Infatuation vs Love

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  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    edited October 2016
    AnnyisOK wrote: »
    salembambi wrote: »
    I think most people never know love only an inflated form of infatuation

    I often think this too.
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    AnnyisOK wrote: »
    How do you define the two?
    I think people can fall out of love with a spouse, but not as much with their children. Many would sacrifice themselves for their children out of love. For spouses................well with a 50% divorce rate on average, probably not so much.

    Infactuation is just a "dream" wish of a relationship that likely isn't really going to turn out that way.

    The issue here is that many people on average may have 7 serious relationships in their lifetime and they are choosing the best relationship from that. And with over 4 billion people on Earth, that's not a lot to really know if you've really met the love of your life.

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    And this is a fear of mine. What if you never find the love of your life? What if people over time settle for content? Well, I guess there's nothing wrong with that, better than being unhappy.

    We all settle, we never attain 100% of what we desire; in any facet of life! Settling is why despite there being numerous people around the world, we tend to choose someone; within a few miles!
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    heck, I'd settle for infatuation....

    it's better than nuthin' *shrug
  • sw33tp3a_1
    sw33tp3a_1 Posts: 795 Member
    There's many types of love. I have known two kinds..your first love... and then the love that you will always compare to someone else. Loving them regardless if you are together or not and knowing that no one will ever take their place in your heart.

    I've also known infatuation. Those people are replaceable. They come into your life for whatever purpose...then they go.
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,741 Member
    I had a friend who took a human sexuality course in college. They posed this same question and the answer they came up with was, "You know when it's over".
  • AnnyisOK
    AnnyisOK Posts: 121 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    I had a friend who took a human sexuality course in college. They posed this same question and the answer they came up with was, "You know when it's over".

    I completely agree with that.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Lots of great replies on here. Not sure I can add anything new. Infatuation is when you feel lust and attraction, you want to have sex with them and experience them that way, you are living out a fantasy with them (and you know that), it's fun, but you probably know it's temporary because you probably aren't compatible in certain ways, but you indulge in it for fun because you have chemistry and sexual compatibility that lasts until it wears off. Love is when your friendship/relationship causes you both to grow as people and become better, healthier, happier, self aware people. When you know that they are the one you always want most. When you stand with each other through the most difficult things in life to catch each other during those difficult times and it increases your love instead of decreasing it. When the things that you get annoyed by are actually things you love about them too. When you each want the other to be happy. When you can envision every life stage with them. When a hug from them takes your stress away. And you see yourself in a better way through their eyes because they love you.
  • AngelinaB_
    AngelinaB_ Posts: 563 Member
    edited October 2016
    If you like him/ her physically it's infatuation
    If you like him/ her intellectually it's admiration
    If you like him/ her physically and intellectually is a combo of infatuation and admiration.
    If you don't know why in the world you like this person more than anybody else it's love :smile:
  • Svanel
    Svanel Posts: 6,255 Member
    Infatuation. I'm currently experiencing this at work. lol It's lust, seeing the outer shell, not seeing the inside - that comes when you truly want to get to know someone and take the time to get there. Wanting the physical, not really concerned with the heart of it all. I do believe love can grow from an infatuation, given time.

    Love. For me, it's my best friend. I love him. More than words can say. Distance separates us. Perhaps one day it won't. But, that's ok. I know he loves me too. Encouragement, loving without restrictions, knowing all and realizing that the person is only human and their imperfections are indeed real..but you still need/want them anyway. A sacred bond that only the two of you know, see, feel and fight for. When you can truly be your true self within the comfort of them.
  • distinctlybeautiful
    distinctlybeautiful Posts: 1,041 Member
    Reading this makes me wonder if infatuation can't turn into love. I think there's more to infatuation than just lust. I think it also means seeing the object of your infatuation through rose -colored glasses. You only see the good. Even things that would be annoying or less-than-ideal in a long-term relationship can be things you find cute or endearing in someone you're infatuated with. But who's to say that after that wears off you don't still find yourself attracted to and caring about - or even loving - that person? We definitely don't start off loving someone we've just met, so we've got to start somewhere. I'm not saying that all love starts off as infatuation, but I'd imagine some does.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    distinctlybeautiful wrote: »
    Reading this makes me wonder if infatuation can't turn into love. I think there's more to infatuation than just lust. I think it also means seeing the object of your infatuation through rose -colored glasses. You only see the good. Even things that would be annoying or less-than-ideal in a long-term relationship can be things you find cute or endearing in someone you're infatuated with. But who's to say that after that wears off you don't still find yourself attracted to and caring about - or even loving - that person? We definitely don't start off loving someone we've just met, so we've got to start somewhere. I'm not saying that all love starts off as infatuation, but I'd imagine some does.

    Oh yeah. Definitely. I just thought the question meant the difference between only infatuation that isn't turning to love vs. Love.
  • Jimb376mfp
    Jimb376mfp Posts: 6,236 Member
    Just wait..if it goes away it was just infatuation.
  • amandablair90
    amandablair90 Posts: 38 Member
    I think infatuation is consisted of an idea -- that picture created in one's head. The ideal concept. The scenarios you imagine with said person. What we call a crush.. that silly obsession.

    Love, however, is seeing the scary bits, the flaws, the damage ... a person in their entirety -- and even with those things out in the open, it's all worth it. It's all beautiful to you.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Everyone starts with infatuation. Love is something that is gained and nurtured over time. Some fall faster than others, and some never get there at all.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Love is *kitten*.

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