12 hours of crying.

Hi I have similar probs , have been a member on here now for a month & have lost 11lb - life probably feels bad at the minute but it will get better -I take small steps every day ie instead of living on sandwiches replace some with low fat ready meals take 1 day at a time -& if you do slip up dont hate yourself for it ! start afresh tomorrow & I BET AFTER A WEEK OR SO you will be posting about your weight loss - feel free to add me as a friend -chin up - Dave

I'm so sorry, hon! That is a lot to take in one day. I've been at rock bottom before (not necessarily with weight issues, but with other really difficult things), and have cried for days (weeks, months...) over them. But it does sound like you've got family and friends who care about you, so that's good. And there's plenty of support and motivation here. Change is difficult, and results don't happen overnight, but you CAN do this. One step at a time. Focus on small, achievable goals.

Don't give up. Never quit. Never quit on yourself. You can't change what you did yesterday. Focus on what you are going to do today. Love yourself a little bit, to heal some of the hurt inside. Take a few minutes to write down your good qualities, the things you like about yourself. Then call a friend and tell them you need some support. Don't go into the whole story, because it's too fresh, just ask them to say something nice to you, about you.

My advice for moving forward? Start with the smallest changes you feel comfortable with. If the best you can do right now is not gain anymore, then that's where you start. Believe me, if I had just focused on NOT GAINING 5 years ago, I'd be 20 pounds better off than I am today.

During times when our hearts are broken, it's very tempting to ignore the negative effects of the small things we do to make ourselves feel better. Maybe you could start by not eating any of that candy they keep in the house. It's hard, I know it's hard, believe me, but I also know you can do it. You already know what the candy tastes like, and let's face it, it's not really as good in our mouths as it is in our minds. We imagine it tastes better than it really does. And it definitely doesn't make us FEEL good in our hearts when it's clouded by that that little sting of guilt.

Try this exercise: Imagine yourself having the BEST dessert you can imagine. Take your time thinking about it. Imagine having it in Paris, or some place you think is equally special. Then imagine slowly taking the first bite. Savor it. Really try to imagine what it would taste like. Then have two more bites. Savoring each one as much as the first. Then...imagine putting down the spoon or the fork, gently folding your napkin next to the plate, and walking off happily into the sunshiny day, fulling satisfied, strong, smiling a joyful smile, and facing the future.

THAT's got to be better than any lame old piece of store-bought candy. And satisfying on the inside, because you WILL be that woman one day soon.

Take all the emotions and energy that you have now, and turn them into something positive. Love yourself..... And in turn loving yourself will help you on this journey that we are all on.. Don't be sad, be hopefully, today is a new day..:flowerforyou:

You can do it. You have got something great going for you already. You are a beautiful girl! So, if your starting at the top, you have got a head start! If I can do it, anyone can. I was depressed and about ready to give up, but the people at MFP made it all worthwhile again for me. God bless them all. And they will be there for you everyday as I will. Remember that.

I'm so sorry, I know how bad that hurts...You are the only one who can make the decision to change...I've gone through years of people telling me I'm not healthy, and getting ugly looks from people. I would block it out and hold it inside the best I could. I started on this weight loss journey when I was ready to do it for myself. When I was tired of waking up hurting every morning. I know it's inside of you!! Just always remember to love yourself first, and know that you deserve the best

Sorry you had a terrible day! Children are cruel and don't censor their rude comments, and I definitely got teased alot for being an overweight child. But then, at some point in your adult life, you let go of at least some of your insecurities when you realize that not every person on the street is judging you. (This took time for me. In college I still literally was still scared to walk to the teacher's desk to hand in my test or whatever because I thought everyone in the class would stare at me.) So to have multiple people pointing it out, even out of love, is like a big reality slap in the face.