How do I learn to control myself

I was the same always eating crap i stopped buying 1 crap thing at a time or put the sweets and biscuits in my teenage kids rooms so i could not see them out of sight and all that .
Friends on MFP are always a good way to help keep yourself in check.

Honestly getting over the hump is hard but once you start not giving in to snacks you'll find that it gets much easier as you go. It helped me to get rid of all the snacks I liked for about a month and to give my husband a list to do the shopping (I told my husband to get the snacks that he liked and that I hated). Once I started buying them again I still wanted to eat them but I had also gotten into a routine with my meals. So now I could snack and give myself treats but I had to plan them out. If I get a craving for something I could either log it for the next day right as I'm craving it, log it for that day and decide if it was worth it to replace that one meal plan, or I could log it with the meal and exercise for the extra calories before I ate (Always do it before).

Try to win smart, not hard. Tackle the easiest things first then gradually move to the hardest. It will take time, and your weight loss may not be as great at first (if any) but you will end up winning the war long term instead of a temporary battle of willpower. What high calorie food you are not particularly attached to? Start by controlling that.

Example: if I have constant access to say, cookies, ice cream and chips and I find chips the hardest to control and ice cream the easiest, I would start by trying to reduce my ice cream portions. Once I have that under my complete control and I'm able to only eat reasonable amounts I move to controlling cookies, and tackle chips last after I have built some confidence in my food control strategies with practice.

Another useful thing to do is to set certain rules for your food intake that are not too overwhelming.
Example: If you feel never eating pizza would be too overwhelming, only allow yourself to eat pizza after you've had a large salad and a bowl of soup. It would make it easier because you will already be feeling full and that slice or two of pizza would be just for the sake of enjoyment, not to stave off hunger.

Set yourself up for success instead of trying to white knuckle it.
Example: there is no point in keeping a bowl full of candies on the counter then struggle to control your intake. Have a bowl of ready to eat vegetables or berries on the counter, and put the candies in the darkest corner of your cupboard. This way your husband will have access to his favorite foods but it won't be standing there teasing you every time you pass by. If you want a piece you will have to physically reach for it, removing all the other items blocking access to it, which will give you enough time to evaluate your impulses instead of immediately act on them. I do that with the fridge as well. I keep the lowest calorie foods in front and the higher calorie foods in the back so if I'm tempted to just randomly grab something from the fridge, my eye doesn't immediately fall on the higher calorie foods.

Talk to your husband about buying calorie offensive foods in smaller amounts, just enough to sustain his weekly intake. You will be less inclined to consume a lot of it because you know you would be robbing him of his usual intake which might make you feel uncomfortable enough not to go overboard.

You won't get a medal for having the best willpower. It's okay to work smarter rather than harder. As you continue dieting you will collect and develop your own food strategies and become more confident in your choices.

Try to purchase and meal plan according to your weight loss goals and tell hubby he can buy and eat his food while he's out of the house. Planning my meals in individual containers makes it easier for me to stay on track because I can pull it out and heat it up TV dinner style without putting any thought into it at meal time. If I have 5 lunches in the fridge, I know I can only eat one a day or I won't have anything to eat on day 5.

I started slow. Cut out pop then candy. Stopped buying things like chips and cookies cause if they're here I'll eat them. The biggest thing that helped me was drinking more water. The more water I drink , the less I crave junk.

I actually have a memory from the first time I lost weight. I was sitting there, measured out half a cup of ice cream and was doing my best to stick to it, but god I wanted more. I even started pacing back and forth until I picked up the ice cream and screamed YOU DON'T CONTROL ME!!!!! I know it sounds so funny now but at the time I was so frustrated with my lack of self control. I poured water into the ice cream and threw it out and just stopped buying it.

Honestly that's what worked for me, I stopped buying snacks food, ate fruit when I wanted a snack and spent a long time feeling unhappy about it. But as the weight came off, I began to feel better. There is hope! I'll send you a FR, I have a 3 month old at home

I love @amusedmonkey 's suggestions - I relate to eating whatever is in my eye line. I have a couple of kids and they often leave chocolate, sweets, and cakes out on the counter top in the kitchen. These are harder to resist than when I put them in the cupboard.