Weight loss severly stressed

I am trying to lose weight. However I am extremely stressed. My husband has a very dangerous job and one of his coworkers died recently. I need some coping suggestions please .

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  • CurlyCockney
    CurlyCockney Posts: 1,394 Member
    I can't relate to your situation, but when I'm in a stressful situation I ask myself what would I advise a good friend to do? And then I do that!

    Be your own good friend.
  • smaximiek
    smaximiek Posts: 4 Member
    When you find yourself reaching for food, stop.
    Take a breath.
    Take a drink of water.
    Have some gum.
    And start a regular exercise routine if you not already.
    Try a short mediation routine daily.
    Start journaling.

    Its ok to have fears and concerns. Just don't let them rule you.
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
    My sympathies to you for your situation.

    The good news is, weight loss doesn't have to be stressful.

    Don't starve yourself! Just weigh your food and log it in MFP. Set yourself a 0.5 to 1 lb weekly weight loss goal, and eat back 50-75% of your exercise calories.

    Don't worry about being a Crunchy Granola Kale Queen. Just eat what you feel like within your calorie limit. Keep an eye on protein but don't stress too much.

    Don't try and follow any diets. The best diet is one that lets you feel satisfied while eating less calories than you burn. Different foods satisfy different people.

    Best wishes.
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    I am trying to lose weight. However I am extremely stressed. My husband has a very dangerous job and one of his coworkers died recently. I need some coping suggestions please .

    Therapy
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,324 Member
    Start taking care of yourself. Eat right and exercise.. it will make you feel better. Just make yourself do it.. Stress is a vicious cycle and it can keep you from eating right and exercising and worry escalates. also.. Keep busy, watch upliftting positive movies and t.v... hang out with fun friends.. Keep focused on positive things.

    Don't borrow trouble. It is a mistake to think if you worry real hard nothing bad will happen.. Your husband is going to be fine.. trust in that.
  • HippySkoppy
    HippySkoppy Posts: 725 Member
    MissusMoon wrote: »
    I've lost 106.5lbs right now. I've done it under enormous stress. My mother with kidney cancer, my father needing care with severe diabetes, my husband's health falling apart, a pending child custody battle, my in laws having strokes and other health issues. That's just some of it.

    Controlling my intake and exercising have kept me sane. It has been pretty much the only thing in my entire life I could control. It gave me power over something, and the exercise relieved the stress in a healthy way. I'm still going through it, and I'm still losing.

    You are in control of this, too. You choose how you handle the stress. Make a decision about how strong you are and do what you need to do. No "there there" and "hugs" have truly been enough to help me. Being in control of myself has. This is within your power and ability.

    @MissusMoon I just wanted to say how in awe I am of your strength and courage in the face of such difficult experiences. Your persistence and message of hope is very inspring. <3

    You are doing an incredible job of looking after yourself which in turn can only help those around you in their time of need. I hope and pray that life gets easier for you as time goes on.

    Take care and hugs.

    Op - by looking after yourself and putting your health needs as a priority you will be doing the very best for not only yourself but the man you love. Focusing on getting nutritious food, rest and perhaps pursuing an exercise regime that helps mitigate the day to day stress you are under will be a positive experience.

    In doing so it can also give you a sense of control in those areas, which given the out of control nature of your Husband's safety at this point could be very reassuring.

    I do wish you all the best, worry and anxiety is a life sucking experience and truly don't be afraid to seek outside support and professional help if none of the strategies suggested help you. <3
  • applesandtapeline
    applesandtapeline Posts: 58 Member
    Find activities that reduce your stress, make you feel better and helps to reach your health goals.
    It's hard to switch the mind off, but you're not helping anyone when stressed out.
  • trigden1991
    trigden1991 Posts: 4,658 Member
    I can't offer any advice on your situation but would say that a calorie deficit is always a calorie deficit!
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    edited November 2016
    Since you and your husband are on the road constantly with your professions, try to balance out a time to reach out to those closest in your life, perhaps others that are too mourning their loss of this loved one.. Perhaps when he is up high doing his painting and you are waiting on him to finish you can take advantage of this time to reach out to your family.

    When he is working, find stress free ways to cope, find a safe place to walk and reflect. Your husband copes in his ways and you will cope in your ways.. just find a way that works for you.

    I know just the the other day you had concerns on how to eat on the road, I hope that you have started working on this part, as this will help you with your eating habits and being able to stick to your calorie deficit..