Getting discouraged and bad feedback from others

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  • Bduv121
    Bduv121 Posts: 6 Member
    You really so not need ayone approval nor will they tell you that you look good misery loves company be happy for yourself no one else great job keep up the great work not going to be easy but I'd it was everyone will be doing it
  • firef1y72
    firef1y72 Posts: 1,579 Member
    Jeckia wrote: »
    Hey everyone..

    I've been on my weight loss journey for about 2 years I was just about 230lbs when I started. I was a size 20 and took a size shirt between a 2x-3x I was a big girl for being 5'2"

    Since then I've lost a lot of weight... Well I think I have. I'm down to about 185-180ish it goes between there. I'm stuck and can't get past there. Anyways. I know fit into juniors clothes and for women's I take a size 8. Shirts I take a size medium or sometimes a large.

    Some of my friends have said I look great, but I still get a lot of negative feedback saying I still don't look good in clothes or that I should lose more weight and it's really depressing.

    At the moment I can't upload a photo because of the computer I'm on. But still. I guess that's still not good enough now a days for the public eyes to see. They want everyone to be super skinny.

    Sorry I'm going to be a bit blunt here, but while you've done a great job losing so far, they're right you could do with losing more, just to get to a relatively heathy overweight rather than obese. I'm the same height as you and around the same weight and I need to lose at least another 40lb to get to a healthy weight (and that's the top end of healthy). If the numbers are too big then break them in to smaller chunks, but please don't consider anything below 180lb at 5'2" even skinny let alone super skinny. I'm under no illusions that I'm still fat at a UK 16 (which I believe is a US 10).
  • mariekathleen78
    mariekathleen78 Posts: 17 Member
    What you have already done is a HUGE accomplishment. For those people to say you still don't look good is just demeaning and shouldn't be considered friends. Friends should motivate you and could choose their choice of words more carefully. But what they say and think does not matter one bit. What matters is what you think and how you feel. You should be proud. Whether you are at your goal or not, the fact that you are taking care of yourself is something to be proud of. You look amazing, you probably feel amazing, and you're healthy. That's all that matters.
    Hugs to you!!
  • alexisslolypop
    alexisslolypop Posts: 4,593 Member
    Jeckia wrote: »
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    I went from the picture on the left to the picture on the right. Like i said my scale at home says 180-185ish
    So maybe something is wrong. Idk

    Girl, you're looking great!!!

    People who didn't go through weight loss think it is easy. Cut down kcal and go to gym 3-5 times a week and that's it. It sounds easy, but we all know it isn't. Like somebody said, keep your head up and be proud of how far you came... Keep going!!! Don't doubt yourself, you can do it!

    There is always gonna be some negativity, that is just how it is. But don't let it affect you.
  • kimirayray
    kimirayray Posts: 29 Member
    Same thing happened to me. I lost 12 pounds, was proud of myself, was working out too. Then at a family party a family member was passing around cake and before I even said yes or no they said "it's not fattening". Then another family member started talking to me about how to lose weight. They didn't even notice. Then while describing to another family member why my shoulder was hurt, because of push ups on the wall. They said "well don't do so much because when you have a lot of excess weight you can get hurt". So, I see why fat people stay fat. It is depressing. However, I chose to stick my fingers in m ears and take comfort in my own awareness of how good I was doing. It's paying off. Don't listen. You are perfect the way you are. You lose weight for you not others anyway.
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    firef1y72 wrote: »
    Jeckia wrote: »
    Hey everyone..

    I've been on my weight loss journey for about 2 years I was just about 230lbs when I started. I was a size 20 and took a size shirt between a 2x-3x I was a big girl for being 5'2"

    Since then I've lost a lot of weight... Well I think I have. I'm down to about 185-180ish it goes between there. I'm stuck and can't get past there. Anyways. I know fit into juniors clothes and for women's I take a size 8. Shirts I take a size medium or sometimes a large.

    Some of my friends have said I look great, but I still get a lot of negative feedback saying I still don't look good in clothes or that I should lose more weight and it's really depressing.

    At the moment I can't upload a photo because of the computer I'm on. But still. I guess that's still not good enough now a days for the public eyes to see. They want everyone to be super skinny.

    Sorry I'm going to be a bit blunt here, but while you've done a great job losing so far, they're right you could do with losing more, just to get to a relatively heathy overweight rather than obese. I'm the same height as you and around the same weight and I need to lose at least another 40lb to get to a healthy weight (and that's the top end of healthy). If the numbers are too big then break them in to smaller chunks, but please don't consider anything below 180lb at 5'2" even skinny let alone super skinny. I'm under no illusions that I'm still fat at a UK 16 (which I believe is a US 10).

    uk 16 is a 12 in the us according to one chart,according to another its what you quoted. every chart says something different probably due to vanity sizing here in the states
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    You keep going and prove to them (and yourself) that you can do it. 50 lbs is awesome, by the way!
  • snowflake954
    snowflake954 Posts: 8,399 Member
    You have done so well so far--congratulations! Now YOU have to decide. Do you stop here? Yes, losing weight gets harder as you get smaller. That means a bigger commitment on your part. You will have to closely watch your intake--weigh and measure everything, and stay consistently within your calorie limit. You don't say if you're exercising, but this could help your look alot. Think about it and then do what's best for you. You are already a success, so go for the icing on the cake...cute huh?
  • whatatime2befit
    whatatime2befit Posts: 625 Member
    Many people seem to think they have a right to comment on others bodies, looks, etc. You have to be happy with yourself and ignore everyone else. Are you happy with how you look? Is your doctor satisfied with the weight you are now? If yes to both, then you have to ignore others and outright state "I'm happy with how I look" when anyone says anything negative.
    I've lost a lot of weight and fell in love with weight lifting, I've had several people tell me that I'm getting too muscular or that they don't like how I look now, and I always reply that I love how I look and I don't have enough muscle yet to my liking. It's my body, my decision on how I want my body to look. Feel free to add me if you want. I started out at 224 lbs and am 5'1ish as well.

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