I feel disgusting

seashellbabe
seashellbabe Posts: 12 Member
edited November 15 in Health and Weight Loss
I'm a 19 year old boy who weighs 155 pounds at 5' 11". I'm genuinely feeling discouraged and defeated. For over a year I've been putting on weight, it began at 140, then 145, then 150. I've tried my hardest to lose it, but I just can't stop cheating. I have no self control. I can't eat any junk food without wanting more and more. 3 years ago I lost over 85 pounds by completely cutting out all junk food, I'm not sure if I should do that again. This has been going on for a year and I'm truly about to give up. My weight has taken over my life. I'll go 2-3 days eating well and sticking to a plan, then I'll cheat and start the cycle over. I've tried everything. I've tried to eat at every amount of calories between 800-1600. I've tried to delete the app and just count in my head, and I've tried to just not count calories. It's always the same. I know I must sound extremely negative but I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for me? I'm just trying to be able to change my lifestyle for the better and stop gaining weight and actually start losing. I'm approaching 160 pounds.

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  • FreyasRebirth
    FreyasRebirth Posts: 514 Member
    You are at a completely normal weight for your height. You are also at an age where you could still be growing. If there was any health advice to give, I'd bring up your concerns with your doctor and probably find someone who specializes in body image issues.
  • spiriteagle99
    spiriteagle99 Posts: 3,745 Member
    Your weight is normal according to BMI calculators. I'd consider it a bit low actually. Why do you think otherwise?
  • rdl81
    rdl81 Posts: 220 Member
    Hey don't be so down on yourself it ain't easy!!! I am not sure if I am best person to answer I would suggest you work out ur kcal for the week. That will give u total for the week then try and go mon-fri with less kcal and have some extra for sat Sunday for example. That way you can know at the weekend you can have some food u like. That's what got me in gear. I was fairly strict weekdays and relaxed at weekend but it was only when I started tracking and got 100% strict weekdays and used spare at weekend running a deficit still in total I was able to keep it up and loose.

    Also any exercise maybe a sport or just fitness goals could be a motivation.
  • nomorepuke
    nomorepuke Posts: 320 Member
    You're young. Go play basketball or tennis. Find a hobby like indoor climbing etc.
    My boyfriend is 6'2 and weighs about 200lbs. He looks absolutely handsome. He plays basketball and never watches what he eats. I feel like you need to talk to a doctor. I have absolutely no clue why you feel the need to lose any weight.
  • cmtigger
    cmtigger Posts: 1,450 Member
    I'm a 5'10" woman and 150 is a healthy weight for my height. It's fine for you too. You are still young and it's probably growth that led to your weight gain, not overeating. Are you able to see a counselor to talk about your weight issues before they get more severe?
  • TonyB0588
    TonyB0588 Posts: 9,520 Member
    So what's the actual problem? You're at a good weight for that height right now.
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,324 Member
    You sound skinny to me.. you are not seeing yourself in a true light...a man 5 11 and 155? that is what a woman should weigh who is 5 11. on the lower end too.
  • CafeRacer808
    CafeRacer808 Posts: 2,396 Member
    TonyB0588 wrote: »
    So what's the actual problem? You're at a good weight for that height right now.

    I think the problem is that OP is starting to develop an unhealthy relationship with his weight and/or food.

    OP, I think you ought to speak to a health care professional, even if it's just to rule out the possibility of an eating disorder/disordered thinking.
  • blambo61
    blambo61 Posts: 4,372 Member
    edited February 2017
    seashellbabe wrote: »
    I'm a 19 year old boy who weighs 155 pounds at 5' 11". I'm genuinely feeling discouraged and defeated. For over a year I've been putting on weight, it began at 140, then 145, then 150. I've tried my hardest to lose it, but I just can't stop cheating. I have no self control. I can't eat any junk food without wanting more and more. 3 years ago I lost over 85 pounds by completely cutting out all junk food, I'm not sure if I should do that again. This has been going on for a year and I'm truly about to give up. My weight has taken over my life. I'll go 2-3 days eating well and sticking to a plan, then I'll cheat and start the cycle over. I've tried everything. I've tried to eat at every amount of calories between 800-1600. I've tried to delete the app and just count in my head, and I've tried to just not count calories. It's always the same. I know I must sound extremely negative but I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for me? I'm just trying to be able to change my lifestyle for the better and stop gaining weight and actually start losing. I'm approaching 160 pounds.

