Runners - have you ever?

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  • The_Enginerd
    The_Enginerd Posts: 3,982 Member
    And honestly although people yelling is annoying it's just words. My biggest worry/pet peeve in terms of safety as a runner is folks who turn right without looking left/in front of them for pedestrians or see me but don't yield the right of way in the crosswalk and come close to hitting me. I've already been clipped once by someone turning right.
  • wellthenwhat
    wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
    I have had lots of people honk too, but in my very rural Midwest area, that's just a way of saying howdy, neighbor, lol
  • spiriteagle99
    spiriteagle99 Posts: 3,740 Member
    I've had people yell at me, but couldn't tell whether they were yelling encouragement or disparagement. I assumed the best, but the other wouldn't bother me because it has nothing to do with me. Same with honks. I assume it's a fellow runner saying, "WTG!" but it could be something else. I'll never know, so I don't care. Strangers in cars don't know me well enough to hurt me (unless they run into me). I know what I look like when I run, and it's not a pretty picture. If someone chooses to make fun of that, oh well. I'm doing what I enjoy doing, and a random stranger isn't going to stop me. When I do understand what they are saying, mostly it's something inane like, "So who's chasing you?"
  • curvytofit
    curvytofit Posts: 48 Member
    I don't understand why there is people like this. Seriously it's not hard. Just mind your own business. Why the f you want to make someone feel bad when they are doing something good for themselves. Like when you say bad things will your ego grew bigger and go to the sky?

    Some people are just plain dumb. They think being mean is so cool. Bringing someone down just to one second means a life success to them I guess. I mean what could be their point otherwise?
  • kbmnurse
    kbmnurse Posts: 2,484 Member
    I would ignore the ignorant. Karma!!!!!!!!
  • cmerunlong
    cmerunlong Posts: 5 Member
    I have found some people are simply awful humans. I have never really cared much about what people say or think about me, but shouting at someone is truly hostile. Keep doing what you do
  • 7lenny7
    7lenny7 Posts: 3,498 Member
    I've had people shout things a few times but I usually can't understand what they're saying and it doesn't bother me. What pisses me off is when some *kitten* drives by and honks. Damn near makes me piss my tights! My wife did that once thinking it was cute. I was not amused.
  • Rabid_Hamster
    Rabid_Hamster Posts: 338 Member
    you're focusing on the wrong thing. You were out there doing something to improve yourself. It's one thing to lament something about yourself. It's a much more important thing to do something about it. :)
    On a side note, I wish my workplace had a locker room I could use so I could run during lunch. Kinda jealous. B)
  • Joanna2012B
    Joanna2012B Posts: 1,448 Member
    I believe that people like that are jealous of what you are doing and lash out as a result. Don't worry about some *kitten* with feelings of inadequacies!! Just keep running, you're amazing!!!!

    Now I didn't get shouted at this morning, but I was running on a 4 lane road at 5am. Very little traffic and the truck coming at me made no attempt to move over and laid on his horn as soon as he got to me. I waved at him with my middle finger!
  • peleroja
    peleroja Posts: 3,979 Member
    7lenny7 wrote: »
    I've had people shout things a few times but I usually can't understand what they're saying and it doesn't bother me. What pisses me off is when some *kitten* drives by and honks. Damn near makes me piss my tights! My wife did that once thinking it was cute. I was not amused.

    LOL, especially when it's quiet. I have legit tripped over cracks in the sidewalk when people do this, haha. I like audiobooks to run to sometimes and there is nothing like being engrossed in some Stephen King, running along in a very still early morning, and having someone honk at you out of nowhere :lol: The terror is real.
  • 4righteousnesssake
    4righteousnesssake Posts: 276 Member
    midwesterner85 wrote: »
    That guy probably has problems of his own and is just trying to deflect.

    This is truth.
  • leadslinger17
    leadslinger17 Posts: 297 Member
    That really sucks that it happened to you, just ignore it though. It's awesome that you are out there getting your miles in. I've never had that happen but some bad drivers and poorly secured dogs have almost got me. People can be asshats.
  • AmyOutOfControl
    AmyOutOfControl Posts: 1,425 Member
    The_Enginerd wrote: »
    And honestly although people yelling is annoying it's just words. My biggest worry/pet peeve in terms of safety as a runner is folks who turn right without looking left/in front of them for pedestrians or see me but don't yield the right of way in the crosswalk and come close to hitting me. I've already been clipped once by someone turning right.

    This. I was clipped at a crosswalk once. Someone was too busy looking at their phone while stopped at the stop sign. They just went through the crosswalk without looking to the left. After hitting me, they stopped for two seconds with a panicked look -- and then took off like a bat out of hell! They did not even check to see if I was okay. Stupid person. I am completely paranoid running through crosswalks now.

