I'm so sad

pavang82
pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
edited September 19 in Motivation and Support
to see that people who started the same time as me (May 2008) lost weight. But for me, I'm going nowhere and starting all over again.:sad: :sad: :sad:

I've been exercising regularly and its so sad to see that the scale hasn't moved in the last 8 months.

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  • pavang82
    pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
    to see that people who started the same time as me (May 2008) lost weight. But for me, I'm going nowhere and starting all over again.:sad: :sad: :sad:

    I've been exercising regularly and its so sad to see that the scale hasn't moved in the last 8 months.
  • TRLTAMPA
    TRLTAMPA Posts: 824
    Maybe this is the weight your body wants to be.....
    I know the last 10 pounds is the hardest but 8 months???
  • Coach2010
    Coach2010 Posts: 209
    Hey, hang in there. This is a process where we're learning all the way along. I would ask that you please continue to be open to learning what works and what doesn't work for you and those on the MFP community.

    Keep your efforts in focus, as it's the effort that is going to keep you above the mindset of win/loss of achieving your goal. That kind of pressure will stifle your growth in fitness.

    Do your best, and enjoy the journey! :drinker:
  • Hanna1983
    Hanna1983 Posts: 251
    Aww thats such a shame! Are you sticking to the nutritional goals that MFP calculated for you?

    I am myself off to a slow start. But admittingly that is because I do not stick to my nutritional goals at all times :grumble:
  • sarabear
    sarabear Posts: 864
    to see that people who started the same time as me (May 2008) lost weight. But for me, I'm going nowhere and starting all over again.:sad: :sad: :sad:

    I've been exercising regularly and its so sad to see that the scale hasn't moved in the last 8 months.

    Have you been doing the same exercises? Your body might not find them as a challenge anymore. Change it up or turn it up, speed/resistance
  • Jennay77
    Jennay77 Posts: 8
    Don't be sad, keep it up, you can do it!

    I was going through the same thing, and found out that stress plays a big part in losing weight. Maybe that's an aspect to look at.

    Keep your head up!
  • kerrilucko
    kerrilucko Posts: 3,852 Member
    If it's been 8 months and you're doing everything right, I really would recommened that you make a trip in to see your doctor. the last 10 lbs will be the hardest to get off, but maybe, as someone suggested, your body is just dont willing to go that low. Maybe you are at a healthy weight right now. Or maybe there is a health concern stopping you from reaching your goal. Either way, it couldn't hurt to go in, may solve your weight loss issue! Best of luck! :flowerforyou:
  • pavang82
    pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
    Aww thats such a shame! Are you sticking to the nutritional goals that MFP calculated for you?

    I am myself off to a slow start. But admittingly that is because I do not stick to my nutritional goals at all times :grumble:

    Yes, it's shameful to admit that I haven't made any progress within the last 8 months. I do have cheat days, and try really hard to stick to my nutritional goals that MFP calculated for me.
  • nguill6
    nguill6 Posts: 133
    Maybe you should talk to a nutritionist or a personal trainer. I haven't made much progress yet either, but I know I'm going way over my calories some days and I'm not exercising as regularly as I should be. Also make sure you're taking measurements and not just looking at the scale. You might be making more progress than you think... Either way- keep working at it because your overall health is benefitting! LONGEVITY:bigsmile:
  • pavang82
    pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
    If it's been 8 months and you're doing everything right, I really would recommened that you make a trip in to see your doctor. the last 10 lbs will be the hardest to get off, but maybe, as someone suggested, your body is just dont willing to go that low. Maybe you are at a healthy weight right now. Or maybe there is a health concern stopping you from reaching your goal. Either way, it couldn't hurt to go in, may solve your weight loss issue! Best of luck! :flowerforyou:

    I went to my Dr. last week because I was having neck and shoulder pains. She said it was my muscle. It has been a week now and I haven't exercised yet, I feel so disgusted. It's not 10 pounds that I want to loose, it's a short term goal only so I won't get unmotivated. My overall weight loss goal is 30lbs. According to my BMI, I'm overweight. I congrats you on your weight loss. :smile:
  • pavang82
    pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
    Maybe you should talk to a nutritionist or a personal trainer. I haven't made much progress yet either, but I know I'm going way over my calories some days and I'm not exercising as regularly as I should be. Also make sure you're taking measurements and not just looking at the scale. You might be making more progress than you think... Either way- keep working at it because your overall health is benefitting! LONGEVITY:bigsmile:

