Recent miscarriage, trying to get healthy to try again

Thanks for listening. It helps to get it out. Promama5 that is good advice. I only set up to lose very little a week. Doing the exercise helps me have a better mind set and it's helping me from gaining to much weight. I was happy to have a great husband that is there to listen about any detail. He's a very strong individual. He knows that there was no one to blame. He also always has the right things to say. I think if I had a different partner it would have been a lot more difficult. I just don't want to start gaining a ton of weight and raising my blood pressure or anything like that to make it easier for our next time around. It's hard to keep busy when I planning to try again in April. I'm sure you know how that feels. It's nice to hear from people who have gone through it and understand the emotional pain. My father in law on the other hand asked if my mother had any miscarriages like I was to blame. But the fact is 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. I was tested for progesterone etc. There was nothing that we could have done everything was normal. I'm thinking about getting a tattoo of a lotus in rememberance. I want to plant flowers on the babies due date. I've been going to yoga again and using the excercise bike so that helps a little. It takes time.

Thanks for everyone's encouraging words. It really helps to know I'm not alone. I bought a fertility bracelet to feel try and feel more positive but I didn't want anyone to ask me about the miscarriage. I told a few people that knew I was pregnant and a few family members,but I was trying to avoid having to talk to many people about it. It was hard because I took off about a week off from work. Everyone thought I was sick. They kept bringing up because I missed the Christmas party because it was the day of my surgery. I didn't say much to them about being sick tried to deflect. I flat out ignored the business manager about it. Certain people I work with tell everyone your personal business. I told my boss and my boss from my other job and they were both supportive. I think it's hard because people don't know what to say. Sometimes people being to positive like you'll get pregnant again is bothers me because it feels like there dismissing my loss. I still feel depressed sometimes it just hits me for no reason. It might be hormones.

I agree Clyn it will probably help me mentally and to be in better shape for the next try. I was kind of worried cause my friend had an emergency c section with her baby because she had preclampsia a week an half before her delievery. She was on here calorie counting the whole time and it still happened. I figured it would help me if I try. I don't think I would be ready to join the challenges like I used to. Yoga and riding my bike is easy enough. Counting calories is habit I need to get back into anyways. Thanks for your story.