    Just ignore the verbal diarrhea of *kitten* screaming at strangers in the street. Feel sad that they don't have anything else better to do with their life.
  • AmbitiousButRubbish
    AmbitiousButRubbish Posts: 246 Member
    Sorry that happened. Happens too much unfortunately. I usually run with headphones in so I can't hear anyone around me. Best advice is to chalk it up to terrible people being terrible because they can be terrible without consequences. Use it as fuel for the fight.
  • KimJohnsonsmile
    KimJohnsonsmile Posts: 222 Member
    That comment has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with the jerk who was yelling. Some people need to make themselves feel better by belittling others. Deep down you know that. The people in your life that care about you are the ones that matter. Don't give that creep the satisfaction of even thinking about him one little bit. Let it roll off your beautiful shoulders and know that you are running for you and no one else. Keep trucking, sister!
  • BrianSharpe
    BrianSharpe Posts: 9,248 Member
    The_Enginerd wrote: »
    And honestly although people yelling is annoying it's just words. My biggest worry/pet peeve in terms of safety as a runner is folks who turn right without looking left/in front of them for pedestrians or see me but don't yield the right of way in the crosswalk and come close to hitting me. I've already been clipped once by someone turning right.

    You and me both......even when I have my flashing light etc people can be pretty oblivious.

    OP don't let them get you down, people who do that are pathetic little excuses for humans and are probably more deserving of pity than anger. I've only had a few clowns make comments in the past decade and they invariably drive pick up trucks with oversize tires, I just smile and wave....
  • erikfarrar
    erikfarrar Posts: 35 Member
    jakicooke wrote: »
    How do others deal with this? Im feeling really quite upset now - yes i was running (or attempting to) and yes Im fat but Im really not a *kitten*!!!

    seriously why would someone ever feel that they could shout such things?

    You deal with it by smiling congenially back and showing them that you're not perturbed. And you ignore it. And you feel sad for that person. The thing they want most is for their provocation to work; if you're not provoked, you've just ruined that moment for them. Take heart in that, and then come here and vent, like you have, among people who support you.

    StealthHealth wrote: »
    Some people a complete wankers.

    Oh and by the way - Looking at your profile pic, you're not fat.

    Whether you're fat or not, I'm going to give you mad props for taking your health and fitness into your own hands and squeezing in a lunch run. You're doing better than, like, 80% of America.

    Honestly, I hear anecdotes of out-of-shape people being afraid of going to the gym because of all the fit people there. I'm in pretty good shape, so I'm probably one of those intimidating-looking ones, but I'm going to support anyone willing to make that effort. It's not easy. Everyone belongs in the gym. Or outside running. Or doing whatever they like that helps them towards their fitness goals.

    ritzvin wrote: »
    Cycling- we'll sometimes get stuff like that (rural redneck areas). Running (city)- usually encouragement/thumbs-up and catcalls.

    I've had people threaten to run out and push me over. I dunno, some people are just dicks.
  • lilawolf
    lilawolf Posts: 1,690 Member
    amymoreorless wrote: »
    The_Enginerd wrote: »
    And honestly although people yelling is annoying it's just words. My biggest worry/pet peeve in terms of safety as a runner is folks who turn right without looking left/in front of them for pedestrians or see me but don't yield the right of way in the crosswalk and come close to hitting me. I've already been clipped once by someone turning right.

    This. I was clipped at a crosswalk once. Someone was too busy looking at their phone while stopped at the stop sign. They just went through the crosswalk without looking to the left. After hitting me, they stopped for two seconds with a panicked look -- and then took off like a bat out of hell! They did not even check to see if I was okay. Stupid person. I am completely paranoid running through crosswalks now.

    Just ignore the verbal diarrhea of *kitten* screaming at strangers in the street. Feel sad that they don't have anything else better to do with their life.

    If I don't make eye contact, I don't go in front of anyone. I don't trust anyone to have any sense or awareness... Sad but true.

    As for OP, hes just an ahole letting his ahole flag fly. Can you imagine how awful of a life he must have? All of the negativity.... shakes head... meanwhile you're over here doing awesome and making healthy choices. You're fine. He's not.

    I've only been shouted at once (that I heard anyway). In the deepest voice imaginable, this guy grunt/yelled "nice *kitten*!" from a passing truck. It made me jump then chuckle then keep going.

    Speaking of more positive things to yell, I'm always tempted to yell a "way to go" at runners. I know I would appreciate it when I'm huffing and puffing along, but I know that some people don't want to be bothered/acknowledged or always turn things negative like "is she just saying that, because she thinks I'm a whale who needs the encouragement???" What do you guys think?
  • WhitneyDurham777
    WhitneyDurham777 Posts: 71 Member
    I have had this happen to me tons of times. It still is a bit unnerving sometimes. My sister has had a homeless man punch her in the back of the head while running. It is amazing the thought process of some individuals. It is funny though when I am in the mountains and I pass someone. It almost always seems like there are encouraging words or at least a friendly hello.
  • ritzvin
    ritzvin Posts: 2,860 Member
    edited March 2017
    amymoreorless wrote: »
    The_Enginerd wrote: »
    And honestly although people yelling is annoying it's just words. My biggest worry/pet peeve in terms of safety as a runner is folks who turn right without looking left/in front of them for pedestrians or see me but don't yield the right of way in the crosswalk and come close to hitting me. I've already been clipped once by someone turning right.

