Coming unhinged

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  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    littlemissbgiff wrote: »
    Full disclosure I do have 3 children from a previous marriage. But my baby is 11 and it's just not cool to hang with your mom anymore.

    Gratitude is the key to happiness. You have 3 children. Some people don't have any. :/
  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    littlemissbgiff wrote: »
    AskTracyAnnK28 wrote: »
    littlemissbgiff wrote: »
    Full disclosure I do have 3 children from a previous marriage. But my baby is 11 and it's just not cool to hang with your mom anymore.

    Well, you have 3 kids so maybe you should count your blessings and move on? I could never imagine starting over with a new baby after 40.

    I hope I didn't come off as ungrateful for them, I am not. It's just hard to read the news and see stories about neglected or abused children, or worse go to Walmart and see some 6 month pregnant teenager with meth scabs all over her face and a dirty toddler in her cart and not wonder why I don't deserve to have another one. I gave up a career path in forensic anthropology 17 years ago to be a mother. It's all I know. Perhaps that sounds sad to some but I'm proud of that. I simply wanted to share that with my husband.

    Maybe you should consider adoption or being a foster parent?
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    @littlemissbgiff, The OTC stuff you can try includes St. John's Wort and a little 85% cocoa chocolate. That offers a little help to keep you on track.

    FYI I spent part of yesterday researching buttermilk, and decided to buy from www.culturesforhealth.com some starter cultures for fermented dairy products. It's no big deal, really, but it's going to be a thing to do, a responsibility with life-or-death consequences for those little bacteria and perhaps even some beneficial health consequences for my family. Maybe a little something like that, a new thing, a thing to do, a thing that helps you, is what you need to start finding your way back to stability.
  • kingdomtech
    kingdomtech Posts: 24 Member
    Personally, I am a spiritual person. I have found that my weight loss on MFP (45 lbs. so far) has come from a change on the inside, not validating myself with what is on the outside. Again, every person is different and I hope I am not being overt. But the true questions for myself was, "who am I?", "what matters most to me?", and "of all the things that matter to me, what am I actually in control of changing?. That is my guidepost. I'll admit, I look around at 36 yr old and recognize that this was not were I expected to be. However, the problem wasn't life, it was my exceptions. I hope yours will change too. Then real healing can happen... Good luck
  • AudJanexo
    AudJanexo Posts: 30 Member
    I can relate on a lot of levels. I struggle with severe depression and food is also my comfort. You do achieve a feeling of accomplishment however when you do make healthy choices. I suggest making a healthy version of one of your comfort foods... Try taking a hot shower or bath with candles and good music. Sleep & cry it off, sometimes thats what ya have to do. I hope you feel better soon. If you cant go all in , just do one small thing like drink a glass of water. Put your feet first and your heart will follow.
    xoxo
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  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    littlemissbgiff wrote: »
    jenilla1 wrote: »
    littlemissbgiff wrote: »
    Full disclosure I do have 3 children from a previous marriage. But my baby is 11 and it's just not cool to hang with your mom anymore.

    Gratitude is the key to happiness. You have 3 children. Some people don't have any. :/

    Some people don't have a lot. That's neither my problem nor my question. I was asking how people cope with their lows without derailing their progress.

    I can change my state via exercise. Some forms work better than others. Are you walking in nature? http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/07/22/how-nature-changes-the-brain/?_r=0

    I also think it's good to reevaluate goals periodically. Why not adopt? My fiance was adopted. I've observed how he's been a blessing to his now elderly adoptive parents. I love him all the more for the compassion and kindness he's shown during their twilight years, and in his father's case, death.
  • Raynne413
    Raynne413 Posts: 1,527 Member
    I will second the yoga suggestion. I am VERY Type A and all of my workouts are VERY active, so doing something like yoga, which is slower (or CAN be) tends to be VERY hard for me to do. I find myself thinking more in the terms of burning calories and then start thinking I should be doing something more intense. But I've been having health issues lately and have started making myself do yoga every afternoon after work, even if it is just 20 minutes, and it REALLY helps.

    Also, have you looked at any of the adult coloring books? I find that doing that for awhile helps reset my mind, AND it keeps my hands busy.

    I wish you and your husband all the best.
  • SerendipityBlues
    SerendipityBlues Posts: 7 Member
    toned_thugs_n_harmony wrote: »
    with exercise and marijuana...excessive amounts of both.

    You are my kind of person! Let's be friends.
  • edup1975
    edup1975 Posts: 486 Member
    Hello. If you looking to talk feel free to add me. I am sure there is something that you like to do that makes you happy. Retail therapy ? Reading?
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  • tcunbeliever
    tcunbeliever Posts: 8,219 Member
    I like violent exercise when I am upset - punching and kicking instead of reaching for the chocolate and chips.
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