    Thanks for your advice. I started taking measurements on 1/9/09 so I won't get unmotivated. I'll take measurements again on Feb 9.
  • sculley
    sculley Posts: 2,012 Member
    I read somewhere that you body has what they call a "happy weight" and unfortunately I have been stuck at my body's happy weight for months
  • Hanna1983
    Hanna1983 Posts: 251
    Aww thats such a shame! Are you sticking to the nutritional goals that MFP calculated for you?

    I am myself off to a slow start. But admittingly that is because I do not stick to my nutritional goals at all times :grumble:

    Yes, it's shameful to admit that I haven't made any progress within the last 8 months. I do have cheat days, and try really hard to stick to my nutritional goals that MFP calculated for me.

    No its not shameful. I am sure there is a good reason why your scale has not shown any difference.
    I agree with the previous quote about measuring yourself. 10 lbs is not that much to lose and will take longer. But you might be able to see a difference already in your measurements. My weight hasnt changed that much yet, but I feel firmer and clothes are already fitting better. I think thats because I am currently building up muscle while losing fat and it balances itself out somehow... who knows.
  • pavang82
    pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
    I read somewhere that you body has what they call a "happy weight" and unfortunately I have been stuck at my body's happy weight for months

    But I've seen that you've lost 33 lbs already, I haven't lost anything. I'm back at square 1. And I know that I'm not at my so called "happy weight."
  • heal4444
    heal4444 Posts: 709
    I'm sorry you feel sad. Thank you for sharing your frustration with us. Hope you'll feel happier soon. Don't lose weight to feel happy. You'll only postpone your own happiness. Feel happy while getting more fit and eating better. We're all here with you. You're not alone. :flowerforyou: Take good care. You are a busy mom of 3. Take good care of #1 first, yourself.
  • SHBoss1673
    SHBoss1673 Posts: 7,161 Member
    I read somewhere that you body has what they call a "happy weight" and unfortunately I have been stuck at my body's happy weight for months

    But I've seen that you've lost 33 lbs already, I haven't lost anything. I'm back at square 1. And I know that I'm not at my so called "happy weight."

    pav, it's hard some times. BTW that happy weight is called the set point, its a range of 10% of your ultimate goal that your body feels good with and will fight against changing.

    Pav, if you think it may help, why don't you post your numbers (height, weight, activity level), what you are doing, what your typical meal plan is like, what your goal is set at...etc. Maybe someone will spot something that may help you succeed. 8 months is a long time to have no success, and that must be frustrating. It could be medical, but just as possible is that it's something little that you need to tweak.
  • pavang82
    pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
    pav, it's hard some times. BTW that happy weight is called the set point, its a range of 10% of your ultimate goal that your body feels good with and will fight against changing.

    Pav, if you think it may help, why don't you post your numbers (height, weight, activity level), what you are doing, what your typical meal plan is like, what your goal is set at...etc. Maybe someone will spot something that may help you succeed. 8 months is a long time to have no success, and that must be frustrating. It could be medical, but just as possible is that it's something little that you need to tweak.

    Aren't you "BANKS"? Nice to see you back on again. Okay I'm 5'2 and my weight fluctuates anywhere from 140-145.:ohwell: My goal is set to loose 0.9lbs/week at 1200 cal/per day. I usually go to the gym 4X per week doing elliptical machines and run on the treadmill for 30 minutes per day. Since I've gone nowhere, I've been slacking off BIG time, its been almost 2 weeks since I last went to the gym. I need to find motivation ASAP. :sad:
  • pavang82
    pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
    :smile:
  • SHBoss1673
    SHBoss1673 Posts: 7,161 Member
    pav, it's hard some times. BTW that happy weight is called the set point, its a range of 10% of your ultimate goal that your body feels good with and will fight against changing.

    Pav, if you think it may help, why don't you post your numbers (height, weight, activity level), what you are doing, what your typical meal plan is like, what your goal is set at...etc. Maybe someone will spot something that may help you succeed. 8 months is a long time to have no success, and that must be frustrating. It could be medical, but just as possible is that it's something little that you need to tweak.