    This. I was clipped at a crosswalk once. Someone was too busy looking at their phone while stopped at the stop sign. They just went through the crosswalk without looking to the left. After hitting me, they stopped for two seconds with a panicked look -- and then took off like a bat out of hell! They did not even check to see if I was okay. Stupid person. I am completely paranoid running through crosswalks now.

    Where I am isn't bad for that..it's a high pedestrian area, so the drivers are pretty conditioned to watch for pedestrians and cyclists. The cyclists, on the other hand, blow through the stop signs on the long side streets at full speed - I have a blinking light vest instead of just a reflective one because of a few near misses with them. And the drivers could sometimes be a bit more cautious when exiting the traffic circles on Richmond.

    edited to add:
    The suburbs, on the other hand: yeah, I've been clipped by drivers making right turns on red.
  • pondee629
    pondee629 Posts: 2,469 Member
    " I'm always tempted to yell a "way to go" at runners"

    I usually, while on a run, will just give another runner a little wave or nod. Most respond in kind, some just ignore. Something I picked up as a motorcycle rider. I usually "don't hear" crap yelled by others.
  • lorrpb
    lorrpb Posts: 11,463 Member
    People are stupid and that comment says a lot about the speaker and NOTHING about you. The only comments I've received are people wishing they could do what I do, and I'm a VERY SLOW runner!
  • leadslinger17
    leadslinger17 Posts: 297 Member
    I always plan on the driver doing the stupid thing... roll through the stop sign, ignore the fact that I have the flashing crosswalk sign, etc. It leads to a wasted second or two while I wait for them to physically gesture for me to go, but safety is more important.
    lilawolf wrote: »
    Speaking of more positive things to yell, I'm always tempted to yell a "way to go" at runners. I know I would appreciate it when I'm huffing and puffing along, but I know that some people don't want to be bothered/acknowledged or always turn things negative like "is she just saying that, because she thinks I'm a whale who needs the encouragement???" What do you guys think?

    I kind of agree... I always just keep it to myself because I think they will either not hear the actual words just that I'm yelling something and assume I'm being rude, hear and assume I'm being sarcastic/condescending, or just not want attention drawn to themselves whether it is positive or negative. Or if the runner in question happened to be female that I'm being a creep.

  • fit_chickx
    fit_chickx Posts: 569 Member
    edited March 2017
    I'm sure that shook you up. What a negative worthless guy. Negative people don't define you. You define who you are. A running bad @ss!

    Just read a statistic online. Runner’s World magazine survey found 43 percent of female runners experience harassment. The article is frightening. A female runners GPS shows her brutal attack.

    foxnews.com/lifestyle/2017/03/14/joggers-fitness-tracker-documented-her-brutal-attack-on-run.html

  • The_Enginerd
    The_Enginerd Posts: 3,982 Member
    AmbitiousButRubbish wrote: »
    I usually run with headphones in so I can't hear anyone around me.

    You want to have situational awareness and be able to hear someone coming behind you. Running with one earphone or earphones that don't block out ambient noise (e.g. Yurbuds) if you listen to music is recommended.
  • leadslinger17
    leadslinger17 Posts: 297 Member
    But I do want to give encouragement especially when I think it is too cold/rainy/early/ etc to run and then I see a runner out there.
  • ritzvin
    ritzvin Posts: 2,860 Member
    fit_chickx wrote: »
    I'm sure that shook you up. What a negative worthless guy. Negative people don't define you. You define who you are. A running bad @ss!

    Just read a statistic online. Runner’s World magazine survey found 43 percent of female runners experience harassment. The article is frightening. A female runners GPS shows her brutal attack.

    foxnews.com/lifestyle/2017/03/14/joggers-fitness-tracker-documented-her-brutal-attack-on-run.html

    Wait??? So a whole 57% supposedly don't experience regular catcalls???!! Is it sad that this shocks me?
  • sjaplo
    sjaplo Posts: 974 Member
    Both running and cycling and I'm male. Something about being surrounded by two tons of metal turns people into a holes. I actually had someone jam on the brakes in front of me and jump out to harass me. Then he saw the beard (I have long hair) and jumped back in his van and sped away.

  • fitin50s2
    fitin50s2 Posts: 111 Member
    Sorry this has happened to you....

    It's happened to me only once. Guys saying crap as I was out running in my cold weather gear. I could have easily said something back but I took the high road and ignored.

    I'm sure it will happen again in the future. You can't unlearn ignorance and stupidity.
  • mayafit405
    mayafit405 Posts: 61 Member
    Reading all these comments makes me see how mean people can be to runners or anyone who exercises outside. I guess we're all the type of people who don't scare easy because we're still running! B)

    Stay awesome friends !

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