Who thinks who you have around you influences your lifestyle?

To a point yes. I was in your same boat, it's been almost a year with him and a lil over a month ago I decided I was going to change my ways... At times I don't feel like he supports me or understands how important my health is and getting in shape.
Yes it is very easy to fall into other people's bad habits of you spend a lot of time but if you want to change your ways can.
It will be tough, and if he doesn't want to change then it will definitely test you, but if the wants is bad enough, that's all that matters!

Well I went from 130 to 195 after meeting my 300 lb husband so...lol. There were of course some other factors there too. His unhealthy habits definitely rubbed off on me though!

I also had a coworker who was quite a bit heavier than me and she was a bad influence on me when it came to food. We had days when people would bring food and set it up on the kitchen. Lots of cheese dips and such...just my favorite party foods! I'd try to limit myself to one plate but she'd always come by my desk saying "Come on! Let's go!" And I let it happen. I think I justified it somehow by blaming her and also felt better because when we were together she was "the fat one". Which sounds awful but I think it helped me feel better about overindulging. If she would have been fit I would have been too self conscience to go snacking with her.

They can influence you but they can't force you to eat/drink something your willpower can overcome.
My wife eats a lb. of chocolate ,drinks 2 liters of soda and smokes a pack of cigarettes day but I don't follow
that lifestyle anymore. You just need to be stronger and don't make excuses for giving in.

My emotional eating was a bad influence on my husband when we first met - he was active, so it didn't impact him massively (although he did end up at his heaviest with me), but he went from not eating desserts and sweets to indulging with me every night.

On the plus side, we both adopted a better lifestyle together, with healthier eating patterns and a different approach towards food. We support and encourage each other in our sporting pursuits and the gym is something we do together. We both have our bad days, but the other one is generally able to talk sense in to the other

Just tell him you really like him but you really don't like drinking beer with him. Be his DD.

I made a similar post about this not too long ago but, I was in a similar situation where the girl I was with didnt like "eating healthy" nor had interest to really work out, or even go on walks, or liked me leaving to work out or go on a run cause she felt I was giving an excuse to not want to spend time with her. Stay in, drink beer, eating heavy pasts & sauces, burgers, pizza. Ultimately I gained about 35 lbs being in the relationship & felt myself fading.
Recently got out of the relationship due to other reasons ontop of this. Knew it was up to me to make a difference on myself, health & life. Im getting myself back on track & my diet back, & feel so much more alive, energy, happy.
Only thing I would advise is, on contrary to some people saying opposites attract which may be true to an extent, but in my opinion similarities & like-minds succeed.

Heather4448 wrote: »

You should start being the good influence! Go for walks (or even better- runs) together.

After months and months of trying to lose weight and eating better and my husband doing his own thing, I realized that I needed to focus on me and let him come to terms with his unhealthier habits in his own time. Last week, we went on a 2 mile hike with our dogs- for the first time in years! And he wants to make it a weekly thing because he enjoyed it so much.

But I agree, influence plays a certain role in lifestyle, but ultimately, the choice (realization?) to address health is up to the individual to say "Enough is enough".

That old saying rings true to me here: "You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink".