Help please in a situation cannot seem to get out off

ashley_mulvey
ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
edited November 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
So was starting to loose weight about 2 weeks ago ever since then i eat and eat and eat and eat and got back into binge eating again i cannot seem to get back on track also when im trying to loose weight i havent a clue if im doing it right if im eating right foods or the right exsersize i just dont see how loosing weight is possible as ive tried all my life
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  • malibu927
    malibu927 Posts: 17,562 Member
    What are your stats? Did you set your goal too aggressively (i.e. set it for 2 pounds a week/1200 calories)?

    There are no right or wrong foods/exercises when it comes to weight loss...all you need is a calorie deficit.
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    malibu927 wrote: »
    What are your stats? Did you set your goal too aggressively (i.e. set it for 2 pounds a week/1200 calories)?

    There are no right or wrong foods/exercises when it comes to weight loss...all you need is a calorie deficit.

    Mine is loose 1 pound a week and 1.300 calories im ok when i get my mind into it but i end up going back round in circles ive come back on here now to really do it this time im determined not to go back to old ways
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    I just dont think im trying enough by sticking to it and i dont no what to eat when loosing weight carnt afford to buy all fancy healthy food
  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    I just dont think im trying enough by sticking to it and i dont no what to eat when loosing weight carnt afford to buy all fancy healthy food

    There's no magic fancy healthy foods needed - just a calorie deficit. If you can't afford fresh fruits and veggies consider buying frozen - much cheaper. A big bag of rice or dried beans are super cheap and can round out your meals. Buy meat on sale.

    1300 is awfully low - are you sure it is an appropriate number for you? Over restricting just leads to disaster in my opinion.
  • VintageFeline
    VintageFeline Posts: 6,771 Member
    Your writing style makes me think you may be in the UK. Every supermarket has weekly fruit and veg specials here and usually three for £10 on meat selections.

    Aldi and Lidl are also super cheap with weekly fruit and veg offers and cheap meat and fish.

    Breakfast can be as simple as porridge if you like it, if you don't, a slice of wholegrain toast and peanut butter?

    So nothing fancy needed, just to count your calories and eat as well as possible so you don't get hungry as well as fitting in treats so you keep mentally happy too.
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    malibu927 wrote: »
    What are your stats? Did you set your goal too aggressively (i.e. set it for 2 pounds a week/1200 calories)?

    There are no right or wrong foods/exercises when it comes to weight loss...all you need is a calorie deficit.

    This.

    What is your height, current weight, age and goal weight?

    You do NOT have to eat 'healthy' to lose weight. I eat around 60-80% healthy, and eff the rest with treats and awesome snacks.

    I agree with Dianne though; your post history does indicate disordered eating. A dietitian (not a nutritionist) may be a good idea to help you, or even a psychologist that can help with cognitive behavioral therapy.

    No not really because im choosing to eat and bindge got nothing to do with my feelings or behavour im just hungry lol and also im 21 weigh 11 stone 5 and want to get to 8 stone 9 or somthing might not sound much 11 stone but i have fat everywhere
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    Your writing style makes me think you may be in the UK. Every supermarket has weekly fruit and veg specials here and usually three for £10 on meat selections.

    Aldi and Lidl are also super cheap with weekly fruit and veg offers and cheap meat and fish.

    Breakfast can be as simple as porridge if you like it, if you don't, a slice of wholegrain toast and peanut butter?

    So nothing fancy needed, just to count your calories and eat as well as possible so you don't get hungry as well as fitting in treats so you keep mentally happy too.

    Thanks yes im from uk and will take go food shopping for healthy bits
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    How tall are you? The whole picture of your needs is formed by your age, height, weight, and activity level.

    What are you over-eating?
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    How tall are you? The whole picture of your needs is formed by your age, height, weight, and activity level.

    What are you over-eating?

