i'm normally not the one to judge...

jujubean1992
jujubean1992 Posts: 462 Member
edited September 29 in Chit-Chat
but i saw something that made me sad today... while walking through wal-mart i saw an over weight couple with a very plump little boy (no more than a year old i'd say) their cart was full of junk food and they were feeding the baby candy and he was screaming for more, the baby couldn't even talk yet! how is a little body supposed to develop on junk? i'm not saying they need to feed they're son pure organic food for him to be healthy or anything like that. my son is 18 months old and he's allowed to have sweets... in moderation, a marshmallow, four or five m &m's, a pop cycle, a couple bites of cake. but this baby was eating one after the other! just something i had noticed that bothered me... not to judge, to each their own, i just wouldn't give my son candy like they were.
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  • jmatthews75
    jmatthews75 Posts: 525 Member
    its a shame. A child destined for failure because his lazy parents can't learn some self control. One more reason you should have to pass a test to have a child.
  • TinaS88
    TinaS88 Posts: 817 Member
    Yep so sad. Child obesity is so terrible because of BAD PARENTING! Can't blame the kids when it's the parents giving them the crap!! Parents need to start being held accountable for their children's nutrition. Ugh, this REALLY gets my blood boiling.. it's just so unfair to the child.
  • Andythefitfamilyman
    Andythefitfamilyman Posts: 420
    its a shame. A child destined for failure because his lazy parents can't learn some self control. One more reason you should have to pass a test to have a child.

    I agree, but to be honest I used to be that parent, give people a chance to change. I did. But I would have thought the same as the op sad indeed
  • TinaS88
    TinaS88 Posts: 817 Member
    its a shame. A child destined for failure because his lazy parents can't learn some self control. One more reason you should have to pass a test to have a child.


    You said it!!! You need a license to fish or drive a car, but any one can have a child.. it's a shame!
  • jujubean1992
    jujubean1992 Posts: 462 Member
    it's just, even when i didn't eat the best, my son still ate very healthy, now we eat the same stuff. :smile:
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    :cry:
  • suzycreamcheese
    suzycreamcheese Posts: 1,766 Member
    poor child doesnt stand a chance
  • GreenSkinnyJeans
    GreenSkinnyJeans Posts: 204 Member
    Should be considered child abuse : /.
  • Songbird146
    Songbird146 Posts: 46 Member
    That's like the whole using food as a bribe for a child to behave how a parent wants them to. Treats should never be used like that. I agree that not just the child obesity epidemic but a lot of other child related issues as well would be far improved upon if parents to be were required to take classes on parenting and all related topics prior to having a kid.
  • Helice
    Helice Posts: 1,075 Member
    you have a good right to judge!
    when iw as little my mum did a similar thing with me.
    and even tho i was smart anoth to know not to eat all this crap, i still have a strained relationship towards food because of it..
    like il always resort to junk food when i skim the fridge and theres nothing in, etc..
    and i have to say i resent my mum a little for it... well a lot. it wasnt fair that when she had control over what i ate she made me eat the same as her..
    not only that but she use to make me adult size portions and go mad if i couldnt finish my whole plate... portions that i would struggle to eat now.. another reason y i dont have a good relationship with food...
    perants should realise what there doing to there kids!! And how it will effect them for the rest of their lives. =[
    Its just not right!
    =[
  • Andythefitfamilyman
    Andythefitfamilyman Posts: 420
    I'm just wondering if most people would still have judged if it was a normal weight couple and a normal weight kid but everything else was the same.
  • beccau_20
    beccau_20 Posts: 191 Member
    I'm just wondering if most people would still have judged if it was a normal weight couple and a normal weight kid but everything else was the same.

    Good point. Or even have noticed.
  • Helice
    Helice Posts: 1,075 Member
    I'm just wondering if most people would still have judged if it was a normal weight couple and a normal weight kid but everything else was the same.

    Good point. Or even have noticed.

    I dont think we would realise...
    but then if we knew them.. and we were round there house and we saw it happening we'd be a bit like, should ur child be eating all of that..?
  • xraychick77
    xraychick77 Posts: 1,775 Member
    i see this everyday in my ER
  • jujubean1992
    jujubean1992 Posts: 462 Member
    I'm just wondering if most people would still have judged if it was a normal weight couple and a normal weight kid but everything else was the same.