    Aren't you "BANKS"? Nice to see you back on again. Okay I'm 5'2 and my weight fluctuates anywhere from 140-145.:ohwell: My goal is set to loose 0.9lbs/week at 1200 cal/per day. I usually go to the gym 4X per week doing elliptical machines and run on the treadmill for 30 minutes per day. Since I've gone nowhere, I've been slacking off BIG time, its been almost 2 weeks since I last went to the gym. I need to find motivation ASAP. :sad:

    Yes yes, tis me. :happy:

    well, first, 5'2 and 142 lbs (I put it in the middle), with a somewhat active lifestyle ( you have 3 boys all under 10, so you're not sedentary.) Puts your MAINTENANCE calories at about 1900. So you should be at about 1450 calories a day to get .9 lbs/week, not 1200, that makes a difference.
    2nd, the (just under) 1 lb / week you are at is probably too much for you. You have a BMI of 26, which is JUUUSSSTTTT a tad over normal. Which means your body's gonna fight you every step of the way. Here's the thing pav, eating less won't make it go faster.

    So (and remember, this is just a suggestion) I would eat around 1500 to 1600 a week PLUS the calories you burn on both the tread mill and your eliptical. Also, and this is just my humble opinion, your at the stage now where you probably need a couple of days of weight training to go along with your cardio. Cardio's great for fat burning, but really, in order to LOOK better, muscle definition is needed. At a BMI of 26, it wouldn't take your body long to respond.
  • pavang82
    pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
    pav, it's hard some times. BTW that happy weight is called the set point, its a range of 10% of your ultimate goal that your body feels good with and will fight against changing.

    Pav, if you think it may help, why don't you post your numbers (height, weight, activity level), what you are doing, what your typical meal plan is like, what your goal is set at...etc. Maybe someone will spot something that may help you succeed. 8 months is a long time to have no success, and that must be frustrating. It could be medical, but just as possible is that it's something little that you need to tweak.

    Aren't you "BANKS"? Nice to see you back on again. Okay I'm 5'2 and my weight fluctuates anywhere from 140-145.:ohwell: My goal is set to loose 0.9lbs/week at 1200 cal/per day. I usually go to the gym 4X per week doing elliptical machines and run on the treadmill for 30 minutes per day. Since I've gone nowhere, I've been slacking off BIG time, its been almost 2 weeks since I last went to the gym. I need to find motivation ASAP. :sad:

    Yes yes, tis me. :happy:

    well, first, 5'2 and 142 lbs (I put it in the middle), with a somewhat active lifestyle ( you have 3 boys all under 10, so you're not sedentary.) Puts your MAINTENANCE calories at about 1900. So you should be at about 1450 calories a day to get .9 lbs/week, not 1200, that makes a difference.
    2nd, the (just under) 1 lb / week you are at is probably too much for you. You have a BMI of 26, which is JUUUSSSTTTT a tad over normal. Which means your body's gonna fight you every step of the way. Here's the thing pav, eating less won't make it go faster.

    So (and remember, this is just a suggestion) I would eat around 1500 to 1600 a week PLUS the calories you burn on both the tread mill and your eliptical. Also, and this is just my humble opinion, your at the stage now where you probably need a couple of days of weight training to go along with your cardio. Cardio's great for fat burning, but really, in order to LOOK better, muscle definition is needed. At a BMI of 26, it wouldn't take your body long to respond.

    Thanks for your input. I did do strength training and sprained my muscle. I'm putting that on hold for now. I will change my daily intake to 1450 and see how that goes. I appreciate it so much. By the way, welcome back also.
  • emocasia
    emocasia Posts: 2
    Just a couple things to add
    1. MFP's BMI calculator is not entirely accurate due to the fact that it cannot physically measure exactly how much fat/muscle your body is composed of. I weigh 223 pounds and my goal is 190-200 pounds which for my height 5'10'' is still considered overweight or even obese. However remember muscle weighs more than fat. It always has and always will.

