Post wedding can't stop eating
2014resolution2014
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I'm curious to see if anyone else has experienced this and I've been reading more in this section to get some more tips for regaining motivation generally. Basically, I'm struggling to eat sensibly and healthily after my wedding. It seems that without the pressure of a dress to fit into, I've fallen off the wagon.
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I can relate - just need to create a new goal (or set of mini goals) to keep focused. Easier said than done though! After losing the weight and training for my first marathon, now that the pressure is off, I feel like I don't have any more motivation to keep eating/keep staying in peak performance mode. Searching for a new goal - I think this will help me get back on track before I derail too much. Good luck to you and congrats on the new marriage!2
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I typically have to eat at maintenance for a few days after a shakeup in my schedule to stay on track. My best advice would be to pick a new goal that doesn't have a time limit - like, fit into this size jeans, or be at this weight. That way, it's not as much pressure to stay perfect but you still have a goal you're tracking towards.0
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I got married just a few weeks ago, and I'm the same boat! It's been a month since the wedding, and I've fallen completely off the wagon in terms of eating healthy food and not overeating. I'm about 7 pounds heavier than I was the day I got married, and I need to get back on track before the weight gain gets worse.
I signed up for a weight loss challenge on here to give me some motivation and to get back into the mindset of losing weight. Maybe that could help you out as well?0 -
From a male point of view - if you went to great lengths to lose weight for the wedding ceremony and then abandoned everything shortly thereafter, what do you think your husband's perspective on that is?
It seems like getting and remaining fit for your spouse's (and your) long term benefit (in terms of health, appearance, energy) is a more worthwhile goal than going through some crash-fitness regime to look good in wedding pictures and then not being motivated to remain in shape once the rings are exchanged.9 -
Bry_Lander wrote: »From a male point of view - if you went to great lengths to lose weight for the wedding ceremony and then abandoned everything shortly thereafter, what do you think your husband's perspective on that is?
It seems like getting and remaining fit for your spouse's (and your) long term benefit (in terms of health, appearance, energy) is a more worthwhile goal than going through some crash-fitness regime to look good in wedding pictures and then not being motivated to remain in shape once the rings are exchanged.
Let's hope that his perspective is more enlightened than yours.
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Posts like these are the reason that frequent commenters here advise against losing weight for "events" - once the event is done, how do you maintain?6
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You did it for your dress, now, do it for you
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This is exactly the problem with "going on a diet" to lose "X kg by a certain date".
People who lose weight, and then maintain that new healthy weight (or those who never get fat to begin with) are those who adopt a healthy way of eating. For life. No one, ever, lost weight and kept it off "going on a diet".5 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »Bry_Lander wrote: »From a male point of view - if you went to great lengths to lose weight for the wedding ceremony and then abandoned everything shortly thereafter, what do you think your husband's perspective on that is?
It seems like getting and remaining fit for your spouse's (and your) long term benefit (in terms of health, appearance, energy) is a more worthwhile goal than going through some crash-fitness regime to look good in wedding pictures and then not being motivated to remain in shape once the rings are exchanged.
Let's hope that his perspective is more enlightened than yours.
I think it's very enlightened being honest. As a woman I agree. I stressed over one big day without setting myself up for a healthy ever after, after 23 years of marriage and all over the map on weight, I agree totally with what he said.5 -
Bry_Lander wrote: »From a male point of view - if you went to great lengths to lose weight for the wedding ceremony and then abandoned everything shortly thereafter, what do you think your husband's perspective on that is?
It seems like getting and remaining fit for your spouse's (and your) long term benefit (in terms of health, appearance, energy) is a more worthwhile goal than going through some crash-fitness regime to look good in wedding pictures and then not being motivated to remain in shape once the rings are exchanged.
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OP, make fitness and healthy eating a lifestyle not a diet. Do it for you, to be healthy and badass so you kick guys *kitten* when they are rude. Not your husband's though cuz that's domestic violence.
Do anyway, back to this. It sucks when you look at it a a diet. Make small permanent changes and keep a routine, until it's turns into "the norm".0 -
I did the same, my husband also didn't mind as he loves me for me and would never pressure me to be or stay a certain size and we just got comfortable grazing on pizza and chillin' together, however I'm back after 4 years (came back intermittently) and now I've ended up back at my "wedding diet" start weight and had to start over. It's for me though, my health and my confidence (and luckily my husband is actually hitting the gym with me which helps).
I don't know how you feel but if I was talking to my just come off honeymoon past self I'd say this: Stay on here for maintenance like it's your JOB if you like your weight, trust me, I'm back on the 1 year slog to get back down to our "wedding weight", it is far easier to maintain the good you have done than start from scratch. Do your future self (me) a favour and stick to this lifestyle change, the goal is no longer the dress, it's you, it's your confidence it's your health! Take care and good luck. x
As for the "male POV" comment... yeah hopefully you haven't married someone whos self perceived worth relies on your dress size.2 -
You dieted for the "event" not for health.2014resolution2014 wrote: »I'm curious to see if anyone else has experienced this and I've been reading more in this section to get some more tips for regaining motivation generally. Basically, I'm struggling to eat sensibly and healthily after my wedding. It seems that without the pressure of a dress to fit into, I've fallen off the wagon.
And this used to baffle me previously because I would get clients that would show me their wedding photos and ask if I could get them back to there. It's almost as if people just want to look good for the pictures and after not worry. Again, that's just an observation over the years of doing this. At this point I know people gain weight for a variety of reasons.
It likely has to do with the feeling that there's no real need to find a mate anymore. Crazy? Well when people get divorced, one of the first things that they may do is "get back in shape" before dating again.
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You dieted for the "event" not for health.2014resolution2014 wrote: »I'm curious to see if anyone else has experienced this and I've been reading more in this section to get some more tips for regaining motivation generally. Basically, I'm struggling to eat sensibly and healthily after my wedding. It seems that without the pressure of a dress to fit into, I've fallen off the wagon.
And this used to baffle me previously because I would get clients that would show me their wedding photos and ask if I could get them back to there. It's almost as if people just want to look good for the pictures and after not worry. Again, that's just an observation over the years of doing this. At this point I know people gain weight for a variety of reasons.
It likely has to do with the feeling that there's no real need to find a mate anymore. Crazy? Well when people get divorced, one of the first things that they may do is "get back in shape" before dating again.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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Bry_Lander wrote: »From a male point of view - if you went to great lengths to lose weight for the wedding ceremony and then abandoned everything shortly thereafter, what do you think your husband's perspective on that is?
It seems like getting and remaining fit for your spouse's (and your) long term benefit (in terms of health, appearance, energy) is a more worthwhile goal than going through some crash-fitness regime to look good in wedding pictures and then not being motivated to remain in shape once the rings are exchanged.
Sorry you're getting so much *kitten* for this. I actually completely agree with you and appreciate your perspective!0 -
Thanks everyone for a variety of perspectives. I didn't diet for my wedding, and wasn't trying to get to a particular weight but I did want to be able to get in the dress once it was fitted to me, so I managed not to eat everything in sight for a few months before the day. I've always been up and down and struggle to stay a healthy weight. Lots of friends are currently facing health issues and it has brought it home that now I need to make sure I'm healthy not just for now but for the future. I've eaten well for the last 3 weeks but not managed any exercise so I haven't actually lost weight but I do feel better, less tired and bloated. My husband has bigger weight issues than me so I'm fortunate that he'd never judge me or think any less of me for my struggles. But that also makes it hard when both of us have food issues.0
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