When do people notice your weight loss?
Fatvaporizer
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I've gone from 210 lbs to 183 lbs and so far, 80% of people I know haven't noticed. The ones who did only say 'your belly got flat!' But just my belly? Honestly, I care a lot about my face getting slim, but no one seems to mention it. What's that NUMBER when people start noticing, because for me, apparently it's not 30 lbs.
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No one ever does for me and I like it that way.8
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Other than my husband, no one has mentioned my 21 pound loss. That's ok, I always feel awkward when talking about it anyway.9
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I started at 202.5 and started getting comments in the 170s. I am 5'6", to put it in perspective. Most of the initial comments were "did you do something different with your hair?" Either people really could not figure it out or they did but were hedging for fear of me getting upset when they commented on my weight.7
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People may notice but aren't saying anything because it's incredibly awkward and tacky to discuss weight with people. Really you want a bunch of people coming up to you and saying damn you were fat before but now you're looking a lot better? I hate that conversation - just nooooo...23
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Just because they don't say it does not mean they haven't noticed.
generally talking about someone else's body isn't a thing people consider polite conversation. It can often be very awkward and uncomfortable to bring it up. People don't know if you have really lost weight, if you lost it on purpose, if it is because you are sick. It is probable that people close to you who have known you as overweight/obese know that the subject has been uncomfortable for you in the past and don't want to upset you in case they are wrong.
There are lots of reasons why people don't say anything.
If you want to be reassured that someone noticed just bring it up. Say perhaps expressing a choice of restaurants because one particular one has nutrition information available and you are currently working on your weight.
Of course once you tell people and confirm for them that the subject is open for discussion and that you are "dieting" that opens up a whole other can of worms.
Just enjoy knowing that you are succeeding.
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Just be proud of your own accomplishments. Walk with your head high and shoulders back. Some people notice, but might be a little jealous and not want to compliment you, but wish they could do it themselves. The only one you have to please is yourself. Good job.
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I have had a lot of people mention my hair. I suspect it looks like I have more because my face is thinner. I do have one guy at work who refers to me as the incredible shrinking woman. I am down 28 and started at 244.5
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I'm 5'8. So far I've gone from 199 to 163 in four months. The only person who said anything about my weight loss was the creepy guy at work. That's the one person I do not want to look at my body at all!! Lol.21
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someone asked me if I had cancer last week lost 100lbs fairly fast4
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Only your fam and good friends would say something. That's how it was for me. Other women are jealous, and men not in your circle of good friends, dare not.4
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They probably notice after you make 20 threads on my fitness pal about your weight loss11
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I went from 230 to 197 then back to 210, now I'm 203 lol ... I did loose weight BIG time about 5 years ago, I lost close to 70 lbs (went from 200 to 135), I think people notice you're loosing weight around the 20-25 mark They just don't say anything because it's kinda awkward. Unless you're weird like me , they think you're weird already and like to talk about that stuff. 1
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mysteps2beauty wrote: »Only your fam and good friends would say something. That's how it was for me. Other women are jealous, and men not in your circle of good friends, dare not.
OP is a male... and women are not automatically jealous.9 -
most people don't start to really show loss until they get to around the 20# mark. The bigger you are when you start, the larger the losses before people see it. As for losing the fullness in the face, you can't control when or how the body takes weight off. I didn't really get skinnier in the face until I reach about 30 pounds loss (which was about 210 pounds) Your results are sure to be different.5
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It took me exactly 15 pounds to be able to notice I looked a tiny bit smaller, and that was looking in a mirror naked. So I would imagine it would take more for others to notice. I agree with others saying around 20-25 pounds it becomes more noticeable to others.3
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Chef_Barbell wrote: »mysteps2beauty wrote: »Only your fam and good friends would say something. That's how it was for me. Other women are jealous, and men not in your circle of good friends, dare not.
OP is a male... and women are not automatically jealous.
Guess I'm hanging around the wrong folks....I live in LA and everybody is trying to outdo everybody else.
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I notice when people lose weight but worry about coming across in the wrong way. In general people don't say many compliments to men, unfortunately, even if they are thinking something flattering.4
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It was at 30# for me that people started to notice. I would keep a list of compliments which became very encouraging when things got tough and I wanted to give up.1
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The last 25 pounds is when it seems everyone truly noticed my weight loss and began making comments. But, I was very overweight to begin with so the first 50 didn't seem that huge of a difference. The next 50 it became obvious I was losing, and then... once I went below 180 and began wearing clothing that actually fit, that's when I got the most comments.5
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I have lost just over 53 lbs and only one person has commented (and that was my male boss LOL).
I guess a couple of others have said something but they know I'm cutting calories.1 -
I have lost just over 53 lbs and only one person has commented (and that was my male boss LOL).
I guess a couple of others have said something but they know I'm cutting calories.
You would probably have to "fish" for the complements by mentioning something about losing 50 pounds to friends and family to break the ice (so they know it is okay to comment).0 -
MsRuffBuffNStuff wrote: »They probably notice after you make 20 threads on my fitness pal about your weight loss
Can't tell if it's sarcasm or what... but in fact I've only made three posts so far and they're just regular posts like any other, but of course, the main topic is weight loss, as these forums are about that 9 -
I was in stealth mode till it got too obvious. A few people were hesitant to bring it up, but I think it's for the reasons mentioned above--not considered appropriate to do so. I think I started to get comments around the 25 lb mark.2
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I'd say around 50lbs people started approaching me about it. Now that I'm maintaining a 90lb loss they now won't shut up about how I lost too much. Silence can be golden
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Starting at 250. It was about 40 pounds for me .. So about 20 percent weight loss Imop
Good luck
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Are you tall? Weight is easier to hide on a tall body, and it's harder to notice when you've lost some. Also, if people have noticed your face slimming down, they might not have said anything because they thought their words might sound offensive in some way.1
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I have gone from 191 to 146 within a year. No one has noticed and I'm glad no one has. I still wear the same clothes as before so thats probably why. Anyway...celebrate being healthier and leaner! At the end of the day, it's for you and no one else.3
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I started at 202.5 and started getting comments in the 170s. I am 5'6", to put it in perspective. Most of the initial comments were "did you do something different with your hair?" Either people really could not figure it out or they did but were hedging for fear of me getting upset when they commented on my weight.
They were hedging. I'd bet he hairstyle comments are letting you know that they are likely noticing something different about your face slimming down and the new way the hair frames it.
Occasionally I'll get a comment like, "You look great" from relatives I only get to see occasionally. That is code for "I notice you lost weight". I say, "Thanks I lost a few pounds, have been working out, and feel great". Then they relax and we carry on as normal.6 -
With me, people started noticing at around 20kg's. After 40kg's it seems to be all they ever talk about.2
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Lose weight for yourself, not for others. If people do notice or comment that's a nice ego boost but remember you're doing it for you!2
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