    2. Maintain a recurring workout and meal schedule. I only work out 3 times a week for 1-1.5 hours per day. I work out around the same time 5pm-6pm. DO NOT FORCE YOUR BODY TO STRENUOUS EXERCISE. You will end up hurting yourself and losing the motivation. After an exercise session you should feel great and energetic, otherwise something is wrong. I usually start with a short yoga session to clear my mind and to warm up my muscles, then I either jog, run, or use the elliptical machine. I do some weight training and then I finish up with some yoga again. Breakfast, lunch and dinner are always important. I start with a breakfast shake that holds me over very well until lunch. I'm a sandwich lover so for lunch I usually always have one or a wrap with a side soup or salad. Dinner I eat normally some protein, a veg and a starch. And I always cook enough for one serving. As for a snack I usually some fruit or low fat plain yogurt infused with real fruit. I usually always stay under my daily calorie intake. Since June I have lost 27 pounds. I am new to MFP... can you believe I used to calculate this stuff by hand? ;)

    3. Find your state of mind. Losing weight shouldn't be this painful, heart breaking, and stressful goal. Being disappointed or stressed usually leads to one breaking their diet. Instead treat it as if it were a game where you are the player and you are simply trying to beat the scale. It's actually a lot of fun. Obviously I'm just giving you my thoughts, but I hope this somewhat helps.

    Remember everyone's body is different. Not one diet or exercise plan is for everyone. It is up to you to see what is best. You CAN do it. Just don't give up relax and have fun :)

    -RAZ
  • cmalone
    cmalone Posts: 11
    You have to try new workouts that are more challenging and watch you sodium intake because too much will increase the amount of water that you retain. Six small meals a day and 3 to 4 days working out should help you out. Make sure you are doing the exercises correctly also..and don't over do it because you will hurt your muscles...

    Don't be sad...use it as motivation!
  • ChubbyBunny
    ChubbyBunny Posts: 3,523 Member
    to see that people who started the same time as me (May 2008) lost weight. But for me, I'm going nowhere and starting all over again.:sad: :sad: :sad:

    I've been exercising regularly and its so sad to see that the scale hasn't moved in the last 8 months.

    :laugh:
    Don't feel bad! I joined when you did... I only lost 10lbs since then... and that was cause I DIDN'T work out! Don't beat yourself up.
  • ChubbyBunny
    ChubbyBunny Posts: 3,523 Member
    Side note.... just for the record....
    I've missed Banks pool of knowledge!
    :laugh:
  • pavang82
    pavang82 Posts: 454 Member
    Thanks for everyone's input. I appreciate it a lot. I've glad to say, I've found motivation again. Running relieved a lot of stress and thing that were on my mind, also my overall energy improved this afternoon. Thanks guys.
  • SHBoss1673
    SHBoss1673 Posts: 7,161 Member
    Side note.... just for the record....
    I've missed Banks pool of knowledge!
    :laugh:

    It's a kiddie pool, but hey. you work with what you have right? :tongue:

    Oh, and as my father always said:

    "I'm a wellspring of usless information"
  • gone2gym2befit
    gone2gym2befit Posts: 26
    The key to getting your body to burn more calories really is to increase your lean muscle mass. I too did lots of cardio at the gym for years (I'm turning 48 this year) and I never gained weight, but I ate what I wanted and figured I was burning enough off to not worry about it. Then I took a circuit challenge class at my gym and had several sessions w/ a dietician and found out I would stay that way forever unless I changed up my work out routine. And after the circuit class, I realized I was NOT in good shape!!! My legs burned and hurt for 2 days after the 1rst class because I did squats, lunges, and other muscle building work that I had never done before. So as part of my regular routine, I now do lots of lower body resistance training. That's where all the big muscles are(glutes, quads, hamstrings and abs are all waiting to be engaged!) that will be great fat burners for you when you do your cardio ~AFTER you do some weight and resistance training. The other big change for me was NEVER skipping breakfast and making that the meal of the day where I have the most calories (cause you'll burn em up through the day) and eating smaller meals and adding small snacks every 2 to 3 hours. Lots of fiber (think about adding more of what the earth offers to eat rather than the grocery store aisles) and all your protein should be the leanest possible. Good luck and start small w/ change!! I ended up losing almost 20 lbs over the past two years adding weight training and resistance training. I actually do less cardio now than ever before!!!!! My body is toned (not bulky) :wink: and I feel great!!!:wink:
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