Moan alert...getting fed up

wedjul05 · July 2011

I'm just getting fed up with being stuck at this weight, wathcing what I eat ALL the time, thinking about the calories in things, weighing myself (which I do too often).

Feel free to look at my food diary. Ignore the bit of crap which I eat but to be honest, the small bit of chocolate I have every day makes it bearable. Am I just being a wuss????? I think I am pretty ok with my diet, I know what I SHOULD stop eating but life is for living and I'd be totally miserable without the treats. Am I being naive?

I'm up a few lbs, down a few lbs, up a few lbs etc etc. I exercise 4/5 nghts a week. I'm just getting fed up with it. I know numbers aren't the be all and end all as I went to put on a pair of black skinny jeans to work this morning, haven't worn then in a while and they are huge on my, so I've slimmed down alot in the last few months although the scales don't reflect this.

I started a new circuit programme in the gym so I should give this time to really kick in as I feel the benefits of it already.

I just find it all so hard to juggle; work mon-fri, up at 5.30am, 2 small kids, exercise, food, husband. THere has to be more to life, surely!!! Oh lord, this has turned into one of 'those' depressing mornings where you're not 5 minutes from the house in the car on the way to work (takes me 1hr to get to work, along windy country roads, thru 4 small towns ) and you have these thoughts!!!!!! Lord get a grip wedjul05.

I think I look pretty good for a 5ft8 lady, I'd have me. I'm trendy, funky, certainly don't feel like I'm nearly 35 with 2 kids. Why can't I just be happy with what I have???!!!!!!!!!!!

Ah just having one of those mornings. Need to wake up our daughter in 5 mins. Sorry for moaning, don't think people around me can hear this one AGAIN!!!!

Pandorian · July 2011

Looking at your diary you're almost never netting 1200 calories, and you don't touch your exercise calories when you earn them.
I'm eating over 2000 calories a day and losing fine, I'm around 5'6.

I've "broken through" stalls (3 stalls each of 3 weeks duration) by upping my calories. Might be worth looking at eating more, as long as it's quality calories.

xraychick77 · July 2011

sorry you having such troubles.

i cant really relate to your situation. but i know what its like to be frustrated. i guess the thing to do is just keep it at. i know it may seem difficult at times to keep a positive attitude, but really that is essential to anything..even just living life.

take a break, stand back and breathe. take in everything around you..your kids, your life, etc and recognize how awesome it all is. then perhaps take about a week to just do what you want. relax, dont worry about weight or food. then, and this is important...re-assert your commmitment to your health. get re-energized to keep at it. i know for me personally i have to do this every blue moon. it works for me and i go back even harder and more committed than before.

good luck..try to relax a bit.

ps.yes stalls are caused by the loose term metabolic adaptation. means your body adapts. so whatever you've been intaking and the exercise you've been doing will eventually come into a state of homeostasis with your body. its key to switch things up every few months for continued weight loss.

funkyspunky871 · July 2011

I doubt anybody else is going to be giving you this advice, but whatever.... TAKE A BREAK! Take a mini vacay from the diet and the exercise. Don't count calories and just enjoy yourself. Jeez, have an entire chocolate bar instead of just a few pieces. I think a few days would do wonders for you -- mentally and physically. I went on a little vacation for the summer just last week and stopped mindfully counting calories and exercising because I was stressed beyond belief. I ate when hungry, stopped when full, shared a few meals with my mom, indulged in a huge piece of peanut butter chocolate fudge and a ton of other crap. I ended up losing a pound.

a_q_u_a_lizard · July 2011

this is what goes through my head everyday.....this is exactly how i feel!

SassyStef · July 2011

I dont think you are eating enough......I totally broke through a plateau and feeling this way but eating more! I ate back every bit of my exercise calories and enjoyed it lol

I totally know how you feel with, kids and hubby and life!! Hugs for you.....hope the car ride is better tomorrow!

joanneeee · July 2011

Are you thinking of this as a temporary thing? You want to be eating healthy and exercising for the rest of your life, not just for a short period to lose weight. This is a lifestyle change.

calmmomw3minimeez · July 2011

I have to agree with the above posters...I'm currently going thru a stall and have upped my calorie goal to 1500.

