The biggest hurdles to weight loss are other people, co-workers and peers
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I constantly get comments from my co-workers as well but I usually ignore them. What is really hard is when they order in food/have potlucks/bring in donuts/bagels/pastries and always sit everything on the empty desk right next to mine. UGH. There are other places to put the food people!!0
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dudebro200 wrote: »These people are all sloppy-looking, out-of-shape, or straight up obese. They all believe that they only need to do one class of CrossFit or Pilates next week, and thats all they need. Except next week comes and the class never happens.
Oh whoa... Some people are overweight due to health issues i.e. under-active thyroid or certain medications they take (like Prednisone; Prednisone will make you gain a lot of weight because it contains a steroid). Some people are overweight because maybe they don't know how to get the ball rolling with their weight loss. You just can't automatically assume because a person is overweight, they're sloppy.6 -
I guess I'm fortunate because I don't recall much in the way of negative comments at work the various times I've lost weight*. Maybe because I've never been in a situation where people felt comfortable enough to make personal comments? I have to admit (and I don't understand why I do this) that when I turn down catered lunch at meetings or goodies in the break room I make it clear it's because I have celiac disease, not because of weight loss. It's like my subconscious doesn't want anyone to think I might be trying to lose a few lbs.
*Except the nanosecond I got down to 108 when I was 40, and my best friend took me aside and said "You're not eating enough protein, you're not exercising, you're going to turn into a bowl of jello. Stop it!" (she was right)0 -
At 197 I don't know where you get off calling other people sloppy tbh. Maybe check your attitude and you may find people are a bit nicer. You sound terribly judgmental because you found the Nutritional God. Step off your high horse my dear.
That was a mean spirited attack. At 197, I still wore a size 34. I have been weight lifting for years.3 -
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It sounds like this is really bothering you based on the amount of vitriol in that statement. Any time someone is working obsessively toward something, there will always be other people who think you need to chill and take a break once in a while. To most people carrying around a scale looks a bit excessive. Obviously, some of us need that level of control though. It might be better if you learn to just laugh it off rather than getting upset. When they ask you to join them for lunch, they arent trying to be jerks. They are just trying to include you. People, for whatever reason, are usually social eaters and they just feel weird that you are cutting yourself out of that. And perhaps some of it is motivated by selfishly putting their desire for your inclusion in their day over supporting your diet efforts, but I assure you they are not trying to bug you.
I know its hard to keep on track when there are so many temptations and I commend you for sticking with it. Each day will bring a new challenge but try not to let it get you down.2 -
Maybe I am better at tuning out the noise, and I do work in a small office, but my biggest issues are internal. Mental blocks, excuses...0
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People will be people.
I'm about 2.5 months into my weight loss journey, and one thing that really helps is my sit/stand desk. I stand for a good 6-7 hours out of my 8 hour shift, and frequently walk in place. People will walk by and do a walk-in-place shoulder/head wobble, I'm not sure if it's meant to be encouragement or just an acknowledgment, but it is whatever it is. I do think it's a bit mocking, and it's hard to not judge someone after it's obvious they judge me. But I try to be as non-judgmental as I can.....at least where people can see me haha!
Some co-workers are very supportive, and others are just....whatever. I will tell people what I've done if they ask, but I just brush off other comments. At the end of the day, I'm losing weight and gaining my health. Sure it may be slow, it's not a quick fix, it's not a magic pill, and it's not ACV (we have a team of athletic trainers who visit who like to promote ACV as an aid for weight loss....I have to bite my tongue before I yell out that it's hokum lol!), but it's working.
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We have the treats around the office all the time too. I guess I am fortunate to have supportive co-workers as well as friends and family. They accept my no thank you. My biggest hurdle was procrastinating, saying to myself "I will start over again tomorrow". I am guilty of being my own biggest hurdle in losing weight. Guilty in more ways than one. Hopefully this is the time that will truly be the last.0
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I think they are just Jealous! And are probably admiring your discipline. Just smile.0
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For most people food is a very social thing. For a very select subset of the population, turning down food or eating healthy is a personal affront.
