves. OP i would take note of what your boyfriend is telling you.

My husband was brutally honest with me. He said he didnt want to lay down with a bony twig. My mum and sister also expressed concern, and to top it off, a long term aquaintance asked my husband if i had cancer.
I didn't see it, but everyone around me did. As i said in my last post, i wasn't even at a very low weight.

jeandinco wrote: »

Thank you to everyone who replied. I am now eating better. My therapist asked me to cover all the mirrors in my apartment until I get healthy.

I'm so glad to hear that you're talking to someone about this and eating well to fuel your body. Congrats!

The 'put the fork down' comment wasn't helpful or necessary but the logic is - we gain weight by eating more calories than we burn. I recently went from 55 KG to 62 KG - I had a hard year, I didn't pay any attention to my eating habits and I didn't work out as much as I used to. I ate more than I burned on most days. It's okay though - you're human, these things happen. If you want to lose the gained weight, you know how to do this. But don't regret gaining. You are not binge eating. Binge Eating disorder is a very real and very miserable eating disorder. What you are doing is simply eating.