What does my body actually look like?

Jaspergirl423
Jaspergirl423 Posts: 10 Member
edited November 19 in Motivation and Support
So for as long as I can remember I've had a hard time gauging what my body looks like. Even when I was thinner I remember thinking how big I looked in pictures--now when I look back I'm realizing how thin I actually was. Which makes me think I might look thinner now than I think I do!

I know I'm technically "overweight" but I also feel like I'm right on the cusp of looking like I'm a normal weight. It's just really hard for me to judge myself and I want to know what i look like to other people.

So will you tell me how much you think I weigh? If you saw me randomly in the street, would you think I was overweight, or what would you think of my body?

Thank you so much for answering my weird questions!!!

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  • burntoutphilosopher
    burntoutphilosopher Posts: 74 Member
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  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    Does it matter what others think? If you are okay with how you look and your health markers are good then how other people see you doesn't matter. Some will think you are fat no matter what and some will think you are thin no matter what. You have no obligation to make your body look like someone else thinks it should if you are happy and healthy.
  • spartanhollis
    spartanhollis Posts: 17 Member
    madison_harrell wrote: »
    So for as long as I can remember I've had a hard time gauging what my body looks like. Even when I was thinner I remember thinking how big I looked in pictures--now when I look back I'm realizing how thin I actually was. Which makes me think I might look thinner now than I think I do!

    I know I'm technically "overweight" but I also feel like I'm right on the cusp of looking like I'm a normal weight. It's just really hard for me to judge myself and I want to know what i look like to other people.

    So will you tell me how much you think I weigh? If you saw me randomly in the street, would you think I was overweight, or what would you think of my body?

    Thank you so much for answering my weird questions!!!

    Not a weird question, and you are very brave. Gurl! I don't think I have the stones to do what you did. But you did it, which makes you a much stronger person than me! I am thinking about 140? Am I right?! >_<
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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,422 Member
    I don't know how tall you are, but it looks like maybe 5'5" or so? You have a lovely shape, and I'm sure not very much to lose. I know 5-10 pounds can make a huge difference on someone who is already fairly lean, so try that and see how you feel. :smile:
  • ccsernica
    ccsernica Posts: 1,040 Member
    edited June 2017
    Jaspergirl423 wrote: »
    I know I'm technically "overweight" but I also feel like I'm right on the cusp of looking like I'm a normal weight.

    You look slightly overweight, right on the cusp of a normal range.

    I have no idea what you weigh, partly because I have no idea how tall you are. But you don't look noticeably heavy, so I'm not going to worry about the number.
  • ThatLadyFromMN
    ThatLadyFromMN Posts: 301 Member
    150-160? Idk, I have a hard time gauging people because I'm used to lifters so they always weigh different compared to how they look.

    But ya know what, doesn't matter, I think you look good. :) I would be delighted to look like you!
  • RuNaRoUnDaFiEld
    RuNaRoUnDaFiEld Posts: 5,864 Member
    I think you have around 16lb to lose.
  • need2belean
    need2belean Posts: 358 Member
    Without a height, a weight won't really make since. If you were 6'0" I'd say you were about 180. If you were 5'0" I'd say you were about 140.
  • Jaspergirl423
    Jaspergirl423 Posts: 10 Member
    Thanks for your input everyone! I'm 5'7".
  • need2belean
    need2belean Posts: 358 Member
    Jaspergirl423 wrote: »
    Thanks for your input everyone! I'm 5'7".

    Well, I think you look great and you are brave for putting this out there and asking. For 5'7" I think you have a nice toned stomach but you have a booty which I think is normal for taller girls. I'm 6'0" and my legs are the heavier part of me too and that's where most of my weight is. For 5'7", I'd say you were 145 but weight is just a number so it really doesn't matter.
  • Jaspergirl423
    Jaspergirl423 Posts: 10 Member
    edited June 2017
    No, I guess it doesn't really matter what others think. I was just curious
  • Jaspergirl423
    Jaspergirl423 Posts: 10 Member
    edited June 2017
    No, I guess it doesn't really matter what other think. I was just curious
  • Jaspergirl423
    Jaspergirl423 Posts: 10 Member
    No, I guess it doesn't really matter what other think. I was just curious
  • Jaspergirl423
    Jaspergirl423 Posts: 10 Member
    Ahh! Its not letting me type my whole reply!
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,422 Member
    edited June 2017
    ha. :wink: Don't hit "enter."
  • Jaspergirl423
    Jaspergirl423 Posts: 10 Member
    No, I guess it doesn't really matter what other think. I was just curious! I just had my third baby about 5 months ago and I'm just having a hard time adjusting. I'm also trying to figure out a good "goal" weight, since in the past it has been too low which has led to many eating disorders and all that bad stuff. I've also been lifting for the past month or so, and I'm realizing that girls who lift look thinner than girls who don't lift at the same weight. I'm just trying to feel my way through this and thought a good starting point would be finding out what my body ACTUALLY looks like.
  • Rusty740
    Rusty740 Posts: 749 Member
    Ok, I think you're about 5'6 or 5'7" and I think you weigh about 160. If you're 5'4" I'd guess 150 lbs.

    If I saw you walking down the street I'd say you were overweight, but not obese and yes I think you're not that far off from your understanding of yourself.

    And yes, you are very brave for putting yourself out there. kudos.
  • RuNaRoUnDaFiEld
    RuNaRoUnDaFiEld Posts: 5,864 Member
    Jaspergirl423 wrote: »
    No, I guess it doesn't really matter what other think. I was just curious! I just had my third baby about 5 months ago and I'm just having a hard time adjusting. I'm also trying to figure out a good "goal" weight, since in the past it has been too low which has led to many eating disorders and all that bad stuff. I've also been lifting for the past month or so, and I'm realizing that girls who lift look thinner than girls who don't lift at the same weight. I'm just trying to feel my way through this and thought a good starting point would be finding out what my body ACTUALLY looks like.

