Struggling with Motivation

jezirus
jezirus Posts: 33 Member
edited September 29 in Health and Weight Loss
Okay, I started out strong... lost 23 pounds the first six weeks of using mfp, just by eating healthier, logging my calories, and exercising... I gave up cheese, caffeine, processed foods, sweets, and white bread/sugar/etc. I felt great! I felt that I was making a committment to a lifestyle change, and that I was in it for the long haul, knowing that it would take me over a year to reach my goal weight, but knowing I was strong enough to get there.

Now, I find myself slowly backsliding... having a pizza night or a sneaked candy bar or just craving all my old crap foods, and feeling depressed about how "I can't have them anymore," and how unfair it is that I wasn't born a naturally thin person, and why don't carrots and celery satisfy my soul and my emotions the way that chocolate and cheese do...

Help!

Any tips from those of you who have been there?

If anyone out there has similar stats as me, and wants to provide daily motivation to each other, please let me know! I am 36, nearly 37, am 5'7" and I have at least another 100 pounds to lose.

Thanks!

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  • Elleinnz
    Elleinnz Posts: 1,661 Member
    I am on my way to bed, brain not functioning that well anymore, but the key is nothing should be "I am not allowed to have that"

    Plan to eat it - in moderation every now and then and you can "have your cake and eat it....."

    In the beginning I would not eat cheese, chocolate, pizza, but slowly I have learnt how to incorporate them back in moderation into my new way of eating....

    Great blog I just read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/chevy88grl/view/lifestyle-change-vs-diet-125862
  • meggers123
    meggers123 Posts: 711 Member
    I definitely agree with everything in moderation.

    Caffeine- shouldn't be a bad thing (in fact, it can increase your metabolism) as long as you aren't having a grande caramel frap or something like that. Coffee + skimmilk = no problem.

    Also, I haven't cut anything out of my diet. I am much more aware of how many calories something has, and working out to off-set candy or whatever else I feel like eating. Think 1 piece of pizza, a salad and fruit for dessert... instead of 3 pieces of pizza and ice ceam. Or 2 pieces of white bread with just mustard, meat, lettuce and tomato. Some people do the "mayo or cheese" rule on sandwiches, although I hate mayo, so it makes the choice easier for me. :)

    Most of all, don't give up if you have one day (or week) of going over your calories. Take a breath, and get back on track. Good Luck!
  • jayb0ne
    jayb0ne Posts: 644 Member
    Take it one day at a time. If you're craving chocolate, tell yourself you won't have any today but maybe you'll allow yourself a bit tomorrow.

    I personally don't advocate completely giving up the bad foods. Telling myself I'll never have chocolate/crisps/cakes etc EVER AGAIN is a route to self sabotage. I allow myself bad foods once a week on Saturday after weigh in. So if I'm craving donuts all week, I'll remind myself that I just have to get to Saturday and I can have a massive cream filled chocolate topped donut completely guilt free! It tastes so much better without the guilt.

    Keep with it. Making the decision to change your lifestyle for the better is the hardest part and you've already crossed that bridge! :)
  • AdAstra47
    AdAstra47 Posts: 823 Member
    One of the interesting things I've discovered on my own journey is that if I don't eat often enough, my metabolism crashes, and that affects my brain chemistry. It makes me tired & depressed & much more prone to think "what the hell, I'm hungry..."

    It sounds like we're doing some of the same things. I haven't eaten anything containing flour, wheat, rice, or sugar for the past four months, and I've lost 30 lbs. If you love chocolate, try using a chocolate-flavored protein powder. You can mix with water & have a chocolate shake, or add an egg & some baking powder and nuke it to make something that resembles a brownie. Just gotta find creative ways to stick to the diet & still get the flavors you like. Some people can handle the 'all things in moderation' philosophy, but for me personally, carbs & sugar are like an addiction so I've had to go cold turkey & not look back.

    But the MOST important thing to me has been replacing those carbs with plenty of protein, and never letting my metabolism crash, keeping it on a slow & steady burn. My doctor tested my metabolism and recommended that I eat at least every 3 hours while I'm awake. So you might try just having little snacks all day long instead of big meals, and making sure each snack contains some protein (nuts, meat, fish, protein drink, a hard-boiled egg etc). I've actually set an alarm on my phone to remind myself to eat every 3 hrs, 'cause I'm honestly not hungry that often. But if I wait 'til I *am* hungry, my brain gets fuzzy & my motivation fails & I end up eating stuff I'm not supposed to.

    Everyone's different, we can all just share what worked for us, which won't necessarily be what works for you. But I hope this helps. Best of luck to you!
  • jayb0ne
    jayb0ne Posts: 644 Member
    Oh.. Forgot to mention. I also have a low cal hot chocolate drink almost every day. 37 calories can't be bad!
  • jezirus
    jezirus Posts: 33 Member
    thanks for all your input. The reason I gave up all that stuff was that I felt I was addicted, especially to the cheese, sugar and caffeine... that any time I would eat any of those, it was never enough, and it always made me want more and more, and I craved to the point that I had to have all of those daily, or my day wasn't complete. Once I quit them, I felt better-all my stomach issues went away, and my cravings went away. I understand and appreciate the concept of everything in moderation, but I really feel that it is better for me to avoid those things 99% of the time. I do allow myself some "cheats" or whatever you want to call them, but only on days when I have built up a large exercise deficit and have planned for it, and I always end up feeling bloated and getting a stomach ache... I kind of wonder if I have some kind of intolerance!
  • sherrik10
    sherrik10 Posts: 74 Member
    I find portion control helps me. Instead of taking a whole bag of chips I put a serving in a plastic baggy and I am ok.
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