Messing up on weekends- every weekend
cnave99
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I can not get myself together. I do great all week. Then Saturday morning while I'm food shopping I'll buy stuff that I know I can't eat in moderation. Then I eat it all before Monday. I keep losing and gaining the same three pounds.
I'm getting no where. But it's a cycle that I repeat every freaking week. Any advice welcome.
I'm getting no where. But it's a cycle that I repeat every freaking week. Any advice welcome.
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I know Sundays are my controlled binge day so I eat lower during the week when it's easier so that I can accommodate for that day. Maybe try partitioning your calories that way and look at your deficit week over week vs day over day2
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Do you eat before you go shopping?10
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At least your at a net zero.1
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dont buy the stuff on saturday morning? save some cals through the week to enable to you to eat more at the weekend?7
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Plan your weekend meals in advance, write a shopping list only for those things, buy only those things. Better yet, do your shopping during the week and stay out of the supermarket at the weekend.
If you can't do that @Iamillsensa asked a good question, never shop on an empty stomach.
Ultimately you're responsible for your own actions, you need to try and break the cycle if you truly want to lose the weight.19 -
I don't know if it's an option where you live but these days I get my shopping delivered. Makes a massive difference to what i buy and I make sure I only place my order when I am in well behaved diet mode.
If I went near the grocery store I dont tend to get past the bakery section.
Just a thought.
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Also they have grocery delivery services can you use one of those so can't be tempted to stray off list6
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We do our shopping Sunday evening.
Saturday is spent exercising pretty much all day long.
Sunday afternoon is spent exercising, then we grab a decent snack, and go grocery shopping. And we buy basically the same things each week.
But exercising as much as we do on the weekends means that we're tired by the time grocery shopping rolls around, so we want to get in and out as quickly as possible.1 -
You need to change your scope from daily goals to weekly goals. Eat less when you can manage yourself during the week, to spare the calories for the weekend binges. CICO logic isn't valid only on days !3
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I do eat before I go, so that is one positive.
You're right though- this is all me. I know what happens, I'm old enough to realize I'm sabotaging myself. I have to make it a priority to make a list. And stick to it.7 -
Can you take an "accountability" partner with you shopping to help you resist the temptation? My hubby usually does a great job of this for me. I have weak willpower myself.5
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My weekends are where it falls apart as well. Normally wine/beer and then hangover food. I have found that if i log it, (I tend not to at the weekend cos I know I have been bad) then it makes it more real? Makes me think twice about having a chipper/chinese the following weekend. xx5
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Also, work out more so you can afford a mishap also. I walk a ton on the weekends (live in Chicago) so I can afford to eat a little more.1
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I'm kind of in the same boat, but I'm actually in maintenance right now. Saturday morning I bought a couple of things that should've lasted me all week. They were both gone by Sunday evening. It wouldn't be that big of a deal but I kinda did the same thing last week and the week before. My one saving grace is that my TDEE on Saturday was about 4,500 calories and on Sunday it was about 3,000. Oh, and I'm actually on the lower side of my maintenance range right now. So, when you add up about 2,000 calories per day plus a half gallon of Blue Bell, that's about 7,000 calories for two days.
Okay, on second thought, I might have actually eaten at close to maintenance this weekend, even though I ate a half gallon of ice cream in the process. So, maybe what I should be saying is, get a bicycle and ride it. Ride it a lot. It will make up for all kinds of overeating.2 -
I do eat before I go, so that is one positive.
You're right though- this is all me. I know what happens, I'm old enough to realize I'm sabotaging myself. I have to make it a priority to make a list. And stick to it.
You could also preportion out some of the foods you struggle with if you do choose to buy them. I absolutely love chocolate covered pretzels but the little bag I buy is 1000 cals if I eat it in one sitting, so I break it up in sandwich bags into little 150 cal portions. If I go back to grab a second bag, that's a conscious decision. For me it helps stop that "1 or 2 more won't really hurt me" type mentality that snowballs to the whole bag being gone lol.13 -
If there is a particularly tempting area of the store, avoid it. And make sure you don't shop hungry. Maybe even shop at a no - thrills type store (discount grocery stores tend not to have a lot of the tempting gourmet cheese /sausage /tapas plates/etc). It's a lot easier to have self control for half an hour the grocery than the whole of the week.0
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tinkerbellang83 wrote: »
Ultimately you're responsible for your own actions, you need to try and break the cycle if you truly want to lose the weight.
Agree with this.
Do you actually say this to yourself in your head while you shop? "I really want to lose weight and I'm going to do it this time so I'm going to buy this giant package of cookies!" Probably not because that would be silly, right? But that's what you're doing!
Don't you want to succeed badly enough to say no to yourself?
Yes you do, so just do it.
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orionaimee wrote: »Can you take an "accountability" partner with you shopping to help you resist the temptation? My hubby usually does a great job of this for me. I have weak willpower myself.
I remember a TV ad several years ago (don't remember the product) where some guy hires teenage girls to follow him around and comment on what he ate. "Dude!" "Seriously?" "That is so gross!"13 -
Honestly the same thing happens to me too I just try and remember how crappy I feel after binge eating. It affects my workout so much and makes me feel moody and irritable. If I have a food craving I try and drink water or have something healthy that will curb the craving, because if you keep avoiding the cravings you will most likely binge. For me, I always have a serious sweets craving after eating a meal, so Ill have a couple of dates and it satisfies the need for sugar. Also do not buy any of your trigger foods - keep them out of the house.