    Unless you have about zero muscle, you are not overweight. A guy your height who has some muscle could easily weigh what you weigh and not be overweight at all. What % body fat are you? If you have a high percent body fat, hit the weights and don't try to lose weight, just try to gain some muscle! Do you exercise much?
  • zdecker123
    zdecker123 Posts: 2 Member
    seashellbabe wrote: »
    I'm a 19 year old boy who weighs 155 pounds at 5' 11". I'm genuinely feeling discouraged and defeated. For over a year I've been putting on weight, it began at 140, then 145, then 150. I've tried my hardest to lose it, but I just can't stop cheating. I have no self control. I can't eat any junk food without wanting more and more. 3 years ago I lost over 85 pounds by completely cutting out all junk food, I'm not sure if I should do that again. This has been going on for a year and I'm truly about to give up. My weight has taken over my life. I'll go 2-3 days eating well and sticking to a plan, then I'll cheat and start the cycle over. I've tried everything. I've tried to eat at every amount of calories between 800-1600. I've tried to delete the app and just count in my head, and I've tried to just not count calories. It's always the same. I know I must sound extremely negative but I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for me? I'm just trying to be able to change my lifestyle for the better and stop gaining weight and actually start losing. I'm approaching 160 pounds.

  • zdecker123
    zdecker123 Posts: 2 Member
    I know it may be discouraging, but keep counting! It's really worth it at the end.
  • kk_inprogress
    kk_inprogress Posts: 3,077 Member
    zdecker123 wrote: »
    I know it may be discouraging, but keep counting! It's really worth it at the end.

    Really? Did you read the post? He's counting way under what he should and trying to lose to a point he'd be underweight.
  • kk_inprogress
    kk_inprogress Posts: 3,077 Member
    Tacklewasher wrote: »
    zdecker123 wrote: »
    I know it may be discouraging, but keep counting! It's really worth it at the end.

    Wow.

    Did you read the thread? He doesn't need to lose any more, and is at risk of developing an eating disorder.

    Great minds...you beat me to it.
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,961 Member
    edited February 2017
    It's called filling out. You bones and muscles are still growing. My husband is 5' 10" and was 150 through his late teens early 20s. He was thin then. His muscle and bone structure has developed since then. By the time you're older (fully physically grown) you probably will put on a bit more weight. That doesn't mean it will get out of hand. Just keep an eye that it doesn't get too high. But that doesn't mean you need to lose weight either.
  • Anonymous_fiend
    Anonymous_fiend Posts: 196 Member
    You're an attractive young male at a healthy (and thin) weight. If anything focus on limiting junk food not counting calories but restricting too much is unhealthy. If you are unhappy with how you look try recomping- losing body fat while adding muscle. Try talking to a counselor if you're having an unhealthy relationship with food. It could be triggered by other things going on.
  • CattOfTheGarage
    CattOfTheGarage Posts: 2,745 Member
    Of course you're gaining weight! You're a young man who's putting on muscle! Over the last few years you have grown at a very fast rate, meaning your bones are longer, but the muscle has not kept up with the growth and is now bulking up to fill in the gap.

    This is completely, totally, 100% normal and desirable, and you should not worry about it. Nor should you worry about having a big appetite, as you need the energy for muscle growth.

    In my opinion, you need to stop restricting food (that will only make you obsess about it anyway), eat while you're hungry, making sure to get plenty of protein for those muscles, and stop thinking about losing weight. Perhaps you might enjoy weight training so you can see your own new strength in action.

    If you cannot stop thinking about losing weight, or if the idea of bulking up or eating plenty makes you anxious, then you have some signs of an eating disorder and should read up on that and seek some help. But if you can, just shift your focus to strength and ignore the idea of weight loss altogether. It is not appropriate for you.
  • 0831227
    0831227 Posts: 84 Member
    Hi OP, I don't know anything about your whole situation or your health status so there is no absolute advice that can be given here, but as someone who graduated in psychology I suggest that you talk with someone about potential body image issues/potential unhealthy relationship with food.

    As I said, we are all just strangers off the internet and we don't know the whole picture, but it seems to me that you are deadly scared of gaining weight and restricting yourself to a very harsh diet when you are not overweight, even quite underweight for you height and age. Plus I am guessing that you must have checked the recommended BMI on internet since it is so easy to consult it, thus you might be aware of what the numbers say but still feel disgusted by the fact you are gaining weight.

    If you don't feel confortable talking to a professional just yet, maybe you could confess to someone you feel close to and see what they think of the idea.

    Wishing you the best.
  • SadDolt
    SadDolt Posts: 173 Member
    5'11 and 155? can i be you?
  • Sheisinlove109
    Sheisinlove109 Posts: 516 Member
    Mfp friend, all these numbers are just numbers. You need to eat well, sleep well, drink plenty of water and relax.Talk with your doctor about where they would like to see your weight. They can factor in a bunch of things that we can't see, nor are we medically trained.

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