How to cope when you live with an extremely unhealthy partne

I do sotra. my husband and kids are not doing the whole lets eat better and be healthy. So when we go shopping it is hard forme to stand up and say i wnt this while you eat that. They are always wanting to eat out. I feel like they don't want me to be a healthier person. I hope he comes around and sees the better you and will want to know how you did it. Good luck on your journey.

I'm in a slightly similar boat as you...and have been once before...

I was in a long term relationship with a 6'2" ~ 270lb. "teddy bear." He ate crap...loved going out to eat...loved having me over for dinner with his family...loved cooking for me etc etc. By the end of our three years I packed on about 20 lbs. There were times i tried dieting, worked out, the whole nine yards. I'd lose and then regain. He knew he was unhealthy but he claimed "he just like to eat and have fun." Another one was, "I love taking you out...it's what we do." Anyways, I couldn't get him to eat healthier, and he almost made it a mission to "feed me" (INSECURITY ALERT! He was afraid that if I looked "too good" some guy would steal me away...

ANYWAYS thats over with and now Im on a new journey with my current live in bf. He's one of those "eat whatever I want and still somehow have a rock body" (6'1" ~ 170 and muscular)...with that our freezer is STOCKED with frozen pizza, texas toast, ice cream and etc. Since Im trying to be healthy...the fridge is also stocked with veggies, fruit, greek yogurt and etc.

He absolutely does not need to lose weight...however I am concerned for his heart health and cholesterol. Here's where the sneakiness comes in....I cook dinner at home 90% of the time...I'm a foodie so I make the goodies, and I just make them healthier. I still double his portions so he's satisfied after a meal and so he gets his caloric needs in. I also pack his lunch almost everyday...I make lean turkey wraps, whole-wheat pastas, grilled salmon with a baked potato, chicken cutlets with rice (stir fried with veggies)...where before we lived together for him it was pizza, frled cheese, Philly cheese-steak or Wendy's for lunch....frozen dinners, pizza hut, or mac & cheese for dinner.

Granted, he still eats that sometimes, but at least MAJORITY of his meals are MUCH healthier.

Here's my two cents. You can't change him unless he wants to. You also can't let him drag you down (which is what happened to me in the first relationship I mentioned) BUT you can get him involved...ask him to cook with you. When you make dinner, make it nutritious AND appealing. Have him pack his lunch (or if you're okay with it like I am...pack it for him...and sneak a treat in there...I always stick a fiber one brownie or a peanut butter cup or a healthy homemade cookie). You can keep him in the loop with YOUR life style change....maybe somewhere along the way he'll jump in.

Don't let the drastically different eating and lifestyle habits cause a separation between the two of you. Again...you cant change him unless HE wants to...but he can't prevent you from changing and improving yourself.

Feel free to message me. Hope this helped a bit and best of luck.

i do kinda my husband isnt really over weight antleast not significantly but he eats junk all the time and pretty much refuses anything healthy. if we had the finances i know for sure he would eat mcdonalds and pizza every day. He trys to tell me that the healthier versions of things are gross but i have managed to sneak things on him buy saving and hiding the containers for full fat versions of stuff he likes and replacing them with the healthier versions. lol ( and he never even noticed ). i think ity stressses me quite a bit because im an emotional eater and since there is always tempting stuff in the house its hard

My husband is about 5'7" and weighs somewhere over 300. He complains wants to lose weight but doesn't do anything about it. He's always tired and like Amber said, if we had the extra money he'd eat McDonald's everyday for lunch. I tried to show him how easy it is to use this app on our phones but he showed no interest. I cook healthy dinners and buy healthy snacks but then he just thinks he can eat more.

I know the feeling! My husband is in overall good shape but his choices aren't always the best. That makes it difficult for me. We also have 3 kids and I want them to see us making wise food choices. Luckily I love to cook and make dinner every night so he's stuck eating what I make! LOL Also I do all the grocery shopping so I refuse to buy the junk. Obviously I have no control over what he eats at work but I have taken back control over the food in the house Good luck!!

I kinda have that problem, except he is as skinny as a rake. Eats nothing but junk, always complains that he is hungry, likes to stuff his face in front of me with crisps, cake...you name it. I tried to get him to exercise with me but the only thing he says is "it makes you look stupid" (because I do Zumba/30 DS etc)

I tell him that even though it doesn't affect him now, it will later on in life. His dad used to be skinny like him and ate and ate and ate like he does and now at the age of 50 something isn't skinny anymore.

It just seems like to me that Germans have holes in the bottom of their feet and food just goes through them. Although he does eat his weight in junk in front of me, he (now) supports my decision for eating more healthily.

I just wish he would realise that all that junk he's knocking back now will soon catch up with him.

I was in a similar situation. but we aren't together anymore...we lived together and it was difficult to shop for groceries together and he complained I spent too much time at the gym and not with him (i always said "you're welcome to come with me!") He was also a pothead and his lack of motivation and ambition were big turn offs that affected every area of our relationship. I had to ask myself if that's the kind of partner I really wanted in life... and the answer was no :-( very nice guy, always treated me right, but we just weren't on the same page with health and it was something I didn't want to compromise on. (Also, I gained a lot of weight being with him because we'd eat crappy food together and he would influence me to stay home instead of work out-ugh I ended up hating myself for it too)

edit: not saying dump the guy, but ask yourself if you can live with him the way he is or not. i've learned that you can't change people. They have to want to change themselves. Also, communication is key, let him know how you are feeling and your concerns... maybe it will inspire change based on the fact that its so important to you and its not just a diet or a phase but a lifestyle change.

Also a similar situation here, my husband is not over weight he is about 180lbs and eats like a horse and never gains weight. He always says to me when he is wanting something thats not good like right now he is on the new dairy queen brownie blizzard he is trying to talk me into, he begs and tells me just one wont hurt me that I can get back to dieting tommrow. He is constantly telling me how proud of me he is for sticking to the diet this time but yet then he will beg for something like the blizzard. He begged for weeks for our favorite pizza place till i gave in about 2 weeks ago and went there, I made him order a small pizza so we would just eat that amount and not take home any left overs. I would love to be able to eat like he does and it not show up on my butt but it always does!!!!
Just the other day he comes out in the tv room carring about 5 low calorie items and starts telling me the calorie count in what he is carrying and I asked him why he cared since he wasnt dieting and his response was he eats diet food in bulk. I seriously dont think he would care if I weighed 600lbs as long as he could eat what ever he likes!!!!