    Im 5 ft 2 or somthing im small and fat lol and im not overeating somthing im just not eating what im supoosed to eat i have like a chocolate bar in day and 2 packs of crisp witch i think to me is bindge eating is it not? For me to even loose weight i need to eat next to nothing to get this fat off
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    And as i said i dont really buy healthy food i only buy broccli eggs meat and chicken nuggets dippers chicken breasts chips potatoes erm steak bakes things like that
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    I have a 2 year old that has dippers nuggets and all kinds like that so thats all i buy i carnt afford her food and healthy food at the same time so just halft to eat what i can
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    Can get the odd broccli or lettuce or tomatoes things like that but nothing fancy to acctually cook a meal with like some people can on here
  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    How tall are you? The whole picture of your needs is formed by your age, height, weight, and activity level.

    What are you over-eating?

    Im 5 ft 2 or somthing im small and fat lol and im not overeating somthing im just not eating what im supoosed to eat i have like a chocolate bar in day and 2 packs of crisp witch i think to me is bindge eating is it not? For me to even loose weight i need to eat next to nothing to get this fat off

    Personally, that sounds like a snack to me, not a binge. My binges run more towards 5-6000 calories. But the really important part of binge eating is the feelings of uncontrollability that accompany them. Therapists can give you help and strategies if you're suffering from binges or binge eating disorder. You deserve to get through this.
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    And as i said i dont really buy healthy food i only buy broccli eggs meat and chicken nuggets dippers chicken breasts chips potatoes erm steak bakes things like that

    Everything you've described here, except for the diapers, can be part of a healthy diet. People have told you time and time again that you don't need special foods to lose weight. Why is that so hard for you to believe? If you can answer that question I think you'll be one step closer to being able to do this.

    I do know now that i dont need to eat any fancy foods yes its just when i do eat my normal foods witch isnt really that much i dont seem to loose weight so for me maybe eating healthy things might help me thats why i belive that eating healthy is the way to acctually loosing weight for me i put most my weight on from pregnancy 2 years ago and havent been able to loose it since ive gained more weight since then so either way thanks for the help i started today again to loose weight so im carrying this on untill i do thanks alot for advice and information
  • kam3190
    kam3190 Posts: 157 Member
    Have you started logging your food on my fitness pal? because all you have to do is eat witin the calories it gives you . thats it. You can eat chicken dippers and chips and crisps. You never eed to eat next to nothing.
  • ashley_mulvey
    ashley_mulvey Posts: 67 Member
    kam3190 wrote: »
    Have you started logging your food on my fitness pal? because all you have to do is eat witin the calories it gives you . thats it. You can eat chicken dippers and chips and crisps. You never eed to eat next to nothing.

    I did a few weeks ago but then stopped but today started fresh again so going to start logging everything back in and make a proper go of it this time and great thanks ill eat what i can in my calorie limit but just cutt out things that are mostly fat lol
  • Sometimes what you eat does matter. Some people have a difficult time with carbs triggering insatiable hunger. In other words you may feel as though you are "stuffed yet starving". Or some foods are trigger foods. Once you have that particular thing it drives you to eat more and more and more. Pasta, pizza, potato or potato chips are a few of the common ones. If there is nothing in your diet to address perhaps seeking a professional opinion would help, also be sure to log all of your food, weigh all of your food to be sure you aren't eating more than you think you are.
  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    kam3190 wrote: »
    Have you started logging your food on my fitness pal? because all you have to do is eat witin the calories it gives you . thats it. You can eat chicken dippers and chips and crisps. You never eed to eat next to nothing.

    I did a few weeks ago but then stopped but today started fresh again so going to start logging everything back in and make a proper go of it this time and great thanks ill eat what i can in my calorie limit but just cutt out things that are mostly fat lol

    Be sure you don't cut your fat too low, though. Fat doesn't make you fat and you need a certain amount to keep you healthy.
  • cerise_noir
    cerise_noir Posts: 5,468 Member
    kam3190 wrote: »
    Have you started logging your food on my fitness pal? because all you have to do is eat witin the calories it gives you . thats it. You can eat chicken dippers and chips and crisps. You never eed to eat next to nothing.

