cant get friends feel so alone

courtneyfabulous wrote: »

I just added you.

At least your husband and kids are supportive- some of us don't even have that. I'm doing this pretty much on my own.

But the commitment to weight loss (and maintenance) needs to come from within. Only YOU are responsible for you. Others can inspire you, that's where having a sense of community through myfitnesspal is helpful, but only you can control what goes on your plate and into your mouth.

It helps to have the right knowledge and tools, which luckily you have because you've got myfitnesspal - just make sure to set a reasonable goal weight and not too aggressive a weight loss rate. The people who set their calories low and try to lose as fast as possible never last long and hardly ever make it to their goal... be consistent and go slow.

Good luck!

That's true too. My wife was really an enabler for my bad decisions for awhile (not intentionally she just wanted me happy) when I was alone I'd be doing great, and when she was around I would slack off, but now she helps prep my meals, spots me on lifts occasionally, or gives me company at the park when I run. She even plans to start her own journey in the next 2 weeks.

JoshD8705 wrote: »

courtneyfabulous wrote: »

I just added you.

At least your husband and kids are supportive- some of us don't even have that. I'm doing this pretty much on my own.

But the commitment to weight loss (and maintenance) needs to come from within. Only YOU are responsible for you. Others can inspire you, that's where having a sense of community through myfitnesspal is helpful, but only you can control what goes on your plate and into your mouth.

It helps to have the right knowledge and tools, which luckily you have because you've got myfitnesspal - just make sure to set a reasonable goal weight and not too aggressive a weight loss rate. The people who set their calories low and try to lose as fast as possible never last long and hardly ever make it to their goal... be consistent and go slow.

Good luck!

That's true too. My wife was really an enabler for my bad decisions for awhile (not intentionally she just wanted me happy) when I was alone I'd be doing great, and when she was around I would slack off, but now she helps prep my meals, spots me on lifts occasionally, or gives me company at the park when I run. She even plans to start her own journey in the next 2 weeks.

That's awesome!!

Chrissywebb400 wrote: »

Oh yes I know it all is on me that is why I brought out all my excercise stuff and I have goals set all over my house to keep me motivated to do it. I wont fail this time.

Hey Chrissy! You are not alone. You're HERE on the most awesome online support site for health and weight loss. You made the first step by joining and you are at the beginning of an amazing journey to better health. I'm sending you a friend request.

Just a couple suggestions that will help encourage you.

Read the Success Stories thread. Look at all the great pics of people who were just were you are. See how far they've come.

Look for some groups to join. Lots of great support groups with new friends who have similar goals.

When you're ready, join some fitness challenge groups. SO FUN! You will be wanting to do exercise to meet team goals. People of all shapes, sizes, weights and ages belong. No requirement to be super fit. That's the end game.

Send out random friend requests. Some people will accept and you probably won't even notice when others don't. You can find new people on your newsfeed who are friends of friends.

Good luck on your journey! Make it fun!

Feel free to add me for a chat

Chrissywebb400 wrote: »

Hi my name is chrissy im 28 years old and I have been trying to lose weight sense September 29,2014 I was 212 and now im 207.6 . Im so mad at myself I cant seem to commit to anything to help myself lose weight. I feel so alone and have no support other then my husband and kids this so sucks doing this all alone. I had to get my mental health better before I could focus on weight loss. Im taking wellbutrin so not much of a appetite .

I can so relate to you. I am on the same boat. I keep trying to lose weight and each time I just quit. To be very honest I was thinking I probably don't love myself enough. I have friends but they don't really relate to weight loss the way I do. I have been overweight for almost 15 years now. After putting it off for 2 months I stepped on the scale today and found that I had gained almost all the weight I had lost in the last sprint. But I am glad I did it today and did not put it off further. 10 weeks to new year and I hope we all step into 2017 healthier. My current weight is 170 and my goal weight is 130. Adding you as friend.
Feel free to add me.

Welcome to being human! I definitely hear you-- it took me 8 years to lose 30 pounds, but looking back, I actually did it...quit so many times and picked it back up so many times, but I'm grateful today for the choices I made yesterday...and years ago.

Sometimes it helps to post a motivational quote or mantra that you'll see every day. I know it's cheesy, but it works! I also put some of my favorite motivational quotes in my phone as "meetings" - that way, they pop up and tell me things like: "If you want something you've never had, you have to do things you've never done"....Feel free to add me-- you've already got loads of support :)