    YES! i see a chlid younger than my 18 month old having his faced stuffed with candy i'm still going to be offended a little it's just more so because it was obvious that it was the norm to them.
  • kanonxbou47
    kanonxbou47 Posts: 265 Member
    its a shame. A child destined for failure because his lazy parents can't learn some self control. One more reason you should have to pass a test to have a child.

    ^that
  • jujubean1992
    jujubean1992 Posts: 462 Member
    i see this everyday in my ER

    horrible! the closest thing my son gets to candy on a regular basis is fruit snacks, real juice fruit snacks.
  • margo36
    margo36 Posts: 222 Member
    That child will be joining us in 20 yrs time
  • suzycreamcheese
    suzycreamcheese Posts: 1,766 Member
    I'm just wondering if most people would still have judged if it was a normal weight couple and a normal weight kid but everything else was the same.

    would have probably still raised an eyebrow, but not as much, as id be more likely to assume it was occasional rather than regular if they didnt have a massive weight problem.

    We look at whats going on around us and clues in our environment, and we ALL make judgements based on what we see.
    If we see an obese couple with an obese child eating lots and lots of sweets, then unless you dont know how to add two and two, then youre going to think they eat too much crap and they feed their kid too much crap.
    If you see a normal weight couple with a normal weight child eating a few sweets, you probably wouldnt even notice, or youd just assume it was an occasional treat. Depending on what it was though, id still judge. No matter the weight of the parents, if i see parents giving their children coke, i really hate it

    Obesity is just the outward physical symptom of the damage you do to your body by consistent overeating. If someone is that big on the outside, then you can be quite sure their arteries are hardened, their heart is not healthy, their liver is fatty. Its a crying shame for people to inflict that on their children, even if they have made the informed choice to be obese for themselves as adults.
    Its not hard and You dont have to be a food nazi to give your kids a balanced diet with sensible child sized portions
  • dayglo4
    dayglo4 Posts: 18
    That child will be joining us in 20 yrs time

    so true
  • jujubean1992
    jujubean1992 Posts: 462 Member
    I'm just wondering if most people would still have judged if it was a normal weight couple and a normal weight kid but everything else was the same.

    would have probably still raised an eyebrow, but not as much, as id be more likely to assume it was occasional rather than regular if they didnt have a massive weight problem.

    We look at whats going on around us and clues in our environment, and we ALL make judgements based on what we see.
    If we see an obese couple with an obese child eating lots and lots of sweets, then unless you dont know how to add two and two, then youre going to think they eat too much crap and they feed their kid too much crap.
    If you see a normal weight couple with a normal weight child eating a few sweets, you probably wouldnt even notice, or youd just assume it was an occasional treat. Depending on what it was though, id still judge. No matter the weight of the parents, if i see parents giving their children coke, i really hate it

    Obesity is just the outward physical symptom of the damage you do to your body by consistent overeating. If someone is that big on the outside, then you can be quite sure their arteries are hardened, their heart is not healthy, their liver is fatty. Its a crying shame for people to inflict that on their children, even if they have made the informed choice to be obese for themselves as adults.
    Its not hard and You dont have to be a food nazi to give your kids a balanced diet with sensible child sized portions

