Getting married and feeling discouraged

ghostwings
ghostwings Posts: 21 Member
edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
Hopefully in November. I've got 40lbs to go to wear my wedding dress.
Any other brides to be here looking for motivation?
My biggest fear is it being an unrealistic goal. I didn't buy a dress a size too small, that's how much I've gained since I bought it and that's hard to admit to myself.
I've gradually gained 90lbs since 2012. Some days it just seems like it'll be impossible to get off. This isn't a New year's resolution, this is needing a change because I'm tired of being tired all the time.

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  • vespiquenn
    vespiquenn Posts: 1,455 Member
    edited January 2017
    You can get there by entering your stats into MFP and following the calorie goal. 40lbs by November comes out to a little bit more than 4lbs a month. Eat less, move more, and you'll get there. The best part is that it doesn't involve gimmicks, which I am suspicious of the user above trying to push due to publicly stating that he sent a private message.
  • RastaLousGirl
    RastaLousGirl Posts: 2,119 Member
    My wedding is February 2018, and I have a good 120 lbs to lose. The dress of my dreams is customized, but I have to lose this weight to look and feel great in it. This is just a short-term goal, because I really want to look good and feel good for my family and myself from here on out... I could use a good support team as well. I have great motivation and determination, until I get stressed, and then I completely shut down and don't care. If I can change that attitude and surround myself with positive people, I believe I can get very far. I also believe that you can too! It's in us. :smile:
  • ghostwings
    ghostwings Posts: 21 Member
    ToniLee thank you. I think I might be better off making smaller goals that build up to a bigger goal so that I don't get overwhelmed with how far I have to go. I know what you mean, positive people make all the difference. My mom told me 3 days ago that I look pregnant with how far my stomach sticks out. That was quite a blow.




    What exactly is CICO?
  • BHFF
    BHFF Posts: 421 Member
    GHOST CICO is calories in, calories out
  • ghostwings
    ghostwings Posts: 21 Member
    I've heard all kinds of things. My brother is a very big CICO person. He lost 50lbs in 6 months doing nothing but playing video games and a very strict calorie counting diet. Never a bit of exercise.

    "No matter what happens, know that no one is going to weigh you on your wedding day. They are going to be more focused on celebrating love. Start now and stay dedicated." I think that's the best bit of advice I've been given about my wedding so far. Thank you so much for the encouragement.
  • dasher602014
    dasher602014 Posts: 1,992 Member
    I get it. You want to look good in your gown. But it will be a wonderful celebration no matter how much you weigh or even what you look like.

    Set goals. Get a diet plan. Get that in place first. And when you have that ticking along, get moving. 1lb a week is doable but weight loss isn't linear. You will have weeks when you lose more and week went the scale does not move. Men do lose more easily than women. But if you lose weight, you will feel better and as you get closer to the day and closer to that dress, you can make choices about goals then.

    Good luck getting this done. You can do it. And I wish for your the happiest marriage regardless of what you weigh on a particular day.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    edited January 2017
    OP, 40 lbs should be doable. It will come off faster at first and then slow down. As an example, I started at 202 . in January. I lost an average of 2 lbs/wk the first 3 months and then averaged one half pound per week after that. I hit 150 by early December. During that time period I took 3 one week breaks and a 10 day trip to Disney. I always suggest eating in a moderate deficit and exercising for fitness. I prefer a mix of lifting weights and cardio but you need to find your preferred type of exercise and go with it.
  • ghostwings
    ghostwings Posts: 21 Member
    Bump. Also if anyone wants to send me a request feel free. :)
  • everher
    everher Posts: 909 Member
    My best advice:

    Log everything you put into your mouth. Be honest with yourself. Invest in a food scale if you don't already have one and weigh your solids and measure your liquids. It's easy to overestimate portion sizes.

    Accept that this is a lifestyle change and not a "diet". It sounds corny, but it's true. Make small sustainable changes. Don't restrict yourself too much or cut out foods you love.

    Settle in for the long haul. You didn't gain the weight overnight and you aren't going to lose it overnight.

    You will have bad days. You will have bad weeks. So many of us get discouraged when we have a bad day or a bad week and our loss isn't what we wanted it to be. Just keep going. You haven't failed until you've given up.

    Losing 40 lbs is fully possible, but even if you don't lose a single pound you will still look gorgeous on your wedding day. I would focus on taking it a day at a time and a pound at a time. If you get too far ahead of yourself you'll never get there.
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