People Telling you to Stop Losing Already
kksmom1789
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my younger sister has always been smaller then me in weight we are about the same height she is 4ft 11in and I am 5ft even I have been over weight for as long as she can remember I am now down into the 140's and she has been gaining as is now in the 150's the last few times I have seen her she is constantly telling me that I am not going to lose anymore pounds I am as skinny as my body is going to allow and I need to just start toning I just got into the overweight section on the bmi chart my goal is only 125lbs which is the high end of the chart for normal. is she correct or is she just jealous and trying to make me not lose anymore weight?
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Drop some pics2
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She's jealous, don't let her stop you from reaching your goals.10
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At some point it won't really be about the scale - it'll be about health and fitness. If you're getting close to your goal then you'll prob want to start some lifting to tone your muscle.
Don't get hung up on the weight... and don't get hung up on her vision for you. You got this!
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She's incorrect, but I wouldn't jump to saying she's jealous. She may just not be used to seeing you so small so to her you look thin enough already.
My SO is always going on about how thin I am. I still need to lose 15 lbs to hit the top of the normal range on the bmi chart.8 -
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I can definitely see you dropping down some more. Keep it up11
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Judging from your pics, I think you're doing fine. As others have said, it's not always about the number on the scale, but also about how you feel. If you're feeling healthy and you want to keep working for 125, that is a decision for you to make, not your sister. I agree with everher: I wouldn't jump to saying she's jealous. She may be genuinely concerned, but you're the one in your body.
As a side note, keep in mind that BMI charts are helpful, but I don't take them as gospel. I'm 5'9" with a lot of muscle. According to "the charts" my ideal weight range is 128 to 168. Several years ago I was 190 and in great shape. I don't even know if I can make it to 168 without looking sick. Stick to what makes you feel healthy!4 -
Your sister is insecure and probably a little jealous. You're doing a great job! Keep on keeping on!5
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Keep going!0
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You look fantastic!0
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I've found that the worst people to get input from are the people who know and love me most. Doesn't stop them from giving it, unfortunately, but I can always grit my teeth change the subject. That's been my experience.1
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Being used to 'before', it is probably a little jarring to see you so much smaller. People dislike change but it will be a new normal eventually.6
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If you're losing and she's gaining, I would definitely say she's jealous. Keep up the good work.
(Uh, not in making her jealous. In losing the weight you'd like to lose. )4 -
Keep it up your doing a great job0
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Keep up the good work and keep heading towards your goal....0
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Unless she sees that you're not eating enough and are going to unhealthy lengths to lose more, her comment is not based on medical fact. I wouldn't say she's necessarily jealous: but maybe she worries that your weight is a judgment of her, or maybe she worries that if you change too much your relationship with her will change. If you're close, try talking with her.6
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kksmom1789 wrote: »my younger sister has always been smaller then me in weight we are about the same height she is 4ft 11in and I am 5ft even I have been over weight for as long as she can remember I am now down into the 140's and she has been gaining as is now in the 150's the last few times I have seen her she is constantly telling me that I am not going to lose anymore pounds I am as skinny as my body is going to allow and I need to just start toning I just got into the overweight section on the bmi chart my goal is only 125lbs which is the high end of the chart for normal. is she correct or is she just jealous and trying to make me not lose anymore weight?
Why are these the only options? Can't she be wrong without having a bad motivation (jealousy)? Maybe she's so used to seeing you heavier that you look unnaturally thin to her now (this is very common). Maybe she's just picked up a lot of woo on the Internet about what people's bodies will "allow."
*Edited to fix quote formatting.4 -
You look amazing, well done!
She may be jealous, but even if she's not I've noticed that people -especially slightly heavier people- often misjudge weight. If I lost a lb every time someone told me I was "too skinny to lose" when I was a good 20lbs overweight, or estimated me to be lighter by a vast amount!
Just keep going, you will know in yourself when you have reached your goals - not to say a bit of lifting wouldn't make you look/feel even better!0 -
Yep, she is insecure, jealous, and full of *kitten*.0
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I agree with everyone else - don't listen to your sister.
I'm your same height. I started at around 155 and I'm now at 106. That's just with a calorie deficit, I haven't made any real effort at toning yet so her comment is just wrong. Your progress is amazing, so if you want to lose more, I think you absolutely can just by continuing to do what you're doing. Yes, it's harder to lose weight the more you've already lost, but that doesn't mean it's impossible, it just may be a bit of a slower process. You may have to recalculate your calorie goal because of your weight loss, but otherwise, you seem to be doing fantastic and I think you shouldn't let any negative comments dissuade you.1
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