I was having a hard time reaching that particular net - wasn't even reaching 1200 because intense workouts tend to take my appetite so today I DID NO EXERCISES, relaxed had a few drinks:laugh: and a big meal for lunch and guess what - I hit the net! :happy: It's always good to stop, rest, and regroup when going thru a stall and it's okay to eat more and certainly to eat back exercise cals:noway: ...

I tend to eat some of them but I know that I have to do better because of the hardcore workouts so don't be afraid to get your munch on girl:bigsmile: ..good luck on your journey and you can bust thru the plateau...gotta be patient with yourself too!

Scarletblue · July 2011

You might be tired and miserable because you are denying yourself to much, and you need to eat more your not even hitting the 1200 this has to be a life style change for it to be permanent you need to find your groove to balance everything, maybe preplan your meals the night before so your not thinking about everything you put in your mouth you'll already know what the calorie count is and be free to eat guilt free. It is more about the food then the exercise so maybe consentrate more on the intake until it becomes habit then incorporate exercise. Good luck.

muth3rluvx2 · July 2011

omg, no wonder you're miserable dear!
I'm 5'1", ridiculously slow metabolism and I'm absolutely convinced beginning peri... eating like you do works for ME... at 5'8" you should be eating significantly more.

Oh hey.. looks like others beat me to the punch in their postings and this will be redundant information but yes - life is short and your "diet" should be something you can comfortably maintain for life. :-) I hope all this helps and makes you feel better. Oh, and as far as chocolate, switch to dark. It has some hefty benefits; so you get the goody without so much damage. :-)

Good luck!

Dunkirk · July 2011

Been there done that!
I started Mfp eating 1200 calories a day as I wanted to get to my goal weight quickly. Was great for the first month, the second month wasn't losing but changing shape, the third month wasn't losing or changing shape. I've had a break, though without "falling off the wagon". I have started again seriously this week but on 1500 calories, eating a lot of my exercising calories, and now it's starting to come off again.
Take a little holiday, smile, even when you don't feel like it (I guess a smile tells the emotions I'm happy so they come into line). Look at the healthy lifestyle you are now living, you're doing a lot that's positive. Good for you :-)

JDRBT · July 2011

if you decide to take a break here's what I'd suggest -
Use this time to think about WHY you're doing this.
We all love someone, and the HEALTHIER we are, the LONGER we get to live and love them (baring any tragedy). So those kids and husband? In the long run, you're taking care of yourself so you can live and love them longer. The scale frustrates me too, but it's just one of the numbers we use to measure health.
When you live a healthy lifestyle (eating enough of the good stuff, and enjoying ourselves from time to time) you find that you're less and less fixated on Fuel and better able to focus on the people around you. Can you image what life would be like if you got this lifestyle change down pat and didn't have to think twice about what you're eating because you know it's good, healthy fuel for your body to burn? (Hey, a glass of wine and chocolate ARE good fuel sometimes!)
Imagine what it would be like to be free from the stress of "dieting" and "losing weight" and what it would feel like and look like just to be healthy.
I imagine that I won't get on the scale every day and let it define how I'm going to feel that day. If I feel healthy and good, strong, supported, and loved, and I know I'm doing good things for my body every day, I know that - in the end - the weight will follow. It's been working so far - just slowly.

I was a major yo yo dieter until I realized that I love my family and friends enough to want to be there for them as long as I possibly can. If that means eating more fats (something I need to do) than I'll do. If that means eating less sugar, then I'll do it. If that means strapping on my running shoes when it's raining, then gosh darn it Bring it! 'Cuase by golly, it's COMPLETELY worth every little bit I can do NOW to give myself more time with them in the future.

It took a while for my thought process to change to that type of thinking - but once I did, frustrations and discouragements didn't last long.

Best of luck!

wedjul05 · July 2011

I do realise this is a lifestlye change for life. I am fine with that and my new healthy eating, just wish it would equate to weight loss. I plan on eventually doing only 2-3 nights exercise a week as I feel sometimes, I do too much and spend my entire life running from here to there trying to fit it all in. Sometimes I wonder if/when can I cut back as it is with my current diet and exercise, I am staying the same.

Ah look, I'm just in a bad mood this morning. Call me hormonal or something.

But for those of you who said I need a holiday/break, I do. Must defo plan something.

Right off to get a hard boiled egg and a cuppa. Had porridge at home at 6am.

thanks for taking the time to reply MFP'ers!:flowerforyou:

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