    You look awesome for giving birth 5 months ago!
  • JJS1979
    JJS1979 Posts: 177 Member
    Chef_Barbell wrote: »
    Nope not stepping in this mine field. :laugh:

    This is just like "do these jeans make me look big?"

    Haha...this ^^^^. But seriously, I understand what you are trying to accomplish and have asked myself similar questions. At the end of the day, what someone else thinks should not impact your self image. The real question is do you feel healthy? Do you have energy? Are you stronger? Those the the questions. If the answer is yes then just keep doing what you are doing. If it is no, then make the appropriate adjustments until YOU feel good. Easier said than done but that I think needs to be the true measure. Goodluck!
  • sijomial
    sijomial Posts: 19,809 Member
    I've been married almost 34 years and have learned never to answer the "does my *kitten* look big in this?" type of question. :)

    Would never have guessed you so recently gave birth - well done you.
  • JJS1979
    JJS1979 Posts: 177 Member
    RuNaRoUnDaFiEld wrote: »
    Jaspergirl423 wrote: »
    No, I guess it doesn't really matter what other think. I was just curious! I just had my third baby about 5 months ago and I'm just having a hard time adjusting. I'm also trying to figure out a good "goal" weight, since in the past it has been too low which has led to many eating disorders and all that bad stuff. I've also been lifting for the past month or so, and I'm realizing that girls who lift look thinner than girls who don't lift at the same weight. I'm just trying to feel my way through this and thought a good starting point would be finding out what my body ACTUALLY looks like.

    You look awesome for giving birth 5 months ago!

    I missed this...yes, I never would have know you gave birth 5 months ago, that is pretty incredible.
  • trazter31
    trazter31 Posts: 51 Member
    I would say you look around 145-150. You actually look perfect to me, not overweight. :) You probably just need to "tone up" a bit but don't need to lose pounds.
  • elfin168
    elfin168 Posts: 202 Member
    I think you look healthy, voluptuous and attractive, and that any weight you were to lose from now would be vanity weight to achieve a look rather than from any health perspective. and ps i envy you your curves ! I am very straight up and down!
  • cs2thecox
    cs2thecox Posts: 533 Member
    Jaspergirl423 wrote: »
    No, I guess it doesn't really matter what other think. I was just curious! I just had my third baby about 5 months ago and I'm just having a hard time adjusting. I'm also trying to figure out a good "goal" weight, since in the past it has been too low which has led to many eating disorders and all that bad stuff. I've also been lifting for the past month or so, and I'm realizing that girls who lift look thinner than girls who don't lift at the same weight. I'm just trying to feel my way through this and thought a good starting point would be finding out what my body ACTUALLY looks like.

    5 months after 3rd baby? WOW! Impressed.

    But here's a totally upfront and straightforward question. Why does your goal have to be a WEIGHT?
    I know that they're easy to measure and monitor, but you've already started to understand the difference that lifting can make.
    Maybe you target a waist measurement, thigh measurement or body fat percentage? All of these can get you to the look you're after, and still give you a goal to work towards, while helping you move away from weight as an absolute target.

    I've been lifting for about a year now, and am the smallest I've been in years, but also nearly the heaviest. I don't even have scales in my house any more, and just go on how my clothes fit. I have my trainer measure my body fat every couple of months, which lets me know whether I'm on the right track or not.
    Moving away from weight as my goal was one of the most liberating things I've done! I used to be totally weight-obsessed as I was a cox'n for rowing, and had really specific (horribly low) weights to make for that. I needed to break away from associating a number on the scales with winning...
  • Jaspergirl423
    Jaspergirl423 Posts: 10 Member
    cs2thecox wrote: »
    Jaspergirl423 wrote: »
    No, I guess it doesn't really matter what other think. I was just curious! I just had my third baby about 5 months ago and I'm just having a hard time adjusting. I'm also trying to figure out a good "goal" weight, since in the past it has been too low which has led to many eating disorders and all that bad stuff. I've also been lifting for the past month or so, and I'm realizing that girls who lift look thinner than girls who don't lift at the same weight. I'm just trying to feel my way through this and thought a good starting point would be finding out what my body ACTUALLY looks like.

    5 months after 3rd baby? WOW! Impressed.

    But here's a totally upfront and straightforward question. Why does your goal have to be a WEIGHT?
    I know that they're easy to measure and monitor, but you've already started to understand the difference that lifting can make.
    Maybe you target a waist measurement, thigh measurement or body fat percentage? All of these can get you to the look you're after, and still give you a goal to work towards, while helping you move away from weight as an absolute target.

    I've been lifting for about a year now, and am the smallest I've been in years, but also nearly the heaviest. I don't even have scales in my house any more, and just go on how my clothes fit. I have my trainer measure my body fat every couple of months, which lets me know whether I'm on the right track or not.
    Moving away from weight as my goal was one of the most liberating things I've done! I used to be totally weight-obsessed as I was a cox'n for rowing, and had really specific (horribly low) weights to make for that. I needed to break away from associating a number on the scales with winning...

    Very true! Thanks for saying that! It's incredibly hard for me to get away from the scale since I've been focused on it for SO LONG. I've been getting better about measuring my progress other ways, it's just a really hard habit to break! Especially since I want to get back to where I was a few years ago, but I didn't lift them, and realize I might look the same at a higher weight.
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