Hope this helps it works for me!2 -
If I specifically am hungry for one treat, I would consciously plan to buy one of those. Nothing else. (I don't typically do this, because I shop second hand grocery stores, so I buy based on what is there and what is on sale) I do not keep any of my yummy snacks in my view. They go on a high shelf that I don't access except for that. I may proportion them. When I get my treat, if it's ice cream or something, I measure out my portion, lick the spoon and stuff, then put the container back in the freezer before I eat my serving. I keep sugar free mint gum on hand. Sweets taste disgusting after chewing mint gum, and I actually enjoy the flavor. If I want to go back for a second serving and can't 'afford' it, I get gum instead. I avoid the sweets cupboard at all costs unless I'm getting something from it. I log my portion before I eat it. Log a second portion before you eat that. If there is a treat at the end of the day I know I want, I log it at the beginning of the day to 'save room' for it.0
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Sorry, this is long and has a tortured metaphor. Typing it out helped me realize why I miss rowing so much though.
One of the things I learned when I was rowing was that you have to work backwards to figure out what the problems is. Like, if I have balance issues with my boat, I need to break it down - is it when my oars are in the water? Out of the water? At the beginning of the stroke? The end? Then break it down again - it's when my oars come out of the water. Ok - is it my left oar or my right? Are they coming out at the same time? Then break it down again - Ok, Left is coming out first. Is that because I am not leaning over correctly? Is that because I am not pushing down the oar handles at the same time? Is that because I'm pushing them the same time, but I'm carrying one hand higher than the other before I get to that part? It takes forever to figure our what's going on, but if you're rowing down a river by yourself, every stroke you take is a chance to evaluate and change a different little thing to figure out how to be better.
Same thing with nutrition and fitness. You've done the first couple steps - you know your weight isn't changing. You worked back and figured out it was the weekend. You figured out that, on the weekend, you binge on certain foods. You even worked back and figured out that you are buying the wrong foods on Saturday morning. You've already done a ton of work towards pinpointing the problem!
Now you have to keep at it. Why do you buy those foods on Saturday morning?
Personally, I hate grocery shopping. I get weird social anxiety with all the people in the store during busy times, I always feel like I have to double back and hunt for stuff, I get distracted by things that I can't eat in moderation, blah blah blah. I figured out I do well if I can keep the trip under 20-30 minutes.
Maybe your willpower is at it's lowest after not sleeping enough on Friday nights. Maybe the problem is that your willpower is HIGHER if you're full and well-rested, so you overestimate your ability to eat in moderation later. Maybe you need to go with a list. Maybe you need to use a delivery service for a bit to prevent temptation - but if you want to find the solution, it helps to know reason why you are doing this behavior.
Just keep breaking it down. Or just keep trying a bunch of solutions to see what sticks! Either way will work eventually as long as you keep trying things.10 -
We don't have grocery delivery here that I'm aware of, but we do have online ordering and you pick up at the store (Walmart and united has that now) so you can stick to your list. If that makes you feel restricted than you can treat yourself to one cookie or individual bag of chips (or whatever your trigger food is) but not bring it into the house or at least not family size bags or boxes that you know you'll overeat on;)1
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It's a change of habit you have to do on the weekends. You just have to treat them like the weekdays. Unlike WORK, you don't really get a day off from the consistency needed to lose weight.
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unfortunatly it has to be said and said bluntly. Your an adult, You make your own choices. Your the only one you cheat, And no one else can help. Mix what you love in daily...eat less on weekdays and workout more to eat more on weekends...stop buying the stuff to begin with. when i crave junk il go to a bakery and buy a single portion of something truely delicious and worth it to me. But at the end of the day its on you to make the choices you live with.6
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You're gonna have to get tough on yourself. Really. Stand naked in front of the mirror. Make a promise, out loud, to your body. Put up notes in your kitchen. In the grocery store, pick up those items you seem to can't resist, READ the nutritional value, and ask yourself if this is really how you want to live the rest of your life. And then put that crap back on the shelf. Give yourself *points* for every piece of crap you DON'T buy in the grocery store. And when you accumulate a certain number of points (any crap you buy decimates your balance) then treat yourself to a new lipstick, or a new top. I know it sounds silly, but you have to figure out a way to force yourself, motivate yourself, to STICK TO A PLAN. The only person that can do this, is YOU. And you CAN do it.3
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no amount of advise anyone gives you is going to work. it comes down to you. i struggle with binge eating but it's overall up to me to fight.0
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I find the weekends the hardest to keep my eating under control, i do get my food shopping delivered and this helps me from picking up random bits i dont need, i try and get out and about and give myself jobs to do to keep me busy as when i sit down i begin wanting to eat even when I'm not hungry!! good luck I'm sure you will overcome it0
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I make a grocery list and I stick to it. I may buy one or two things that weren't on the list, but for the most part I've figured an estimate in my head of how much I'm going to spend, and I don't want to really blow that budget.0
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It takes some time to get out of that mindset that weekends = free-for-all. It just takes some sheer determination and commitment to get out of that mindset. The first step would be just accurately tracking your weekends in MFP, even if you go over calories. Don't abandon MFP on weekends!
Another good habit to get into is grocery shopping on a full stomach AND with a list. Choose some recipes, write down the ingredients you need. Add a few easy snacks if you want. Then stick to that list. Maybe buy ONE treat for the week, and that's it.1 -
Weekends are a struggle for me as well. Something I've taught myself to do is to only buy enough food for the weekend. Depending on your living situation this may or may not be possible, but in general I've found the best way to not eat too much, is to not bring it in the house. Then in the worst case that I eat it all... well, I just go hungry the rest of the day because there is no more, and I still stay in my calorie goal.0
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