My fiancée makes me feel bad about her own insecurity.
jbanuelos16
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I weigh more than she does. There is no denying that. But there are times when she disregards my own body issues and makes it seem like she's the only one with a weight issue.
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As a woman, I feel like society puts more pressure on women to be thin. Maybe this is the case? You mentioned she's your fiancee so maybe she's thinking about her wedding day and how's she's gonna look? Talk to her about your feelings and concerns.4
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jbanuelos16 wrote: »I weigh more than she does. There is no denying that. But there are times when she disregards my own body issues and makes it seem like she's the only one with a weight issue.
Why not work on losing weight together?2 -
Are there other times when it's all about her? If so, you might want to take a closer look at what you're getting into.2
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Pay attention to red flags or behaviors that can develop into a deal breaking scenario. Bring it to her attention in a matter of fact non confrontational way, evaluate her response, and determine for yourself what you'll be willing to accept.2
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Disregards them how? Do you mean that she thinks that your extra pounds don't diminish your attractiveness as much as she worries that hers do?
PS There was a time when I thought I could use my self disdain as a source of motivation to push through to a slimmer me. It worked, in the short term. Not in the long term. I now focus on congratulating myself for healthful behaviours instead. Meaning I think you should work to let go of thoughts of body insecurities if you can, and just focus on developing healthy behaviours. Get there using positivity rather than negativity and you'll have tools/habits that will lead to lasting health and fitness.1 -
That's a cryptic OP that leave an abundance of room for speculation. What's going on that you want us to speculate about?2
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People are inherently greedy. You mentioned fiance, which means there is a wedding coming up. The wedding is all about the woman, so yeah, she's probably going to freak out about her weight. Learn to work and grow together or you will work to grow apart.3
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TavistockToad wrote: »jbanuelos16 wrote: »I weigh more than she does. There is no denying that. But there are times when she disregards my own body issues and makes it seem like she's the only one with a weight issue.
Why not work on losing weight together?TavistockToad wrote: »jbanuelos16 wrote: »I weigh more than she does. There is no denying that. But there are times when she disregards my own body issues and makes it seem like she's the only one with a weight issue.
Why not work on losing weight together?TavistockToad wrote: »jbanuelos16 wrote: »I weigh more than she does. There is no denying that. But there are times when she disregards my own body issues and makes it seem like she's the only one with a weight issue.
Why not work on losing weight together?TavistockToad wrote: »jbanuelos16 wrote: »I weigh more than she does. There is no denying that. But there are times when she disregards my own body issues and makes it seem like she's the only one with a weight issue.
Why not work on losing weight together?Geocitiesuser wrote: »People are inherently greedy. You mentioned fiance, which means there is a wedding coming up. The wedding is all about the woman, so yeah, she's probably going to freak out about her weight. Learn to work and grow together or you will work to grow apart.
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I guess I can say that we both have been under a lot of stress. So many things are up in the air at once and trying to plan a wedding as well as some other personal matters come into play at one time. Right now we're just trying our best at working on ourselves for our future together. We both have our moments ☺️0
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