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Akijade
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My friends, bless their hearts, keep offering me unsolicited diet advice when I post on Facebook about calorie counting. "Eat more yogurt! Bananas! More snacks!" It drives me nuts because no, I SHOULDN'T be eating MORE SNACKS when I am already out of calories for the day! No, I don't want an activity monitor! I just want to share with people this thing I have started doing. Unsolicited advice is one of the best ways to make me want to give up. I know it comes from a place of caring and love but just... gah!
Yes, I know I'm fat. But I promise you, friends, I know what I am doing at this stage. I lost 60 lbs calorie counting before. I can do it again. The trick is just doing it.
So... I'm looking for friends on MFP who just want to chat a bit and encourage each other.
Also, thanks for reading my little rant.
Yes, I know I'm fat. But I promise you, friends, I know what I am doing at this stage. I lost 60 lbs calorie counting before. I can do it again. The trick is just doing it.
So... I'm looking for friends on MFP who just want to chat a bit and encourage each other.
Also, thanks for reading my little rant.
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Add me if you like, I'm the worst friend ever - I never offer advice!
Kidding, of course I'm always willing to help but as you rightly say - it isn't great always having opinions shoved in your face when you aren't seeking them!!
Good luck and all the best!!!1 -
I'm happy for mutual support & encouragement. I totally get where you're coming from, it can add unnecessary pressure & can affect the mindset. Feel free to add. Mark0
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Feel free to add me if you like. I don't generally offer advice unless asked. Be willing to chat and offer encouragement though0
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Thanks everyone! I love MFP.
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You add me if you want and rant to me any time you want. I didn't even post to face book about my weight loss until I was down 75 pounds. I mainly did that because I had lost the same 20-30 pounds for the last three years. I always started with a blaze then fizzled out and to gain it back by the end of the year. It's been 8 1/2 months and I am down almost 100 pounds with another 20 to go.
I cringe now when I get on there and see friends and family talking about a fad or crash diet they have started. But they wont listen. So now I just keep quiet until asked. That's another thing I get asked a lot about my secret when I tell them it actually isn't a secret but work they don't want to hear nothing else.2 -
Everyone wants weight loss to be some magic secret that is easy and effortless. I wish it worked that way.1
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The trouble with Facebook posts about your personal business? People WILL comment and WILL offer advice because they think that's what you want - since you are making it public. I don't mean that in a nasty way, don't get me wrong. It is what it is - and that's the problem with facebook status'. Definitely best to stick with MFP for venting - we get ya!9
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You [and others in this thread] can add me if you like I'm still gaining weight after huge changes in my life and dealing with health issues, so it's been a real struggle. Not feeling like myself anymore, not fitting into my clothes anymore. I've lost weight by counting calories before so I know how it works, advice is not what I'm looking for either. Unfortunately I don't have anyone I can talk to about this.0
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I feel you girl. Im more of a motivational friend then advice1
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You can add me if you want. I never post my weight loss journey on FB or my exercise or anything of that nature. I really don't want people to know. I don't want to feel extra guilt if I should slip up or am doing things that they think I should be doing differently. I'd rather them be surprised when they see me and start seeing a difference and then ask me how I did it. But that's just me.1
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advice says one thing... "Be more like me" and for that reason I only offer myself advice... If you are looking for a sympathetic ear once in a while... by all means add me.0
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Feel free to add me as well. No unsolicited advice or diary critiques. Just interaction and encouragement. Our journeys are our own. Anyone else can add me as well.0
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You can add me if you like! I'm on everyday and unsolicited advice is one of my biggest pet peeves so you'll never get it from me.0
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Feel free to add me. Happy to chat and interact.0
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Yay! I love seeing my feed with so many people now!0
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I've been guilty of offering unasked for advice, but I usually remember to apologize when I'm called on it. Truth is, if it sounds like someone is complaining, I try to help them find a solution to their problem - it's how I show concern. Then when they reject every solution, I figure they just want to be unhappy. You've given me a different way of looking at it, so thanks!1
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You can feel free to add me as well
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No judgement whatsoever....feel free to add me0
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I totally get what you mean!! Feel free to add me0
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