Feeling defeated

ariellefaith87
ariellefaith87 Posts: 4 Member
edited November 14 in Chit-Chat
Spent the whole day sticking to my diet avoiding cookies and donuts. Drank water at a farewell party with cheese and chocolate fondue. Stayed strong. The moment I walk in the door my bf laughs and says want a cracker.. oh ha ha that's so funny! Still haven't eaten dinner too sad. Just want someone to encourage me not make fun of me

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  • JLAJ81
    JLAJ81 Posts: 2,477 Member
    That sucks, sorry he did that. Stay strong you've got this! It's not easy to avoid temptation but you did it today!
  • LittleBitMeme
    LittleBitMeme Posts: 82 Member
    Sorry he wasn't supportive. Let him
    Know how that made you feel and ask him to be helpful or silent.
  • PersianKitty94
    PersianKitty94 Posts: 623 Member
    Dump him and runnnn for the hills.
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  • BrinaBecnel
    BrinaBecnel Posts: 122 Member
    edited January 2017
    That sucks! Don't let him discourage you though! You got this!
  • sunny_girl_tls
    sunny_girl_tls Posts: 422 Member
    Sorry to hear that, but ultimately this is for you! Be strong! You got this!
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    I don't get it?!
  • ajaysharma316
    ajaysharma316 Posts: 104 Member
    so many of your near dear ones are gonna not believe in what you are doing and will think u might give up soon enough. Prove them wrong. Stick to what you have started and once you start showing results people will just not only become way more supportive but might actually start taking credit for your success... It happend to me, it will happen to you so just stay strong....
  • livingleanlivingclean
    livingleanlivingclean Posts: 11,751 Member
    I was waiting for "I stuffed my face". You should feel like a winner for everything you said no to!
  • snowflake954
    snowflake954 Posts: 8,399 Member
    Hon--don't be "hangry". You came home hungry and he saw it. You have to find a ballance here. Don't cut your calories too much or deprive yourself, it'll lead to binging. The trick to success is to eat as much as you can, and still lose weight. It takes longer, but is sustainable and will see you through for the rest of your life. I used to yo-yo diet and it was hell for my husband and family. He was always trying to get me to eat something so I wouldn't be so awfull. Once I started MFP, I loved it because I knew how much I could eat safely and it kept me full enough to not be snappy. Good luck.
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  • emdeesea
    emdeesea Posts: 1,823 Member
    Yeah they make fun of you until you actually lose that weight, then they're jealous of you.

    You can't win. Shake it off.
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  • LiftingRiot
    LiftingRiot Posts: 6,946 Member
    First off, make sure your setting realistic goals. Its difficult but shouldnt be super difficult. Small adjustments to your diet over time is what you need not drastic changes. You need to make life long sustainable eating choices. Not temporary diet for a month choices. Find foods that make you full so all the other nonsense doesn't look as appealing.

    Relationships are difficult. Everyone is so quick to say leave him and that's why divorce is so common. He was probably sarcastic when you met him and you loved him for it. He still sarcastic now and your upset with that because of your diet.

    Realize why your getting upset. Its not his fault youre on a diet and hes joking around to make you laugh. You cant force someone to diet and he may be telling you that your perfect the way you are. Unfortunately, if he is not on board with the dieting, all you can do is lead by example so through time he will see the benefits and its attainability. Be strong and believe in yourself. He cant lose the weight for you. Tell him FU and carry on.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    ariellefaith87 wrote: »
    Spent the whole day sticking to my diet avoiding cookies and donuts. Drank water at a farewell party with cheese and chocolate fondue. Stayed strong. The moment I walk in the door my bf laughs and says want a cracker.. oh ha ha that's so funny! Still haven't eaten dinner too sad. Just want someone to encourage me not make fun of me


    You might find it helpful to not talk to your bf about weight loss and just head to your MFP friends or the forums. Not everyone gets that it is hard some days.
    You might feel less bad if you didn't avoid everything today or had occasional maintenance calorie days. You need to learn to fit foods in your goals so this will be sustainable long term. Eat food you like every day so you don't feel like you are missing out.
    If you are happy not to have eaten those things today then just smile, say no thanks/*kitten* you to the pathetic cracker and eat a good tasty dinner.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I don't get it...how are you defeated?
  • cahubbard6421
    cahubbard6421 Posts: 769 Member
    ariellefaith87 wrote: »
    Spent the whole day sticking to my diet avoiding cookies and donuts. Drank water at a farewell party with cheese and chocolate fondue. Stayed strong. The moment I walk in the door my bf laughs and says want a cracker.. oh ha ha that's so funny! Still haven't eaten dinner too sad. Just want someone to encourage me not make fun of me

    When you're at your Goal weight, wear skin tight clothes everywhere. When he complains, ask him if he wants that same cracker.
  • deannalfisher
    deannalfisher Posts: 5,600 Member
    did you talk to him about how what he did made you feel? being honest in a relationship (i don't like when you do x because... helps)...maybe he was trying to be funny - but if he knows how he made you feel that will go a long way
  • cheryldumais
    cheryldumais Posts: 1,907 Member
    Many times men are threatened when their significant other begins to lose weight. I would imagine women are too I'm just thinking of my own experience over the years. Remember this may not be about you it may be about his own insecurities and fear of losing you. I could be totally missing it here because I don't know either one of you well but I know with my husband this was the case for many years. I think you are amazing that you stuck to your healthy eating plan. You are amazing!
  • butterfli7o
    butterfli7o Posts: 1,319 Member
    Sorry to say it but you do sound "hangry" for getting so upset. Shake it off!! Keep going!!
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    Don't let it get to you. Our partners aren't always the most swift, and sometimes make silly comments, thinking they are being cute or funny....even though we know they are not. Let it slide, my friend...little comments are just that. They really don't mean anything deep, and if you make a mountain out of this mole hill, you may just find yourself alone. After 23 years with my well meaning doofus, I can guarantee you, they usually don't mean to be insulting, and are just unaware. Have a talk with your partner, and let him know you felt unsupported. It most likely won't happen again, once he knows how you feel.
  • SeagalDeeDee
    SeagalDeeDee Posts: 153 Member
    I'd say if this is habit of how he responds to you ---sit down & speak your mind on how to effects you.
  • ariellefaith87
    ariellefaith87 Posts: 4 Member
    Ya'll are awesome!!! I did talk to him, but to be fair I think I was being a little to "touchy" or HANGRY !! Bf apologized several times I think I was just in a bad place but all the supportive and encouraging comments were just what I needed !!! Thank you all !! Oh yeah one quick q.. what does *kitten* mean ?
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