I confess, I need to get rid of my addiction

juliettegarlick9420
juliettegarlick9420 Posts: 1 Member
edited November 15 in Chit-Chat
I am 5'1 and weigh 130 lbs and my dad and boyfriend want me to loose weight, and I've been trying for 6 years and I only seem to stay the same. I am also a recovering drug addict, and used mainly to loose weight, and only seem to loose weight when I did drugs. But now I'm 3 months sober and I don't wanna go back to that hell. What do I do?

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  • JullzGood
    JullzGood Posts: 62 Member
    edited February 2017
    You look up if it fits your macros, start meal planning and meal prepping, find a workout program, there are even some for free on YouTube, get motivated and kill it!
    I use this website for macros
    https://www.iifym.com/iifym-calculator/
  • JukeboxHeroine
    JukeboxHeroine Posts: 348 Member
    happilymegan wrote: »
    You tell your dad and boyfriend to mind their own *kitten* business for starters.

    Amen
  • Dreamcrusher16
    Dreamcrusher16 Posts: 1,263 Member
    happilymegan wrote: »
    You tell your dad and boyfriend to mind their own *kitten* business for starters.

    You're dad and boyfriend at the very least don't seem helpfull and at the worst are *kitten*. Set goals, find an exercise program you enjoy and take it one day at a time.
  • subcounter
    subcounter Posts: 2,382 Member
    Drugs don't make you skinny, just like they don't make you 'happy'. Honestly you need to ask yourself if you wanna be lower weight. It doesn't matter what other people think, you need to be happy with the way you look.

    Losing weight is simple calories in calories out principle. To put it very very simply, you put your body in to caloric deficit, and your body burns the fat storages. I think that is a good place to start. Then you can work on macro's, which is the amount of fat, protein, carbs to take, once you get used to the idea. You can simply input your data in to MFP, and follow the guided calorie intakes depending on how much weight you wanna lose. I would go with low values to start with.

    Working out has been great for me against stress. You could give it a shot, sign up to a gym and try for yourself. Or maybe you would like walking or any kind of exercise that makes you happy basically, and relieve your daily stress. Good luck!

  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    juliettegarlick9420 wrote: »
    I am 5'1 and weigh 130 lbs and my dad and boyfriend want me to loose weight, and I've been trying for 6 years and I only seem to stay the same. I am also a recovering drug addict, and used mainly to loose weight, and only seem to loose weight when I did drugs. But now I'm 3 months sober and I don't wanna go back to that hell. What do I do?

    What do YOU want to do?
  • crackpotbaby
    crackpotbaby Posts: 1,297 Member
    subcounter wrote: »
    Drugs don't make you skinny ...

    While not condoning drug use, you clearly have never had much to do with either amphetamine or opioid addicts.

    ....................

    OP - firstly congratulations on your sobriety!

    Do you want to lose weight yourself or do you just feel pressure from others? If you do want to lose weight then this app is a really useful tool.




  • blackcomaro
    blackcomaro Posts: 796 Member
    happilymegan wrote: »
    You tell your dad and boyfriend to mind their own *kitten* business for starters.

    This! Its about you.
  • Gimsteinn
    Gimsteinn Posts: 7,678 Member
    I'm 5'2 and 132 lbs at the moment and I'm no where near fat nor do I need to lose weight so how fat can you be?
    I think your dad is a douch and you deserve better from your boyfriend.

    Dont work on losing weight, work on your self respect cause those two men are tearing you down. Don't let them
  • canary_girl
    canary_girl Posts: 366 Member
    At your height and weight, you're fine. No wonder you had a drug habit to lose weight with the *kitten* in your life.

    Congratulations on 3 months sober. It's a great accomplishment.

    My advice to you is to not lose weight. Live. Be active. Train for something physical. Learn about nutrition. Learn how to live healthy. Get rid of negative *kitten*.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    juliettegarlick9420 wrote: »
    I only seem to loose weight when I did drugs.

    First you need to overcome this belief to get your mental attitude in line with your goals. Drugs suck the life out of you which causes many to drop weight quickly, and as unhealthy as it is you develop a mindset that drugs are somehow "good" because of that and that anything that doesn't drop weight that quick is useless. But we all know that isn't the truth. Same way people get addicted to fad diets and yo-yo.

    What is true is you need your mind, body, and spirit to all align and you need to gradually make healthier choices and changes for the rest of your life. Don't try to do everything at once and don't think it is quick. Start with dropping a bit of caloric intake and adding some cardio and conditioning. Nothing too aggressive, but things you can stick to. Then build from there. Always know in your heart and mind that you are doing things right and over time you will be the healthier person you want to be.

  • frannieshack
    frannieshack Posts: 327 Member
    "What is true is you need your mind, body, and spirit to all align and you need to gradually make healthier choices and changes for the rest of your life. Don't try to do everything at once and don't think it is quick."

    YES! Get some positive people in your life. Learn to love yourself, and to live sober first. This is #1 priority.
  • Momtafo
    Momtafo Posts: 48 Member
    Congratulations on your sobriety! Keep it up hun!
  • LinaBo
    LinaBo Posts: 342 Member
    Congrats on your sobriety, so far!

    While BMI is not the be-all, end-all of healthy weight range calculation, for a rough guess, for the average person, it does the job. So I did a quick calculation, and you are within the healthy weight range, for your height.

    I find it very concerning that you are focusing on your weight due at least in part to your father's and boyfriend's opinions. You are not overweight, and their opinions are not supportive. For them to butt in and voice their opinions on your body sounds controlling and really unhealthy. I would examine your relationships, and work on building some confidence. Learn to stand up for yourself, and tell them to butt out. Surround yourself with positive people. Factoring their opinions about your body into it at all is not going to help you, you have to do this for yourself, and you have to build confidence in yourself and YOUR opinion about what YOU want.

    I'd forget the scale, it sounds like something of an obsession. Just try to make some healthier food swaps, and get active. Take up an active hobby/sport or two, like hiking, or a walking group (try Meetup or something, to find groups in your area). Work on how your body feels to you: does it feel strong? Do you feel energetic? Does your body serve you well in carrying out your daily routine? I don't think nickeling and dimeing your caloric intake and calories burned, and the number on the scale, and even measurements, are going to be healthy for you. Just work on gradually replacing bad habits with better ones, and your body will find the weight that it wants to be at.
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