awkward question....

Stress probably!! Not sure about diet change

I feel like I've lost my sex drive... and I'm only 21! I used to be ready for it any time of the day. I thought about sex all the time. And now I'm never in the mood. This has just happened recently, as in the past 2 weeks or so. I've been saying no to my boyfriend, but we usually end up trying anyways, and then I'll just be so NOT into it that we stop.

I've looked up some possible answers and found antidepressants (not on those) or birth control (not on that either but was about 2 months ago) can be a factor, but has anyone experienced loss of sex drive for other reasons? Maybe stress? Do you think my diet change could be a factor?

This sucks!!! :sad:

My girlfriend suffers from this. Badly. Very badly. Tell me, any birth control that's new? Any feelings of "numbness" in your emotions? I feel like a damn expert on this

An awkward answer: It could be stress or depression. Those can also cause you lose interest in sex. It could also be a hormonal thing too. Since you are not on an antidepressant or BC, then those two can easily be ruled out. Have there been any changes in your life? New job? Moved to a new house/apartment? Loss of a family member (or pet)? I know that when I'm depressed or upset, my sex drive goes way down. Being a guy, that says something!

You might talk to a doctor about it.

It waxes and wanes, that's normal. Try not to worry. Just because you aren't ready at the drop of a hat, doesn't mean you can't be ready. Give yourself some time...

stress and lack of sleep and possible age. Wait until you are in your mid to late 30s! thats when you really want it, so i hear! :blushing:

I went through this when I was at my heaviest.

This is rather embarrassing...

Human fat breaks down testosterone, which is the key ingredient to someone becomming "horny" so to speak. The more fat you have on your body the more the testosterone your body produces will be broken down and turned into other things... things that dont get you in the mood.

I had trouble wanting sex, I had trouble performing and half the time would just stop... i thought I had E.D. butreally it was simply a weight issue for me... i have dropped 40 lbs so far and I have noticed a big difference in my sex drive.

Obviously I am not a woman, so this information might not help directly, but maybe it can give you another avenue to persue, or help you find the right answer. Don't be affraid to ask your Dr.

I was, but I am glad I did anyway.

Me too buddy, you're brave to say it out loud. At my heaviest, it was the WORST. I WANTED sex but could not, ahem, rise to the occasion. It just takes some time for us guys my friend. Now, I'm good to go!

I feel like I've lost my sex drive... and I'm only 21! I used to be ready for it any time of the day. I thought about sex all the time. And now I'm never in the mood. This has just happened recently, as in the past 2 weeks or so. I've been saying no to my boyfriend, but we usually end up trying anyways, and then I'll just be so NOT into it that we stop.

I've looked up some possible answers and found antidepressants (not on those) or birth control (not on that either but was about 2 months ago) can be a factor, but has anyone experienced loss of sex drive for other reasons? Maybe stress? Do you think my diet change could be a factor?

This sucks!!! :sad:

I think it's normal to go through this from time to time. . I know I have in the past for short periods of time and really think it was just things going on in life. When I was 21 I had a boyfriend who I was starting to hate and more recently because of stress. As soon as those issues were resolved I was ready to go! I wouldn't worry unless it becomes prolonged. For now, just be patient an try to relax a bit!

It has been a relatively short time, I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about it. Like so many things, worrying about it will only make it worse.

If you recently went off birth control pills, that could be at least part of the problem. What are you using instead? Are you maybe worried about that method not being effective enough? I know worrying that I might get pregnant would certainly kill my sex drive! Also, BC pills cause hormone changes and those hormones can affect quite a few things about us. Last year, I went off one type and ended up with horrible acne a month or so later. And I'm 45! I waited a few months, it didn't get any better so I went back on a different brand and it cleared my acne up again (well, as good as it ever is, anyway).

If you are very worried, see a doctor as it could be medical.
Barring that, stress and depression are a big deal.
But really, it waxes and wanes. If you have been with your bf for a long time, sometimes one doesn't have that same fiery romantic urges as before.

2 weeks isn't a huge bit of time, though your partner might disagree. A little self-romance can be beneficial too. Try that and see if it breaks the seal so you feel ready to be with your partner again.

Sounds like there are numerous possibilities. My personal experience, and im around the same age, this happened to me a few years back with a boyfriend I was with for 3 years. I loved him, things were fine, but I just wanted nothing to do with him sexually anymore. Not only in terms of him tho, but in general my sex drive was squashed. At this point in time i was healthier than ever as well. I didn't know what was going on but it ended up I was just loosing feelings and attraction for him. Things just got redundant and the spark had faded for me. I didn't realize this until my next relationship. That relationship didn't end up working out either, lol, however, I never lost the urge with him. It was all related to my feelings for the individual, not my health. Still when things aren't going right with the man I notice even by myself my sex drive is diminished.
I think sometimes women don't realize how psychologic sex really is for us.