I'm losing motivation because of issues with my family.

deenanna
deenanna Posts: 39
edited September 30 in Motivation and Support
How can I explain to my family that I do not want to go back to the University where I was constantly called negative names, sold for sex, almost raped, and had beer bottles thrown at my windows? I feel so uncomfortable there. I can't even respect the staff there. It's a small school and they just turn their heads to the fraternity. They themselves talk about drinking when not only is the campus "dry" so is the county. I can't do it. I do not want to go there. I'm getting sick to my stomach thinking about it.

I want to move schools, but my family isn't letting me. I'm 19 and I'm not allowed to make my own choices. I hate this. I'm so stressed. Between this, and other family issues, I'm putting on weight and I can't take it off.

How can I tell my parents no? They don't listen to me.

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  • abbie017
    abbie017 Posts: 410
    Oh my gosh, that sounds awful. Have you explained what has actually happened to your parents?? If they don't know the gory details, they might think that you're exaggerating. This sounds like you may actually need police involved!

    Please stay safe!!
  • niki30
    niki30 Posts: 40
    I had a friend in high school whose parents weren't supportive of her, the didn't want her to even go to college. She filed for emancipation, which just meant that she was her own guardian. But technically you are over eighteen and able to make legal decisions for yourself. I know you probably don't want to hurt your parents but you are in a dangerous situation. I think you should just change schools, whether they like it or not. My friend worked a full time job and went to college full time, and she is a nurse now. The only one in her family to graduate high school let alone go to college.

    Hang in there, they may be mad at first but they will get over it. Praying for you, you really need to get out of that situation.
  • mangirl
    mangirl Posts: 93
    Get a job and move out. If you are not happy with the choices your parents are making for you make it impossible for them to make your choices This is your life, you are an adult. If you were sold for sex you might want to get psychological help as well. Losing weight is not the first thing you need to worry about. Change other aspects of your life first.

    Your weight is important but it most likely falls under self-esteem if it is not causing you health problems.

    You can support yourself! I am 20 and working full-time, going to school full-time and living on my own. It feels great to be in charge of your life!!!
  • Saruman_w
    Saruman_w Posts: 1,531 Member
    WTF that is some serious stuff there. You couldn't call the police and report that?
  • millymoozie
    millymoozie Posts: 150
    i agree ,,tell your parents first then a visit to the police with your parents ,,, i assume you have not told your parents all the details ,when they know it should be all rather simple to get sorted ,,, unacceptable behaviour & for sure you should not tolerate ,,speaking as a mother if i dont know the story then you cannot blame me for my actions ,,tell me the truth & you will have my support & my back up all the way ,,,,do not be worried about telling them ,,they love you & im sure will be shocked but supportive .
    good luck
  • redmamaroo
    redmamaroo Posts: 8
    Oh my gosh I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I am sure it's making it very difficult for you to concentrate knowing you may have to face all that again. I agree that the police may need to be involved here, esp. if it's a dry county. There are laws against that kind of abuse, and I would go to the school president if the staff members are inappropriate. You should be able to go to school with confidence not fear. As far as your family goes, I don't know how you could handle that, other than talking to the police with them, and they might see the severity of your problems. Good luck and try to keep your head up, you have a lot of supporters here!
  • ♥ChUbByCoyLe♥
    ♥ChUbByCoyLe♥ Posts: 267 Member
    That sounds terrible!! If your family can't be supportive to your needs and safety then maybe its time to move away and try a different school on your own. I know it harder than it sounds but your happiness and safety should be their number one priority. Good luck :flowerforyou:
  • deenanna
    deenanna Posts: 39
    The main guy's dad is a Police officer.... He gets away with everything.
  • megan4487
    megan4487 Posts: 142 Member
    I agree, I think that you really need to tell your parents what is going on. They may not fully understand, so I think you really need to tell them. i mean you are talking about your physical safety!!!

    this is not a good situtation, and your family needs to know that. Let me know If I can help or be any support. Good luck
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    But he shouldn't. You need to find every last ounce of strength within in you and raise this issue. Sending you very best wishes for this tough task.
  • k1229
    k1229 Posts: 135
    WTF that is some serious stuff there. You couldn't call the police and report that?

    ^^^ This!!! oh my goodness petal....seriously get the police involved-they can stop it from happening to you...and potentially anyone else!!!!

    be strong and stand up to them! or do it behind their back and spring it on them then theyve no choice but to accept it. (i dont encourage the latter tho!)

    xxxxxx
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