    I did a few weeks ago but then stopped but today started fresh again so going to start logging everything back in and make a proper go of it this time and great thanks ill eat what i can in my calorie limit but just cutt out things that are mostly fat lol
    Once again, it is NOT the food... no need to cut down on fat unless all you eat is fat. Fat is important for hormonal balance, digestive health and for fat soluble vitamins to be absorbed. you just need to eat your calories and weigh your food.

  • timeforwork
    timeforwork Posts: 114 Member
    I am also 5'2 ft and my goal weight is 10 stone which is a pound or so over healthy in the BMI index so if your goal is to be 8'9 stone then that has got to be at the lower end of the BMI healthy or. Even under weight. It's got to be much harder to get there . Sorry I can't be much help but just thought I'd point this out .
  • DebSozo
    DebSozo Posts: 2,578 Member
    edited December 2016
    Sometimes what you eat does matter. Some people have a difficult time with carbs triggering insatiable hunger. In other words you may feel as though you are "stuffed yet starving". Or some foods are trigger foods. Once you have that particular thing it drives you to eat more and more and more. Pasta, pizza, potato or potato chips are a few of the common ones. If there is nothing in your diet to address perhaps seeking a professional opinion would help, also be sure to log all of your food, weigh all of your food to be sure you aren't eating more than you think you are.

    ^This is very true, Ashley. While there is a portion of the population who can eat "everything in moderation" there are some like me and others who cannot. Each person is different.

    I have discovered, from personal experience, that upping fats and lowering carbs keep away insulin spikes and helped keep away the carb cravings. There are people on the threads who will say you can eat sweets just because they can get away with it. But it might not be the case for you. You do you. Figure out what you need. If sweets or salty foods trigger you to over feed yourself, then don't feel guilty cutting them out. There are plenty of people who do this if the temptation is to overeat or binge on certain trigger foods.

    I would recommend looking up your TDEE online. You can google the calculator. Put in your stats. Try to eat at TDEE for a couple weeks. If the TDEE calculation is correct then you know that is your maintenance amount. If you lose then you might be more active than you figured and if you gain then likely have a lower TDEE or are gaining water due to time of month, excess salty foods, or exercise. Tweak your daily maintenance TDEE calories until you stall and neither gain nor lose. Once you have YOUR TDEE try not to go over that number on average when you want to maintain and not gain.

    Next you can work on losing. Try to be realistic and don't deprive yourself with very low calories. Try a 1 pound a week loss to start (it sounds like you are doing that). That is a daily deficit of 500 calories (TDEE minus 500). When you get closer to goal then drop it down to 0.5 pound a week deficit which is a daily deficit of 250 calories.

    I work from a weekly average as I like to vary my daily calories to eat less during the week and slightly more on the weekends . Don't forget to recalculate TDEE for every 5 pounds or so you lose. A lighter person doesn't burn as many calories as someone at a higher weight. People who have 50 or 100 pounds to lose are going to lose faster at first and then slow down as time goes on and weight drops lower.

    Since you are petite your TDEE will not be as high as a taller or more active person. If your plan is to eat a little extra one day, then eat a little lighter right before and after so you don't go over. This will teach you portions of eyeballing when you don't have a food scale with you-- for instance eating out with friends or at a family outing, etc.

    The other thing you can do is up activity to compensate. The only problem with that is people tend to overcompensate by eating more. If you do work out, some people only eat back 1/2 of the exercise calories. Diet is the primary way to lose. Working out helps keep and build muscle mass which helps increase RMR.

    If all you have is toddler foods to, then choose healthy foods for your toddler and eat that along with your salads and veggies. You don't have to eat expensive foods to lose weight. Just figure out your TDEE, subtract the calories you want as a deficit, and purchase an inexpensive kitchen scale.