    i totally agree with the soda thing! kool-aid too! don't people realize that kool-aid isn't juice it's sugar water with some flavor!
  • suzycreamcheese
    suzycreamcheese Posts: 1,766 Member
    if your child likes junk food, there are just so many healthier versions. My kids are more likely to ask for a box of raisins than a bag of chocolate buttons, although i do have the mini fun sized bags in the cupboard as an occasional treat.
    I dont think any of them have ever eaten a full sized bar of chocolate in their life. If they have the occasional bag of crisps, i get the unsalted ones, but tbh, thats not often either. We dont really do fried food at home. Theyre not strangers to fish fingers or sausages or oven pizza, but its reasonable portions and theyre always accompanied by vegetables.
    I pretty much always make sure that the majority of their meals have protein, carbs and vegetables. They drink milk, water or pure fruit juice. Only my 10 year old likes to have lemonade sometimes, but hes actually just as happy with sparkling water.
    I dont deny the crap food, because i dont want to make it out of bounds and therefore more appetising.
    I generally push on them, the same values i have for myself about food
  • nurse_carolyn
    nurse_carolyn Posts: 348
    It is sad, but you can't really say anything because it will just put them on the defensive. Those kids don't even have a chance.
  • felicia8604
    felicia8604 Posts: 274 Member
    I totally agree! is so sad! a couple months ago i was at a walmart where i live and as i was walking in there was a mom and her 3 kids, all of which were overweight to obese. But in their cart were chips, pop, bread, packaged foods and 1 little bag of apples! really do they think that one little bag is going to cancel out all the other bad stuff. I just feel bad also because if a parent raises a kid like that how are they supposed to know any different! thats why i feed my kids the same stuff i eat most of the time. for lunch i usually just make them a hot dog or a totinos pizza but the rest of the day they want yogurt or apples or bananas...well you get the picture. i hardly EVER give my kids candy. first of all i dont want to put up with wound up kids all day and for 2 its not healthy. well im done ranting! haha thats what it probably sounds like.. oh well
  • kgagnon7779
    kgagnon7779 Posts: 216
    Has anyone seen the show Toddlers and Tiaras? I caught it the other day - probably won't do that again, unless i feel like torturing myself. What I noticed though, is that 95% of these crazy pageant moms are VERY overweight. One mom was getting angry at the way her kid/brat was behaving and then the camera shot over to 3 cans of mountain dew - that was her breakfast. No wonder she was acting out?! She was literally bouncing off the walls. Then another little girl, about 6 years old, was drinking Red Bull because her mom said it got her "stage" ready.

    So wrong, on SO many levels - and then they are on TV, clearly not aware that this is horrible behavior and parenting. They spray tan these kids, give them fake eyelashes and fake teeth so they look good on the outside and then fill them up with crap - teaching them that it's all about their outward appearance, not their health. Such a shame.
  • Riebop
    Riebop Posts: 275
    I'm just wondering if most people would still have judged if it was a normal weight couple and a normal weight kid but everything else was the same.

    Good point. Or even have noticed.

    I dont think we would realise...
    but then if we knew them.. and we were round there house and we saw it happening we'd be a bit like, should ur child be eating all of that..?

    I might not notice. However, I do notice when I'm around my sister and her kids. My nephew is a normal weight kid, but I still think that she lets him drink too much soda. Then again, I usually just see him at parties and family events so I don't know if the soda drinking is the norm in their house. If I have kids, I hope that I can teach them better habits than the ones I have developed.
  • Riebop
    Riebop Posts: 275
    Has anyone seen the show Toddlers and Tiaras? I caught it the other day - probably won't do that again, unless i feel like torturing myself. What I noticed though, is that 95% of these crazy pageant moms are VERY overweight. One mom was getting angry at the way her kid/brat was behaving and then the camera shot over to 3 cans of mountain dew - that was her breakfast. No wonder she was acting out?! She was literally bouncing off the walls. Then another little girl, about 6 years old, was drinking Red Bull because her mom said it got her "stage" ready.

    So wrong, on SO many levels - and then they are on TV, clearly not aware that this is horrible behavior and parenting. They spray tan these kids, give them fake eyelashes and fake teeth so they look good on the outside and then fill them up with crap - teaching them that it's all about their outward appearance, not their health. Such a shame.

    OMG! I start watching it and get totally sucked in. I'm just astonished at the behavior of these kids and their parents that I can't turn it off.
  • ritzvin
    ritzvin Posts: 2,860 Member

    i totally agree with the soda thing! kool-aid too! don't people realize that kool-aid isn't juice it's sugar water with some flavor!

    ..with acid added so they'll have plenty of cavities and be obese.
  • Francineirene
    Francineirene Posts: 9
    Quite often in a situation like this one what you are seeing is generations of obesity. It is quite likely that the parents you saw honestly don't understand how destructive they are. They were more than likely fed the same way as children. We live in a world where mothers very rarely cook anything that doesn't come in a box or bag or frozen tray. Our packaging says things like diet, light, fat free, and the latest craze, gluten free. I am sorry for these people they are just a product of our culture that says easier is better and work is bad. Remember the movie Wall-E.
  • Francineirene
    Francineirene Posts: 9
    That show is like watching child abuse sprinkled with glitter. And, yes, I was surprised to see so many fat mommys, too.
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