I get it all the time with the vegan thing too. I've probably been jokingly offered bacon once a week for the past 18 years. The worst offenders are some of my best friends. I just smile, roll my eyes and move on. Letting people get under your skin for personal food choices is counter-productive and will drive you crazy.1 -
You're weighing everything now so you can not only live a little but live a LOT and a LOT longer.
Hang tough! 0 -
I'm not really sure why you care so much about what they are saying, if anything they are probably just looking for something to talk to you about more then the actual topic. Also calling people sloppy and obese when you are probably still considered obese by medical standards ( over 20 lbs overweight) is kind of rude.0
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Solution - quit your job, don't have friends1
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When I started about 4.5 years ago, I tried to not really talk about it or anything, but people obviously noticed that I was bringing my breakfast, lunch, and snacks every day and avoided going out to lunch with everyone or really participating in potlucks and birthday cakes, etc. They'd also see me head out at lunch break in workout clothes.
I had some comments come my way, but I shut them down with "medical reasons" and doctors orders anytime anyone would bring it up. This was actually mostly true as I was really focused on reversing a host of bad health markers that showed up during my 38th birthday physical. Health reasons seemed to make everyone shut the *kitten* up about it pretty quickly.
4.5 years later, everyone is just used to me being me.3 -
dudebro200 wrote: »At 197 I don't know where you get off calling other people sloppy tbh. Maybe check your attitude and you may find people are a bit nicer. You sound terribly judgmental because you found the Nutritional God. Step off your high horse my dear.
That was a mean spirited attack. At 197, I still wore a size 34. I have been weight lifting for years.
My sincere apologies but your little tirade in the OP was a bit offensive I'm sure to the obese and "sloppy" people on a, you know, WEIGHT LOSS FORUM...1 -
I work in a large office full of cakes and *kitten* every other day. I simply don't eat them. I grab a coffee and be social. I weigh and record everything, but I wouldn't weigh food at work, that's going a bit far. I bring lunch from home, and only eat food I've brought for myself. Honestly, it's never been an issue. No one has ever commented on my food. I think they might though if I grabbed half a muffin from the platter and weighed it in front of everyone though.
I really don't think it's anyone's business what I eat, and neither do they. Perhaps it's how you go about it, so that people notice?1 -
dudebro200 wrote: »At 197 I don't know where you get off calling other people sloppy tbh. Maybe check your attitude and you may find people are a bit nicer. You sound terribly judgmental because you found the Nutritional God. Step off your high horse my dear.
That was a mean spirited attack. At 197, I still wore a size 34. I have been weight lifting for years.
My sincere apologies but your little tirade in the OP was a bit offensive I'm sure to the obese and "sloppy" people on a, you know, WEIGHT LOSS FORUM...
Only offensive to someone looking to be offended. I was once obese and sloppy.....didn't bother me. The OP was clearly pointing out that he is trying to get healthy and is frustrated at being made fun of. He made the observation that the ones making fun of him were, obese/sloppy etc. to point out the irony. I too have been frustrated by this type of behavior from others and I understand where the OP is coming from. And OP, my usual retort is, " I got tired of being obese and sloppy, one day you might get tired of it too." Of course, I don't really care if I offend people who are making fun of me.5 -
No one has ever been negative to me at work... I've gotten comments about how healthy I'm looking, "how'd you do it", "I wish I had time for gym/martial arts/whatever", "nice job maintaining your loss. I know that isn't easy", "I wish I could say no to cookies, etc".... I don't weigh anything in front of people though. I estimate just fine when I do have a meal at work.
The fact that you say that ALL of them are obese/sloppy does make you sound like you're on a high horse, but I still empathize with the negative comments. They wouldn't make me quit, but they'd be annoying AF.0
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