Am I alone here?

orionaimee
orionaimee Posts: 89 Member
in Motivation and Support
I am down a solid amount of weight now but still about 40 lbs from my goal weight. That makes me 40lbs overweight. The issue that I am dealing with is that people have started to addressing me as "skinny" at work as in "hey skinny mini" "look at you skinny". Now I know they mean well and think that they are complimenting me but it seems so yucky to me. I know I am not skinny and they know I am not skinny. Am I alone in feeling this way?

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  • snowflake954
    snowflake954 Posts: 8,399 Member
    Please don't let yourself be irritated by teasing--it could have many sources and reasons. You are doing very well, and just need to keep going. Smile and say "Thank you" to all that mention it. Be happy and smile alot.
  • ValeriePlz
    ValeriePlz Posts: 517 Member
    Take it as a compliment. You may be overweight, but you probably look slimmer than you did, and they may not realize how much more you have to lose. In a few months, when you are even further toward your goal, they may see an old picture and say, "wow, I didn't realize you were that heavy!"
  • ScottishRob1
    ScottishRob1 Posts: 49 Member
    I have a great friend at work who has lost about 70 pounds over the last year. I started a few months ago and have lost nearly 40. She says the same things you mentioned every day (even though I still have about 40 pounds to go), I take it as a compliment, she is recognizing that I am losing weight and look much "skinnier" than I did 4 months ago. I think people are trying to encourage you by acknowledging that you are changing and looking better.
  • happysherri
    happysherri Posts: 1,360 Member
    Just take it as what it sounds like a compliment. Try not to overthink it. CONGRATS on the loss!!!!
  • orionaimee
    orionaimee Posts: 89 Member
    Thanks all, I do realize that they are trying to be complimentary and I truly appreciate their intent. I just feel a bit embarrassed that is all. It is motivational though to actually be "skinny" someday. :smiley:
  • lmj172
    lmj172 Posts: 8 Member
    edited May 2017
    I lost 30 pounds a few years ago and I was still not skinny by a long shot...but that was what I would hear from people "skinny!"...I loved the fact that it was noticed all the hard work I was doing. I rather hear that than hear nothing! I find myself saying g the same to others that are losing weight....it is such a hard thing to do and it was nice for people to notice! Try to be glad to see your hard work is being noticed...you wouldn't want to do all you done and no one say anything!! Would you! Be glad of your accomplishment! Hey...u inspired me to keep going! I haven't heard anyone say it to me in a while!
  • lessismoreohio
    lessismoreohio Posts: 910 Member
    snowflake954 wrote: »
    Please don't let yourself be irritated by teasing--it could have many sources and reasons. You are doing very well, and just need to keep going. Smile and say "Thank you" to all that mention it. Be happy and smile alot.

    This.
  • clicketykeys
    clicketykeys Posts: 6,575 Member
    I agree that they're probably trying to encourage you. I've just gotten to the upper end of a healthy BMI and people have started saying that if I lose any more I'm liable to get blown away by a gust of wind.

    You may not yet be at your goal, but you've already accomplished a lot. It's ok to be embarrassed, but realize you don't need to be.
  • tabletop_joe
    tabletop_joe Posts: 455 Member
    I'm the sort who would rather not be noticed at all, especially for my physicality, so I feel for you and totally understand.
  • sarahbetherck
    sarahbetherck Posts: 270 Member
    I recently lost 33lbs and there's a woman at my office who keeps telling me how skinny and inspirational I am (I'm 5'6", 180lbs and a size 10) all the while complaining about how fat she's gotten since having her kids. She's my height and a size 8. Take it all with a grain of salt but take it as the compliment it's intended to be too
  • Fitness_and_FODMAP
    Fitness_and_FODMAP Posts: 72 Member
    edited May 2017
    I'm always being told not to lose any more weight because "You're skinny enough already" which can get a bit tiresome, but I just say thanks and move on ... People are trying to be nice, so just let it go and eventually they'll stop calling you skinny and your weight loss will be old news, so you can carry on with it in peace.

    I'm 5ft 7in and weigh about 166lb so I'm far from skinny myself and it can be a bit patronising, but never mind - we're doing this for us, not for other people's approval ... Good job on your weight loss so far and good luck with the rest of your journey.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    orionaimee wrote: »
    I am down a solid amount of weight now but still about 40 lbs from my goal weight. That makes me 40lbs overweight. The issue that I am dealing with is that people have started to addressing me as "skinny" at work as in "hey skinny mini" "look at you skinny". Now I know they mean well and think that they are complimenting me but it seems so yucky to me. I know I am not skinny and they know I am not skinny. Am I alone in feeling this way?

    they're just trying to be nice...
  • cxmxd1975
    cxmxd1975 Posts: 10 Member
    I would agree, take it as a compliment and use it as motivation. IF they think you look skinnier now, just wait until they see you when you reach your goal! Keep it up!
  • bapity88
    bapity88 Posts: 98 Member
    I've lost 44 and no one other than my husband has even seemed to notice my weight loss. I'd take a "hey, skinny mini" any day. lol I understand where you're coming from though.

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