Training when Sad Events happen?

AsrarHussain
AsrarHussain Posts: 1,424 Member
in Motivation and Support
Hello
I just got news today, My Granddad passed away, how do you cope, the last thing on my mind is training, I am trying to keep myself distracted, I get upset if I think of him.
I ask this, it may seem selfish, do you still train, I am thinking of taking couple days off and recover, I wanted your guys input, this site has offered me help, I just came here for your support.

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  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    I don't think training in this situation is selfish, unless you're doing it to the extent that it's keeping you from people or situations that need you. However, if you need to take a few days off, too, that's also completely ok.
  • AsrarHussain
    AsrarHussain Posts: 1,424 Member
    jennifer_417 wrote: »
    I don't think training in this situation is selfish, unless you're doing it to the extent that it's keeping you from people or situations that need you. However, if you need to take a few days off, too, that's also completely ok.

    I am trying not to think of the situation. I am keeping myself distracted. I won't train tomorrow, tomorrow is the funeral.
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    Going to the gym is my therapy. When I feel bad, it is the first thing that will help me feel better.
  • MostlyWater
    MostlyWater Posts: 4,294 Member
    I don't see how one has anything to do with the other, but then again, I haven't had grand parents in many years, and when I did, we weren't close.

    If you don't feel like taking an upbeat Zumba class, fine. Wallow in your sadness on the dreadmill. But it's a lifestyle. Exercise isn't done because we feel like it. We do it to take care of our bodies and our health.
  • ktra2014
    ktra2014 Posts: 21 Member
    Firstly - sorry for your loss mate. Train if you can, but if you need time out then don't punish yourself for doing so. Completely understandable. If you think the training could distract you then go right ahead. I use the punchbag a lot - good escapism. All the best mate

    Love this I agree. Don't punish yourself if you need to take time off but if you want to train don't feel like your being disrespectful of the situation, if is a good way for you to escape go for it is completely up to how you feel about it.

    Sorry for your loss.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Continuing to cycle and lift was my therapy when my dad passed a few years ago...I also knew how proud my dad was of me for getting my crap together and becoming a healthier person...something he never did, thus his early demise at age 62...I knew he'd want me to keep on keepin' on.

    My dad ultimately passed away due to complications from type II diabetes...his passing is what motivated me to sign up and train for my first century ride (which ended up being 1/2 century due to and injury during my training)...the ADA's Tour de Cure...I pinned a picture of he and myself onto my jersey during the ride.

    When I ride now I am at my most peaceful and can feel my dad with me...I can see him when I'm riding and watching a bird in flight...I can feel him in the breeze and hear him whistle through the trees as I ride by...he is a part of every ride I ride...
  • kekeke123
    kekeke123 Posts: 19 Member
    If it makes you feel better to take your mind off it, then train. If it makes you feel worse then don't. It is not selfish to do either of them, just do what makes you feel a bit better. I am sorry youre going throug this.
  • 2run2ski
    2run2ski Posts: 133 Member
    I'm sorry you lost your granddad. It's normal to not feel like doing anything after receiving such an emotional punch. Take care of yourself and your family in whatever way feels best for you. If that includes some exercise, great! If it doesn't, don't worry about it---the desire to train will come back. Losing those we love, I think, is the hardest type of experience to face. But, you will get through it. And, I promise, you will feel happy again....
  • tamaraworrall
    tamaraworrall Posts: 166 Member
    My nan died suddenly in February,I still carried on exercising because it helped me.i don't go out drinking or release stress and upset any other way. The day of her funeral I went swimming and to the gym before hand due to it being on in the afternoon. Everyone deals with grief differently
  • kgirlhart
    kgirlhart Posts: 5,164 Member
    kekeke123 wrote: »
    If it makes you feel better to take your mind off it, then train. If it makes you feel worse then don't. It is not selfish to do either of them, just do what makes you feel a bit better. I am sorry youre going throug this.

    This. And I am sorry for your loss. Just do what feels best to you.
  • AshSarahP
    AshSarahP Posts: 33 Member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Everyone's needs and reactions in these types of situations differ. My father passed away in June and for me, my HIIT fitness and Zumba classes have been my escape from the overthinking and have probably kept depressive behaviours at bay.

    Alternatively, don't beat yourself up too much if you take a "breather" from your training during this time, just don't forget to look after yourself.
  • canadianlbs
    canadianlbs Posts: 5,199 Member
    i always seem to lose a little strength when i'm really sad so i relate to your feel. but go anyway if you want to - i don't think that carrying on with your regular life is disrespectful to your grandfather or to your own feelings about losing him.

    if you don't want to, then that's okay too.
  • joans1976
    joans1976 Posts: 2,201 Member
    Be kind to yourself, no matter what. It's not "wallowing" or bad to take it down a notch. Or take it up a notch. Do whatever you need to do to get through this. Take care.
  • ItzLahLah2u
    ItzLahLah2u Posts: 172 Member
    Going to the gym keeps me centered. You should do whatever will give you peace and not feel guilty about it.
  • crackpotbaby
    crackpotbaby Posts: 1,297 Member
    Don't prioritise the gym for family in a single short term crisis.

    But greive however you want. If that means maintain your routine and keep your head clear, so be it.
  • lorrpb
    lorrpb Posts: 11,463 Member
    Maybe just go for a walk, run, or bike ride to help clear your head.

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