Real life Friends and weightloss

Personally I would rather lead by example then cut people out of my life for living a lifestyle different then mine.

Yes! I mostly get the 'oh let me guess you cant eat that?!" or "skinny *****" Or even called Jillian as in Jillian Michaels cuz I harass them about diet and exercise when they are the ones who asked me to push them!

Yes lol i actually wondered if i was just weird. some of my friends who do like to eat while we hang out are nicer about it like my best friend has walked 4.6.miles with me round trip cause she wanted to go to dairy queen and i said we couldnt drive there if we went lol

After chilling with an MFPeep today...I'm loving this place more and more. I have few friends. Even fewer that I hang out with. I avoid the gym and work-out by myself because I don't want anybody holding me back. It's been a solo journey IRL, that's why I love MFP

Check out meetup.com - there will be all kinds of groups there with all kinds of people pursuing different activities. There may be people into hiking, museums, kayaking, concerts... it's worth checking out. My friends finished grad school and left town, but I'm from the area and stayed put, since I like it here... and I found myself with a dwindling group of friends. I found my new friends through a happy hour group, but they do more than just happy hour, whether it's just more drinking and/or parties or things like hiking, concerts, taking trips to fairs and festivals, go-karting... it's always something different.

Yeah, happened to me!!!


I was planning to have a party for my b-day and I asked my friend if i should order pizza or just finger foods, I said "Pizza's great, but like 700 cals for 2 slices!" and she said "Annnnd?" :[ It's hard when they want to eat ice cream and I can't because I ate 1200 calories already. They are all thin- and don't care if they eat 1500-2000 cals. It suuucks.

The first time I lost all my weight, my trainer had told me to be aware that i would probably lose people. Consequently, I lost my closest friend. She thought that after I lost weight, I was suddenly this lying, immoral floozy because I met and started dating (who is now) my husband and didn't tell her right away. That meant that I had lied to her for all the years of our friendship. She couldn't understand the insecurities I dealt with regarding men and my weight issues.

I miss my friend, but realize that our relationship was unhealthy and it's probably better that we aren't friends.

I don't have this problem really? I know it's hard having friends who lead such different lifestyles, but I try to find a happy medium. If they go to the movies, I go too but I won't have anything, although maybe a diet soda. If they want to go out to eat, then i'll try and pick the healthiest thing on the menu. It's great to be dedicated to your fitness and diet programme but sometimes it's good to chill out too.

I think you should check out making new 'fitness' friends, but keep your old friends for when you want to relax and be lazy.

I feel your pain! I dont think I am losing friends as such, but I have to admit that I am less interested in meeting up with my friends cos EVERYTHING revolves around eating or going for a drink!

annoys the hell out of me, but what can you do? It would be great if any of them wanted to go to the gym (not just to go in the sauna thanks!) or a bike ride or a long walk first, but they just dont seem bothered (despite the fact that most of them have had kids and want to continually tell me how many weight watchers points are in things all the time!).

Not sure if there is an answer to this one, besides finding whole new friends at some 'active' hobby.

neymind, rise above it!

Well I'm not sure if I can totally to relate to what ALL of you are saying, I do know that it is so much harder to be healthy around my friends. They were the reason I fell down the first time -- each day they would see me be healthier than them, and they would try to disable it. One friend would get me to walk across the street to the convenience store with her, only to get there and convince me that I could cheat for that one time, and I gave in because I hadn't for weeks. But then, that messed up the whole rest of my day. Once I came to school with a healthy lunch (and I had come for the last week with not much wore than protein, fruit, vegetables, and water), and someone finally confronted me on it. I told them that I was trying to be healthier, and because before I had been living off pasta and pastries, they thought I was starving myself or something. Even when I said it wasn't like that, they immediately began to judge me. Even when I bought one of the healthier choices on the school menu or from the snack machine, they gave off this ATTITUDE like they somehow thought less of me for trying to treat my body better. And this was before MFP, so I was on a strict diet, and I wasn't planning my meals out well. Within a few weeks, it fell, because I got discouraged and because everyone was discouraging me. I know that when I go back I'll have to stick to my guns more, because all my peers just want to eat EVERYTHING, and will offer me ANYTHING.

I've had a lot of crap from people in the past about my weight, what i eat, how much i go to the gym etc. from some people its jelousy from some people genuine, if sometimes misplaced, concern.

For a year i moved to canada and it was really easy to cut out unhealthy friends but i started to get to extreme and became really sick. I thought i was being healthy but I was eating too little for the amount of running i was doing. keeping your friends helps you stay more in touch with reality and keeps you balanced. maybe if i hadn't become so withdraw i would have seen how ott i was becoming. change friends by all means if you have outgrow these people but try to find new ones and remember just making friends with yes men is boring and you never learn anything.

that said this year i decided to try to get fit again. I was worried all my pub buddies would judge me or try to derail me but in fact when i was brave enough to tell them every last one said they wanted to get fitter too. many didn't get that far but it was nice to know more of them agreed with me than i would have given them credit for.

I used to have tons of friends, then my husband and I moved to KY, and well, I have two friends here. One is really serious about health, and the other is a Beachbody coach. I can't hang out with people who want to go out and drink/eat all the time! But both my friends are moving soon, so I'll be back at square one. Honestly, I'd rather hang out by myself then be around people who don't respect my choices.