    Next weigh out every bite of food you eat. Don't grab a nugget or chip without weighing first. Weigh any leftovers your toddler leaves behind if you eat leftovers. Log everything. You will be surprised at all of the hidden calories. Also weigh food and look up on MFP even boxed items like mac and cheese, etc. The manufacturers can be off 20% for example. That can really do in your deficit quickly as yours will be smallish.

    Try to eat what you normally like so your diet is sustainable for the long haul. You don't have to buy special "diet" foods. Eat less of what you normally do and cut out trigger foods. Best wishes!
  • DebSozo
    DebSozo Posts: 2,578 Member
    edited December 2016
    I have a 2 year old that has dippers nuggets and all kinds like that so thats all i buy i carnt afford her food and healthy food at the same time so just halft to eat what i can

    Just work with what you need to for now. You can do this! You will save money from lowering calories. It doesn't have to cost you more. ETA: You can find inexpensive recipes free online or possibly diet books and magazines at your local library.
  • mlinci
    mlinci Posts: 402 Member
    Ashley, I don't know where in the UK you live, but I'm wondering if it might be beneficial for you to see if your local council or your local community college offer any kind of cooking classes? You are a young mum and it would be really useful to you to learn how to plan and prepare proper meals both for yourself and for your little one. Proper food can cost very little, and there are so many frugal cooking blogs and recipes around, in the UK Jack Munroe is a good example (a girl called Jack)
    Do you have access to basic cooking equipment? A stovetop and an oven? A fridge? A friend or relative who is a more experienced cook and can show you the basics?
    PS I lost close to three stone in the last 14 months, and never went as low as 1,300 calories a day - but I'm only losing just over two pounds a month - for me, slowly and surely is the way to go, as I get ravenously hungry if I cut my calories very low, and I can't sustain such low calories at all. It's worked for me, but it's a lifestyle change, rather than a short term diet.
  • DebSozo
    DebSozo Posts: 2,578 Member
    edited December 2016
    malibu927 wrote: »
    What are your stats? Did you set your goal too aggressively (i.e. set it for 2 pounds a week/1200 calories)?

    There are no right or wrong foods/exercises when it comes to weight loss...all you need is a calorie deficit.

    Mine is loose 1 pound a week and 1.300 calories im ok when i get my mind into it but i end up going back round in circles ive come back on here now to really do it this time im determined not to go back to old ways

    It could be that 1300 is too high. It is tricky because you don't want to be so low you are always hungry or so high that you stall. Try 1200 to see if that makes a difference. If you are hungry try 1300 again with stricter weighing. People tend to eat more calories than they realize unless they weigh and log the food. Preplan and weigh portions out ahead of time. If toddler has leftovers then quickly wrap them up for your child to eat later.
  • firef1y72
    firef1y72 Posts: 1,579 Member
    I have a 2 year old that has dippers nuggets and all kinds like that so thats all i buy i carnt afford her food and healthy food at the same time so just halft to eat what i can

    But her food should also be healthy and with a little invention you can give her (and you) much healthier and tastier versions of the favourites. And she's at an ideal age now for you to be helping her learn good eating habits.

    One of our favourites are crunchy nuggets, made with whatever chicken or turkey breast/thighs we've got in the freezer (from buying when reduced).

    Simply cut in to chunks, dip in egg and then crushed cornflakes and then bake in the oven for around 20 minutes. So much tastier than the mush that goes in to cheap nuggets, plus can be cheaper if you buy the chicken/turkey reduced and I find that turkey is regularly reduced to silly prices because it's just not very popular. You can also get your daughter involved in the cooking, my 3 year loves making nuggets with us and the cornflakes work just as well with fish to make fishfingers or fish bites.

    You could also make pizzas with her, you can buy bases ready made, or make your own (flour, water, fast acting yeast), then all you need is a cheap carton of passata (pretty sure tesco does one for around 30p), some veg such as peppers, onions, sweetcorn (tinned), mushrooms (whatever you've found cheap basically) and cheese (value chedder, value mozerella), so homemade pizzas for what, a couple of quid. Again much tastier than the cheap frozen pizzas and you can always make double and freeze one for another day.
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