Not looking for advice, just people to talk to
Akijade
Posts: 210 Member
My friends, bless their hearts, keep offering me unsolicited diet advice when I post on Facebook about calorie counting. "Eat more yogurt! Bananas! More snacks!" It drives me nuts because no, I SHOULDN'T be eating MORE SNACKS when I am already out of calories for the day! No, I don't want an activity monitor! I just want to share with people this thing I have started doing. Unsolicited advice is one of the best ways to make me want to give up. I know it comes from a place of caring and love but just... gah!
Yes, I know I'm fat. But I promise you, friends, I know what I am doing at this stage. I lost 60 lbs calorie counting before. I can do it again. The trick is just doing it.
So... I'm looking for friends on MFP who just want to chat a bit and encourage each other.
Also, thanks for reading my little rant.
Yes, I know I'm fat. But I promise you, friends, I know what I am doing at this stage. I lost 60 lbs calorie counting before. I can do it again. The trick is just doing it.
So... I'm looking for friends on MFP who just want to chat a bit and encourage each other.
Also, thanks for reading my little rant.
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Add me if you like, I'm the worst friend ever - I never offer advice!
Kidding, of course I'm always willing to help but as you rightly say - it isn't great always having opinions shoved in your face when you aren't seeking them!!
Good luck and all the best!!!1 -
I'm happy for mutual support & encouragement. I totally get where you're coming from, it can add unnecessary pressure & can affect the mindset. Feel free to add. Mark0
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Feel free to add me if you like. I don't generally offer advice unless asked. Be willing to chat and offer encouragement though0
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Thanks everyone! I love MFP.
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You add me if you want and rant to me any time you want. I didn't even post to face book about my weight loss until I was down 75 pounds. I mainly did that because I had lost the same 20-30 pounds for the last three years. I always started with a blaze then fizzled out and to gain it back by the end of the year. It's been 8 1/2 months and I am down almost 100 pounds with another 20 to go.
I cringe now when I get on there and see friends and family talking about a fad or crash diet they have started. But they wont listen. So now I just keep quiet until asked. That's another thing I get asked a lot about my secret when I tell them it actually isn't a secret but work they don't want to hear nothing else.2 -
Everyone wants weight loss to be some magic secret that is easy and effortless. I wish it worked that way.1
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The trouble with Facebook posts about your personal business? People WILL comment and WILL offer advice because they think that's what you want - since you are making it public. I don't mean that in a nasty way, don't get me wrong. It is what it is - and that's the problem with facebook status'. Definitely best to stick with MFP for venting - we get ya!9
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You [and others in this thread] can add me if you like I'm still gaining weight after huge changes in my life and dealing with health issues, so it's been a real struggle. Not feeling like myself anymore, not fitting into my clothes anymore. I've lost weight by counting calories before so I know how it works, advice is not what I'm looking for either. Unfortunately I don't have anyone I can talk to about this.0
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I feel you girl. Im more of a motivational friend then advice1
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You can add me if you want. I never post my weight loss journey on FB or my exercise or anything of that nature. I really don't want people to know. I don't want to feel extra guilt if I should slip up or am doing things that they think I should be doing differently. I'd rather them be surprised when they see me and start seeing a difference and then ask me how I did it. But that's just me.1
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advice says one thing... "Be more like me" and for that reason I only offer myself advice... If you are looking for a sympathetic ear once in a while... by all means add me.0
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Feel free to add me as well. No unsolicited advice or diary critiques. Just interaction and encouragement. Our journeys are our own. Anyone else can add me as well.0
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You can add me if you like! I'm on everyday and unsolicited advice is one of my biggest pet peeves so you'll never get it from me.0
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Feel free to add me. Happy to chat and interact.0
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Yay! I love seeing my feed with so many people now!0
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I've been guilty of offering unasked for advice, but I usually remember to apologize when I'm called on it. Truth is, if it sounds like someone is complaining, I try to help them find a solution to their problem - it's how I show concern. Then when they reject every solution, I figure they just want to be unhappy. You've given me a different way of looking at it, so thanks!1
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You can feel free to add me as well
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No judgement whatsoever....feel free to add me0
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I totally get what you mean!! Feel free to add me0
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I understand how you feel! I'm new on here, and although I'd never post on Facebook about my challenges solely cause I am super self-conscious, I am finding friends and family members commenting on everything from my shift to healthier snacks to my new portions, with no experience of a weight loss journey. It's frustrating but I'm taking it in stride! It's just hard to begin getting healthier without support!
As it happens, I definitely have nothing to offer in terms of advice, so I'm perfect for just the support aspect of MFP! I'd love new friends on here who can bemotivating without being condescending! So, anyone interested in being friends, feel free to add me!0
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