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ges1957 · January 2017

hi I have been back and forth with my weight for the last 20 years, I am 52 years old and I feel very unattractive and a slob... I am 5 ft 7 and I weigh in at 193, size 14.. I desperately want to be a size 8 or 10 and want to get to 150... I cant seem to get on track, I love to eat all the time.. my sister lost 131 pounds and I am so proud of her, she looks amazing... no surgeries or diet pills.. just decided she needed to change her lifestyle... if she can do it I can... I am pretty much a lazy person who works 9 plus hours a day and the last thing I want to do when I get home is exercise or eat a damn salad... I need motivation.. I am currently with a man I adore who I think is absolutely the most handsome man ever and I feel so glad I have this man in my life, I want him proud to be seen with me.. he says he loves me no matter what but I think he would be happy if I lost some weight... I want to feel sexy and hot and I want men to check me out.. I signed on this again this morning and I want to do this very badly but I don't have the patience on the energy to

galgenstrick · January 2017

First thing. You've got to love your bod no matter where you're at. That's probably the most important thing.

Secondly, weight loss really isn't too difficult if you have that first thing down. Why? Because you won't rush it. If you aren't disgusted with yourself you can go slowly, not starve yourself and not have to do excruciating workouts.

Aim for 0.5-1lb loss per week.
Adjust your calories so you're always in that slight calorie deficit
Go for a walk for extra exercise, enjoy being outdoors
Take the stairs when it's an option etc. the idea is to increase your daily activity, just get moving, it doesn't have to be hard.

Once you get all that down you can make some more tweaks.

ges1957 · January 2017

thanks for the reply and input!!!!

ashleyal1987 · January 2017

I am right there with you' galgenstrick''!! I'm a new mom, I'm 29 years old. I've been up and down with my weight all my life . I always seem to get stuck in rutts. Or I drift away from working out . I really want to change my life and be better for my daughter and help and show her the same life style so we're all healthy . I also really want to look more attractive for my man . He is my other half and I want to make him proud as well.. I weigh about 165 . I'm starting today this is my first blog/ log .. Hehehe I want to be there for people and people be here for me . I lack motivation and I think I can find it here

rkvetmed · January 2017

I'm in the same boat. Up and down my whole life but after brain surgery and the long term steroid treatment that goes along with that I am higher than I have ever been and to make matters worse the fat deposits strangely on steroids so it's even more obvious. I don't recognize myself. My husband is wonderful and I do believe he genuinely doesn't care but I still hate that this isn't what he signed up for. Also, specifically because he doesn't ask for or expect it, I believe he deserves a "trophy" wife or at the very least the size 2 woman he married.
The hard thing about all this is I do go to the gym everyday for 2 to 3 hours (my wonderful husband supports my not working while I heal body and spirit and is running our business almost completely alone right now). We pay for a personal trainer to strength train with me 3 days a week on top of the cardio I do everyday and I track calories as well as micro and macro nutrients. Amazingly, the lbs keep coming approximately 1lb gained every other week.
Doctor says it will start "falling" off once I'm off the steroids but I will be honest... I am getting discouraged and feeling hateful towards myself. It feels very much like failure to me and I am beginning to really struggle to want to continue this difficult work.
I am reaching out to this community for support. A little cheering on can carry a person a long way and cheering others on reminds you why you do this in the first place.

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