OPINIONS PLEASE, baby fever!

Puppies are the BEST baby-fever cure. Nursing school will be tough so I vote wait. Plus, you may want to make sure you can afford mortgage payments (just in case) before committing to more expenses.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

relax !!

you re 20 ............loads of time. people are waiting till much longer these days anyway.

best advice.................. you have a baby when you and your husband want, its no one else's business. I understand about getting the schooling done etc and i evern understand your mother in law saying wait a while....... but its up to you and you alone

Its up to you obviously, having said that studying while you're pregnant might not be that easy.

WAIT!!!! Going through school and being prego is going to be hard. YOu are going to be in school and every smeel is going to make you gag..you are going to be on your feet all the time...thats going to loads of swelling. Morning sickness isnt fun to deal with with either. Trust me wait till you are done with school. It will be easier on you.

Can I ask, how long have you lived together? And being together and being married are not the same thing. Maybe there are things you might want to do before having children as a married couple? For instance, save money and go on a few trips? Hard to do that after you have kids. I think someone else mentioned buying a house? Its true it might become very difficult to do that after the child is born cuz babies seem to suck up money in a black hole lol. As well as time. Everything with a baby takes 3 times longer to do then it used to before you have a baby. Just taking a shower and getting ready to leave the house that now takes 45 mins to an hour. After a baby will take an hour and a half to 2 hours to get both of you ready and packed to go somewhere. There will be days where you and your hubby will be strangers passing in the night so to speak. And you will look at eachother and go "hi, who are you? do I know you? cuz you look familiar" but you will be to exhausted to do anything about it. lol just kidding, kind of....it isnt always like that. But sometimes it is.

Something else to consider. What if there are complications to your pregnancy that you didnt anticipate that require bed rest and could cause you to drop out before you graduate. My best advice is wait until after you have your diploma in hand and maybe even get settled into your career.

Go on a few trips do a few things that you might want to do as a married couple like take up a hobby like mountain climbing, well only you two would know what those things are. Because here I speak from experience as someone who got married at 18 to my high school sweetheart at 18 and had my first child a year later. While I love my children we missed that time together as a married couple. And there are alot of things I wish now that I had been able to do but I have had to wait. Now my children are almost grown and my oldest is 16 and I see those things coming right around the corner. But it would have been nice to not have to wait all these years.

Even though you have been together awhile, you still have a lot of time ahead of you. Mark some things off your "To Do Before We Die list" Like jump out of an airplane, bungee jump in Brazil, sail across the ocean in 6 weeks, buy tickets to paris on hotwire.com at the last min for a 3 day weekend vacation (I track it and have seen them for as cheap as 500 round trip for two tickets, no joke!) , backpack across Europe for 6 weeks (something great to do after you graduate but before you start your job) lol ok maybe I am projecting onto you a little of myself (haha) but you did ask my opinion. Hope this gives you something to chew on Good Luck!

Yep, I agree get a doggy first. Then that will really give you an idea on what to expect and how you guys could react to a child ( i.e raising/discipling/training and etc.)

It's your life, but I personally won't have a child until I have at least 5k in emergency savings, own a house (paying mortgage ok), and no CC debt (student loan debt ok).
My parents weren't young when they had my sisters and I, but they still struggled with money. I think a plan is important and the means to meet your goals. If you have that, then you have no problem.

If you are financially stable enough to have a child, perhaps you would consider adoption? There are children and infants all over the world in need of a caring family. Just look at all your options and make sure your decision is weighed carefully with logic and not emotion.

I agree here on waiting. Babies are a lot of time and work, but they sure are worth it. Puppies, and kittens, and for some even plants (such as bonzai) can help. It is important that you ensure you and your soon to be husband are able to support not only a new baby (cause they are far from cheap haha) but also yourselves. I know what it's like to want a baby and a family, especially with someone you love. Just make sure that you can do everything that is needed as a mommy before you commit to it. Good luck with whatever you choose though. Im sure you will have plenty of support here

like everyone has said, it is up to you at the end of the day.
but you did ask for opinions. and as a nurse, i suggest to you to wait.

training is difficult and it's going to take everything you've got to get through it. the distraction of morning sickness, fatigue, maybe hyperemesis, then trying to do your final placements heavily pregnant is not appealing. plus they may not allow you on certain wards or doing certain tasks if you are preggo.

i'd wait until you have a job and have been there for a few months before you start trying. i reckon that it will be helpful to have a career already established before you have kids, because they take away your focus. and the 1st few months into your new job is the steepest learning curve (much more that university).

so yeah, at the end of the day it is up to you. but you're very young (not that that makes this a bad idea- you can still be a fabulous young parent). you and your bloke sound like you have a good solid relationship. so why not get yourself a good solid career too before you end up being stretched too thin to give 100% to anything anymore?

i'm a nurse and had 6 years behind me when i had my 1st kid. i'm so pleased i did, because that meant that when i felt like crap/ hadn't slept/ was just pissed off, that i could kinda slip into autopilot abit because i knew my job so well.

good luck with whatever you decide.

Gonna add my opinion... I too have had baby fever for awhile... and I'm a lot bit older then you and been with my husband a while longer... Pets are definitely a help when it comes to easing the nurturing want. Also, you're still in school and if the nursing program is as time consuming and demanding as I have heard (I dont know from personal experience as I'm an engineer student) then you don't want to be dealing with morning sickness, dr. appts, tiredness or complications while trying to graduate. That would increase your stress immensely and could cause relationship issues from the stress.

And you're still young. Give yourself some time to adjust to be graduated and having a good job and a new marriage before you jump into having kids. Now, that doesn't mean you can't practice and if it happens it happens, but why add the burden of 'trying' to all of that. If after a year or so you haven't gotten pregnant then see your doctor and see what you can do about increasing your chances. But in my opinion jumping into it like that may do more harm then good.

Good luck with your upcoming marriage and your school.

I've always been a fan of the idea of being married for a couple years before trying to start a family. I would especially because you're still real young and have plenty of time. You should get a puppy or 2. They will help to postpone you for a little bit. You should definitely be on your own for a while as well. Get used to supporting yourself/each other before taking on another person. Also, use the next couple of years to go on couple vacations and do things together that you otherwise won't be able to do. I know you've been with your beau for a long time, but this will make your foundation even stronger.

I got married at 19 and we didn't have our first until we were 25. I'm so glad that we waited. I seriously have ALWAYS had baby fever but I'm very thankful that we waited! Especially because our son was diagnosed with autism a couple years later.

Good luck to you!

Sorry I wasn't of more help but it really and truly is up to you. You know having babies is hard, you have a plan for your life and you have a desire to have a child of your own. You know in your "gut" what the right answer for you is. Good luck to you and I wish you all the happiness in the world.